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    Failure OR Success

    My signature often reflects a quote about failure - I change it from time to time. I've failed many times. In my school years I was the youngest in my class and I failed all the time. I sat in during recess, sat by the teacher, had to take remedial classes during the summer time. It wasn't until I graduated in the top half of the high school class that I realized there were other failures out there. Here I thought it was just me. I struggled with sewing - my mom would not let me quit. She stubbornly made me keep at it - bless her for making me stick with a LOT of frustration. Anyway here are some pictures of failures... they didn't get that far with out getting back up and trying again... http://mashable.com/2014/02/21/olympic-wipe-outs/
    Never let a sewing machine know you are in a hurry.

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    Some of my biggest failures have turned into forever successes ....

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    I feel sorry for the students of today where all their efforts are praised. If you don't learn how to handle failure early in life, you are going to have a struggle in the "real" world.

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    I have always told my kids as long as they have done their best that is all that matters. Everyone reaches their own level of best at least once.

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    I tell my kids that as long as they do their best, that is the best they can do...no point worrying about it any more. If they didn't practice or prepare well enough, then they learned what to do for next time, and learning is good.

    It's easy for me to accept that now, but I can recall being young and not finding philosophy so helpful...
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    http://mashable.com/2014/02/21/olympic-wipe-outs/
    don't forget to look at the pictures - you have to scroll down
    Yes - you are right the success based education may be a failure but the feelings of failure aren't good either. I think there has to be a middle where you work with the failure and turn it around. No shame in failing - just in not trying or not attempting to try it again.
    Never let a sewing machine know you are in a hurry.

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    Success is not final. Failure is not fatal.
    It is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill


    Love your signature line!
    Agree with the sentiments expressed by you and the others here too - too often people don't let kids understand that frustration is a normal part of life and you'd best learn to handle it.
    A young couple I know "practised" walking with their young child every day because the child didn't like to fall and would cry with frustration. When I said I didn't think any kid I ever knew had to have their parents' "practise" with them, I got nasty looks. Should have used my inside voice I guess!

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    The only true failure is letting failure stop you. True success is to keep getting up and moving forward

    As a software engineer, we have a saying for our coding "Garbage in = garbage out" Or in other words.... "You get out what you put in" Plant success, happiness, growth and fun.....and life will be good! Failure is part of life, but it doesnt have to be all of your life.

    HUGS! (sorry for all the platitudes, am still short O2 so a little light headed, but still happy!)

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    The good thing is that you've SUCCESSFULLY learned to overcome them.

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    I also think part of being successful is learning where your abilities lie. I'm glad my parents let me sew, not decide I should keep struggling to be an athlete! Beating your head against the wall in repeated failures may be brave and show tenacity, but it could also be telling you that you are barking up the wrong tree, and should try something else!

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    Quote Originally Posted by quiltmom04 View Post
    I also think part of being successful is learning where your abilities lie. I'm glad my parents let me sew, not decide I should keep struggling to be an athlete! Beating your head against the wall in repeated failures may be brave and show tenacity, but it could also be telling you that you are barking up the wrong tree, and should try something else!
    For some people things do come easy for some of us it is a struggle - an old friend of mine was encouraging me to learn to do batik 30 years ago. He said we all start out not knowing what to do but if you do it enough and often enough you will get good at it. Of course my results were not the same as a graphic artist's but I was able to learn to do it, have some fun at it and like the results I got. No I did not stick with it - it was messy and expensive - lots of fun though.... HHHHMMMMM I wonder if I still have the tools...........
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    Failure gives us a chance to try again.

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    That's inspiring and encouraging, but looking at those pictures I can't help but feel thankful for missing out on some of those pains! If you mess up a quilt or algebra class at least it can't usually put you in the hospital or the morgue!
    True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you donít need to regularly escape from. ~Brianna Wiest

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    IMHO, failure is when you quit trying !!! You are absolutely NOT a failure if you kept at things all these years.
    Congratulations to you & your mom (for not letting you give up).
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    I have always told our children, do the best you can and that is all that is expected. I also remind them, if they spend their lives trying to make everyone else happy, then their gonna have a miserable life. Follow your dreams and make yourself happy 1st. Within reason of course!
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    Like so many others, I always told our three kids to do the best they could do.
    It isn't over until its over. Always time to get better at whatever you want.
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    This life is the only one you get - enjoy it before you lose it.

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    Anybody can do anything once - it is getting good at it that takes practice.
    Never let a sewing machine know you are in a hurry.

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    My parents raised us to be honest, trustworthy people. Give it your all and don't quit just because something is hard.
    Don't measure success by another person's ruler, use your own.


    Be true to yourself, and you will never be a failure.
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