Gwen, I could spout all sorts of advice and such but it's all already been said. All I can do is tell you exactly how I ded it when I was in your situation 21 years ago. My infant daughter died at 3 month, 10 days, some odd hours. She was born with a genetic disorder, had a heart attack and died. I was so devasted you couldn't imagine. I can only imagine how hard it is to bury your life's partner. It is much much worse to bury your own child. People ask me now how I survived something like that and this is what I tell them: I start out only making it through 1 second at a time. I go that way until I can make it through a minute at a time. I then grandually increase that till I can make it through an hour at a time. Before I know it whold days have passed and I haven't cried oover her all day. That is the way you have to do it. It has now been since 1989 that she died and I miss her every single day of my life