If you want her not to, make sure you use a batting that doesn't require the quilting to be close. Some battings require to be quilted at least every 6,8 or 10 inches. It the quilt will be hanging, after a while, it may not hold the shape well if it is not quilted tight. I have made a lot of quilts with cross stitch. My first few were quilted with a square around the cross stitch and I didn't like the way they looked...too puffy on the stitched area. I now either quilt up to the cross stitch, as close as possible, or if I feel very daring, I stipple over the cross stitch with monofilament. I would not ask anyone else to do that for me. I have not ruined a cross stitch yet. Show it when is done.