Oh my gosh, you are so right. it is tough. We got caught during our second ten yrs. when Viet Nam broke out. He was on an aircraft carrier & was the first to respond when 2 of the battleships were hit.
He was gone 7 of our last 10 yrs. Yes, it was tough. We ended up married 50 yrs. though so we must have done something right.
I lost him 2 yrs. ago so I lost my real buddy.
Pat