I loved the poem.
Made me think of what my father said shortly before he died in 1979,
"If you can't remember me in laughter, don't remember me at all". Not sure if he was the one who came up with that or not, it could be from a western or someone else he admired over the years.
But I still remember and laugh. I even had a recording of his voice --- on a cassette of all things, but it's voice. We have no video, lots of pics too.
I wrote a poem about him a few years later that focused on the memories I had of him while I was growing up.
Prayers and thoughts to you Gwyn and to your family.