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    OT Adoption Records - Colorado?

    I find it easier to surf the Internet in the middle of the night because the web is usually faster. I got started looking for Adoption Records tonight and need some input of who can request these records.

    My husband's oldest sister (now deceased) is/was 20 1/2 years older than he is. He doesn't know much about her younger life. We think she had a baby boy out of wedlock when she was 18 and surrendered him for adoption. We know that he is looking for her. Can DH get these records? Or does it have have to come from her? Can her younger daughter get the records? Wouldn't he be astonished to learn he had 5 half siblings?

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    Good Morning---

    While I do not know the correct answer, I wish you lots of luck. It sounds like your dh just wants to find the rest of his family. If you know where the mother was when the baby was born, perhaps your dh and his nieces/nephews, could leave letters of their interest in finding him. If you know his name, look on Facebook too. Don't give up, however. In our small town, a mature (40-50) year old adoptee just found her family last year. Again, good luck to your dh and his family...all of them!

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    Thanks for starting this post. My cousin (50ish), was adopted, and has recently asked family if anyone knows anything about his biological parent/s. Thus far, no leads for him. I get the impression from responses to his quest, that, back then, it was a time that no one spoke of these things (adoption). Sorry I do not have an answer for you, but will be curious to see any help from others and good luck in your search.

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    Of course your husband would be related but I would think her daughter would have a better chance. good luck.

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    My adopted brother went from thinking he was an only child to finding out he had a rather large family. He found out through his first adopted mother (long story) and my parents helped him figure out the whys and wherefores...wish I had more information to share, but I don't and can't get any more as he is now deceased. I do remember that it involved interaction with the courts in the city where he was born, but that's about it...and I think his first adopted mother had to give consent or something to that effect. Sorry I can't offer more help.
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    Since her son is wanting to find out info (& he is her direct descendant), I would think he could find out. Try googling it & see if that sheds any more light on it. I don't know if the "rules" are federal or if it goes state by state. You might also try looking at some adoption sites online -- maybe they have instructions or suggestions about how to go about it. He can't be the only person who wants to do this.
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    Have your sister-in-law give her contact information to the adoption agency that handled the adoption. Also she needs give her written permission to give out her information to her son. If the adoption agency has closed, contact the agency that is handling the records. I would assume a state agency is probably involved.

    I know a friend who was adopted from The Tennessee Children's Adoption Agency about 60+years ago. Due to some illegal activity by the director and a judge, the state opened the adoption records to the children that were adopted during that period of time. My friend's brother was able to find his biological mother and half sister. They could not find anyone in her family, but through the records she received, she was able to research the genealogy of her birth parents. In researching the genealogy, she found a living cousin on one parent's side who was open to talking to her.

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    I just reread your note. Since you sister-in-law is deceased, have your husband give permission for his contact information to be given to the nephew if that is possible.

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    Has he considered that his sister that is almost 21 years older than he, is really his birth mother. Sometimes when a girl has an out of wedlock child, her parents adopt the child. That could explain to him where that child went---nowhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jeank View Post
    Has he considered that his sister that is almost 21 years older than he, is really his birth mother. Sometimes when a girl has an out of wedlock child, her parents adopt the child. That could explain to him where that child went---nowhere.
    I wondered about that too, but my dh is 20 years older than his baby sister. His parents really were parents to two "only" children. She is just four years older than our dd.

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    I wish you luck on your journey. A dear friend just found her birth family and she is in her mid-50s. A LOT of shenanigans went on back then with adoptions. Hope you find your answers and that you are happy with them.
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    to the county seat where the adoption took place. If you can, hire a lawyer. He will be able to grease the wheels for you. Take your own id along in case you have to provide it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KarenSimon View Post
    I find it easier to surf the Internet in the middle of the night because the web is usually faster. I got started looking for Adoption Records tonight and need some input of who can request these records.

    My husband's oldest sister (now deceased) is/was 20 1/2 years older than he is. He doesn't know much about her younger life. We think she had a baby boy out of wedlock when she was 18 and surrendered him for adoption. We know that he is looking for her. Can DH get these records? Or does it have have to come from her? Can her younger daughter get the records? Wouldn't he be astonished to learn he had 5 half siblings?

    If you have ANY names (family), dates, places, etc.. you could start with Ancestry.com. Start with YOUR family tree, then grow out. Each time you add people you have a chance of finding other people looking into some of your people. I have had to fill in ALL the information for my (NOW), very large family. I was always told I was an ONLY CHILD (I knew I had a half sister from my fathers first wife - no big deal), but about 5 years ago I got a phone call out of the BLUE from a women saying she was a sister from my moms first husband (it turns out my mom had 4 kids, before me & NEVER talked about them). This whole other family has been VERY kind to me, knowing that I have had a hard time with all of this (feeling my whole life was a lie, trying to understand, trying to get to know people who had always been looking for the missing mother, etc...). As it sits I'm the only one who has answers for these other people (my mother is alive, but NOT talking), I'm the only person with medical information about family. But putting it onto Ancestry, I've been able to fill in blanks for everyone (even about these peoples father who I didn't know, but who has passed away. I have found his older brothers kids and they have helped fill in information from that side), I know it takes time but you don't have to do it all in a day. You and your family will need to remember, not every one is ready to jump in with both feet. Your husband has had (little as it is), more information than the boy his sister had. So be ready to take it as slow as the slowest person wants, just so no body feels like they have been HIT BY A BUS!!!! Good luck, you can always PM me & I can give you some other information that might help in your search.

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    I am dealing with a slightly different issue but in the same vain. I found out, just before my mother died that she had been born out of wedlock. I can't fathom the way her whole family kept this secret for so long. She was born at home and as a result did not even have a birth certificate. Her father apparently skipped town. I have his name, Charles Mc/Mac Donald
    he was from Oakville, Ontario. I have been trying for several years to find information about him, his is a very common name in Canada. It does explain why I, two of my children and four of my grandchildren have red hair.
    Kaye Jacobson Salverda

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    Try adoption.com, you can post as the adoptee or search for an adopted person. List all the pertinent information from your husband's sister, name, birthdate, location and that she surrendered a baby boy for adoption, his birthdate, location, and that he has 5 1/2 siblings looking for him and your contact information.
    I'll be praying he is actively looking too and will contact you.

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    What a tangled web we weave.
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    My oldest is adopted. In KY the adoption agency can only release information if there is a letter from the birth mother, stating that this is OK. My child spent about 15 years trying to locate her. He finally had enough information, but no name, to track her down through a web site. Sorry, he could not remember the site. Kinda lost all interest when his b-mother, told his to leave her alone, and quit harrassing her. This was after one note, and a picture of a newborn son.

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    I wish I had a clue as to who my birth mother was, I only know I was adopted . When my grandmother told me i was adopted I was 7. later I learned what adopted meant. I was always to embarrased to ask my parents. I Have been twice to court house and secretary wouldnt let me talk to the judge , saying I need a birth name, and that everyone i am searching for is probably deceased. Therefore, I only know I am adopted. I did have a wonderful life, many cousins, was well provided for and I accept the fact I have no distant history, so I cant do any geneology. Happy in Okla

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    [QUOTE=KarenSimon;5357926]I find it easier to surf the Internet in the middle of the night because the web is usually faster. I got started looking for Adoption Records tonight and need some input of who can request these records.
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    I'm also looking for old records, death records. In 1952, on his 50th birthday, my father walked out on Mom and 7 children, the youngest 18 months!!! He took all the pictures of him...so no pics to give to cops. We had lost track of his side of the family years before, but last month I got in touch with 3 cousins. They said Dad's sister told them in LATE 1952 that Dad was back in Yuma, AZ. She "Found" us in 1972 and visited but never told her own son or brothers.
    Leslie George Byrd...all we want is where he is buried. We admit that we probably have half siblings but don't want to
    bother them, we have some here we suspect are kin. Duplicates of 3 of us, found by family. Right ages too!!

    Some states seem to guard such records like they were state secrets, others cheerfully open all their records to all.
    And I'm still discovering masses of stuff about my Dad's family, I like what I've found. Good, solid citizens, military
    or police, or military then police, almost all the Byrds/Birds seem to carry badges. Irish and German, that's Dad's side, which I did not know.

    Sorry, just got carried away with researching online. You might try different states around CO, people do tend to
    move around quickly. And sometimes they move not very far away at all. I've read of father and son both going to
    work at the same place and finding out later they were kin!!!!

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    Try Troy Dunn. He & a partner have an agency down in FL that specializes in finding adopteds. I can't think of the company name tho. He just had a show on TV not long ago reuniting people. He helped me find my oldest & middle son. Just google his name & his history should come up. They can find anybody!

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    I just googled Troy Dunn. His show was The Locator. Check him out, believe me, HE'S FOR REAL!

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    Ramona-Go online to cemeteries where you think your father may be buried. There has been an effort for cemeteries to list those buried. Unfortunately, with so many cremations these days not everyone is buried.

    Betsy- Who is that clerk to tell you that you can't talk to the judge? If you really want to find out your history, maybe you know someone who knows the judge and you could "meet" that way. The judge would probably be upset to know that such a simple request was denied. The clerk is on a power trip...it's the only power that sad individual has.
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    [QUOTE=coopah;5365860]Ramona-Go online to cemeteries where you think your father may be buried. There has been an effort for cemeteries to list those buried. Unfortunately, with so many cremations these days not everyone is buried.
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    DARN!!! We should have thought of Cremation, since most of the family believe in it. We've all been so
    concentrating on burials that it never entered our minds!!! Which brings us back to Arizona's fussy laws about
    death certificates. We don't mind the information they want, we can show birth certificates and such, but we really
    need place and date. Maybe I'll try one of these online sites that find arrest records going back a lot of years. Dear
    old dad was a drunk and a loud one at that...his father was Irish and probably got it from him. His mother was a dear
    old German but came from a pacifist family..Quakers/Amish and Mennonites.
    I'll try the online PIs..thanks for the interest.

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    Ramona please don't equate Irish and drunkard. It offends. My father was Irish and never touched a drop, for religious reasons. It sure is annoying when people assume.

    I hope you find info about your Dad. There surely is information out there, but privacy laws are a serious obstacle in some places. Can you access voter registrations from the years shortly after he disappeared?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Latrinka View Post
    What a tangled web we weave.
    So true. It kind of reminds me of "Be careful what you wish for"...
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