So, this isn't really a big drama, but I just finished my second quilt ever and it was a baby quilt I made for an old friend and his fiance for their new baby.
I spent a lot of time and money on it, and although it was a good practice quilt, it was always meant to be a gift to them and a lot of thought went into it. Once their daughter was born I put her name and birthdate on the label and sent it off Tuesday.
I sent a message to him via Facebook letting him know a package was coming and he replied to me saying thanks, even though he didn't know what it was.
The package should have arrived Wednesday and I haven't heard anything at all and am just a little disappointed that he either didn't like it at all, or didn't send a quick message to say it's arrived or say thanks again once he saw it.
Am I expecting too much?

Maybe if your country is like ours the postal office has some bad points about it. They don't always deliver when they say they will. Give him time and he will probably respond soon.

I agree! Sometimes doing the proper thing gets put off. Maybe he is just hoping to catch you on chat of facebook to say thanks "in person".

Hope you find out soon.

True, maybe. It's just that he's normally very quick to send me either text messages or messages on Facebook, but I'm probably just being paranoid. I have been so excited about the quilt and the thought of them loving it that it never occurred to me that they may not be as excited.

They may just be too busy with the new bundle of joy. Give it some time. Maybe in a week or two, send him another message just to ask, if he received it.

I agree - first babies are not only a lot of work, but hard to make yourself do much else but stare at them! Let's see, go stare at this wonderful person who has come into our lives or look on a computer. I choose babies over computers every time.

Ditto -- but if you can't wait that long (yeah, I know, my nerves get frayed if I just don't know if a package has arrived or not), give them a phone call....

My first thought was that their brains may just be so fried withthe new little one that the thought just trully escaped him to let you know that the package arrived ok. I'm sure they loved the quilt and you are worrying too much about if they will like it or not. Call them!

Thanks for the advice everyone, I'll wait a few days and then contact them.

I get anxious too when I mail a package. I've had one get lost more than once.

I agree. In fact, this just reminded me that I have two thank you notes due.

I always hand write a thank-you. I feel it is more personal..Maybe he is corky like me.

A few years ago my neice was having a baby. I didn't have much time so I bought a really soft large piece of fleece and simply serged the edges. Sent it to her, and never heard a word. Now she has a second baby and came to visit my daughter. I had vowed I wouldn't make another blanket.

I fell in love with the new baby. And, lo and behold she tells me that she still has the blanket I made for her first child. So, I guess she thought more of it than I perceived that she did. So yeah, I made another quilt and sent it off for the new baby. Didn't get a thank you for that one either, but decided that it doesn't mean they don't appreciate it, they just don't always say so...

Im sure you're really anxious to know what they think about the quilt - but unfortunately if they're non-quilters they just won't realise all the love and care that went into the making. I'm sure they're just exhausted with the new baby too.

They'll probably show it to everyone else though!! :thumbup:

He probably thinks the "thanks" he gave you to begin with is enough.

If he is a good friend give him a call or a note on facebook and ask. He may have just been busy with the new baby.

And again if it is like the post office here , they might not have gotten it yet . i have sent many things recently and when i followed up with pm's to make sure the items were received, nope, not received and I paid extra for hand stamping not machine processing and one person told me they received the envelope ripped open :hunf:

And new babies are a lot of work. just send him a short note, saying : hey just want to make sure you received the package !" Can't hurt :lol:

So far I've been very lucky and gotten a personal thank you, cards,phone calls for each quilt I have given away. Would not give another one without acknowledgement. My time and fabrics are worth that much.

Well here is what I think :) One he is a guy. Bad excuse but he is a guy and most don't understand the time, effort and money that goes into something like that. Two if his fiancee doesn't know you and especially since they aren't married she may not feel that it is her responsibility to write a thank you. And third if they are of my generation (I'm in my 20's) they probably didn't even think to write one. In general we are very ungrateful with gifts. I am sure they love it but won't even consider writing a thank you. It really frustrates me as I am sure it does you. All my friends are at the prime age to be getting married and having babies. Yet I rarely get any sort of thank you. My mom always made me write them when I was little and I always do now as an adult but I rarely see them back in return. I guess my generation is just lazy. Or people are lazy in general. I have yet to see any thank you's from anyone in my DH's family. We've been married 4 years (together for 7) and have not seen one yet. Anyways now that I have ranted just don't take it too personally. I am sure they loved the quilt but they just may never get around to saying anything. Pretty much a shame :(

Give it just a little more time. You never know what may transpire to make something arrive later than what you expect.

Thank you for the reminder to be better about acknowledging and appreciating gifts.

maybe your getting a hand written note.

Today everyone has a phone attached to his or her hip. It would take 30 seconds to call and say thank you for taking the time to make this quilt. I must be getting old because I don't understand whatever happened to the manners we all were taught when we were young.

ask if parcel received and when , if the day you thought you should be very disappointed in your friend's attitude and tell him that you were concerned as he had not contacted you-------MAYBE then he might understand how badly he acted in not contacting and thanking you.

I totally agree.
After a frustrating experience have decided to make
things only for those who say they´d like to get it.

i think it is too soon for a reply. they are probably swamped with new baby stuff.
i am also still waiting to see if a quilt got to where it was supposed to be. it has been over 10 days. wedding shower quilt gift...

I always get a tracking #, if I know they got it, then I would feel bad if they didnt\'t say Thankyou.
Give them the another day or two.

I would check to make sure it arrived. I am returning one to a family this week that was mailed in January. It was found among lost mail with no mailing info. The package was gone. I found the intended owner through www.lostquilts.com because someone recognized it and identified it. I think a tracking number would be a good idea. In the US they scan every move and you can follow it online.

When my first grandchild was born my daughter and son-in-law were so busy rotating in and out of sleep for feedings, changing diapers, making formula, doing laundry and each trying to work that they couldn't manage anything else. The baby was 3 months old before that wild eyed look left my daughters face and became a smiling face. They will love the quilt and when their lives settle they will have time to let you know. If you are concerned about their health give them a call and let them know. Maybe they need someone to spend time with the baby while they take a nap.

Seems nobody does thank you notes any more. Seems like such a little thing to do when someone gives you a gift.

Any word yet ?

it may take a while but the best thank you of all will be when you see the little one dragging the quilt around:)