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oldswimmer 01-03-2011 05:57 PM


Originally Posted by dakotamaid
I too am very gray, more white in front and grayer in back. I have been so since my 40s and love it. I did dye it once and didn't like the upkeep so keep it natural. I also use the Pantene for silver hair as our water has alot of rust in it and my hair tends to turn yellowish.

Can you get Silver expressions in Hastings???? I would drive over just to get that.... I cant find it anywhere here in Kearney.

karenchi 01-03-2011 06:19 PM

Dye for me!

quiltgrammyt2 01-03-2011 06:35 PM

I noticed my first grey hair when I was 16 years old, dyed it once in my twentys,then decided I would just be natural,my mom has white hair and so did my grandma I figured that was my destiney.LOL

carolyne2421 01-04-2011 03:59 AM

i also have grey hair and when i want it to shine and not be yellow i go to the place where i have my hair cut and i get a shampoo,,it is purple,,,just add a drab to your regular shampoo and just shampoo as normal and rinse out and the grey will shine,,just as the people at the hair cutting store what you want and they will be glad to help you

sewsandy 01-04-2011 05:05 AM

I went to my shop and they suggested pulling through a cap and removing my color from 75% of my hair and then when the new gray came in it blended beautifully. It took about three more cuts before it was all gray. I had a lot of root growth before I started this which is better. I know love my hair and no more coloring.

jad1044 01-04-2011 05:35 AM

My natural color was auburn and when I got to the point of letting it grow out - I left it get to about 6 inches all over - with my ends of course the old dyed color - and then I found a beautician who cut my hair so it all "blended" and it turned out beautiful - a good beautician can do wonders to help with the process of helping it look nice while growing out the dye - now I keep it short and she cuts it so the graying lines sort of "flow" and I get many compliments about how nice it always looks.... Occasionally I do a vinegar rinse and it shines and looks so healthy and clean - keeps it's shape also!

Midwestmary 01-04-2011 05:35 AM

I remember the process, Corky! I eventually did cut my hair quite short which helped it look more even. It is worth it though, now I'm so used to my "salt and pepper" look (heavier on the salt!) it just seems natural. I use a product called "So Silver" that I get from my hairdresser - it has blueing in it which really brightens the hair :)

sewing4kix 01-04-2011 05:58 AM

I would check into a semi-perm color like Redken Shades EQ (at your local salon) that would blend the demarcation line and allow that perm color to grow out. The semi color will then be washed out in a few shampoos after you decide to stop using it. You will have healthy shiney hair that won't look two-colored. You can then use a color enhancing shampoo to bring out the shine and silver quality in your natural hair color. Hope my professional advise works for you :)

duckydo 01-04-2011 06:52 AM

I let mine go grey several years ago and was afraid it would be yellow as I had some red highlights in my natural hair. Sally's Beauty Supply has a shampoo call Shiney Silver but you don't want to use it but about every 3rd time you shampoo also Roux Fanci-Full rinse in white minx used on damp hair. don't overdo or you will have lavendar hair, but it will keep your hair from being dull.

duckydo 01-04-2011 06:54 AM

It is very beautiful. Mine is still salt and pepper but the grey is silver, I am hoping for solid white someday

duckydo 01-04-2011 06:57 AM

yep if you smoke yu will have yellow hair and teeth, not to mention all kinds of health problems, don't mean to step on anyone's toes, but I lost my Mom to lung cancer and now am losing my sister to stage 4 lung cancer

jme 01-04-2011 07:20 AM


Originally Posted by Corky
I have decided to see what color my hair truly is and I am at that stage where my grey roots are about 6 inches long now. Looks awful!

My questions to all of you is:

1. Is there a way of getting through this growth period gracefully?
2. Is there a rinse to make my grey hair sparkle, rather than be dull? I hate the old and tired look. I want to have nice hair that looks and is, healthy, but I don't think I am going to have that gorgeous vibrant grey that is so pretty.

Help?

I hope there is. My mom and grandma were both totally grey by 40-45 and I don't want to go through dying my hair all the time like mom does!

Robinlee 01-04-2011 08:00 AM


Originally Posted by sewing4kix
I would check into a semi-perm color like Redken Shades EQ (at your local salon) that would blend the demarcation line and allow that perm color to grow out. The semi color will then be washed out in a few shampoos after you decide to stop using it. You will have healthy shiney hair that won't look two-colored. You can then use a color enhancing shampoo to bring out the shine and silver quality in your natural hair color. Hope my professional advise works for you :)

As a cosmetologist, we used this. it was great stuff, and I used it on my own hair.

GABBYABBY 01-04-2011 08:30 AM

A few years before I retired I gradually had the
beautician color my hair blonde. Well, by the time i retired, my hair was almost to my waist. I told friends that as soon as my hair got to my waist I would cut it off.
So I did and donated it. I cut it off myself and it was
a really short hairdo. My hair has since grown back
and is its natural color now (salt and pepper) and is almost
half way down my back again. That was two years ago.
In other words....white hair does not look as bad when it
shows if your hair is blonde instead of anyother color.

quiltmom04 01-04-2011 08:43 AM


Originally Posted by Corky
I have decided to see what color my hair truly is and I am at that stage where my grey roots are about 6 inches long now. Looks awful!

My questions to all of you is:

1. Is there a way of getting through this growth period gracefully?
2. Is there a rinse to make my grey hair sparkle, rather than be dull? I hate the old and tired look. I want to have nice hair that looks and is, healthy, but I don't think I am going to have that gorgeous vibrant grey that is so pretty.

Help?

My SIL and I have often discussed how to get our hair back to it's natural color - whatever that is! We decided a camp where you would go and shave your head and not go back home till it's grown out enough to replicate a hair style! Hahaha! My hair stylist said that when I'm ready to go to the grey that it is, she can start highlighting it with grey instead of light brown and it will not be so noticable as it grows in. Maybe that's an option. .

quiltmom04 01-04-2011 08:45 AM


Originally Posted by Corky
I have decided to see what color my hair truly is and I am at that stage where my grey roots are about 6 inches long now. Looks awful!

My questions to all of you is:

1. Is there a way of getting through this growth period gracefully?
2. Is there a rinse to make my grey hair sparkle, rather than be dull? I hate the old and tired look. I want to have nice hair that looks and is, healthy, but I don't think I am going to have that gorgeous vibrant grey that is so pretty.

Help?

Oh yes, I forgot to say, with 6" of grey, you could get a very stylish cut, get off all the other color go on from there.

jbj137 01-04-2011 08:57 AM

I was prematurely gray at 35.
Divorced at 42.
Looked very old (NO DATES)>
Dyed it a cut short.
Tried several years ago to grow it off.
I failed.
I am now 64.
Now trying again (should have done when short).
Now shoulder length & I am not cutting
over 4 inches of white(and looks awful).
Hairdresser is going to put highlight in the dark.
If that does not work (THEN I AM BUYING A WIG).
J J

hgouveia 01-04-2011 10:08 AM

I went through the same thing. I just kept cutting it short till it was all the natural color. It takes time, but its worth it.

decky 01-04-2011 10:10 AM

My kids talked me into coloring my hair when it first started turning gray it was kind of a icky yellow gray, got tired of coloring it and said the heck with that and let it go. I bought the blue shampoo (does anyone remember the blue shampoo)? now it is a slivery gray and shiny with the back being a dark brown (hair is short). I have had people ask me what color of dye I use and I just laugh and tell them that I have left it up to God on the color.

hgouveia 01-04-2011 10:22 AM

amen!

nycquilter 01-04-2011 10:31 AM

I asked my hairdresser to add "streaks" of the dyed color, rather than gold or silver, to help the real me (grey grey grey) blend til it grew out. It's almost there...I've chopped off about 7" over time to help get rid of the old, bottled color. Now, after almost 18 months, I'm almost done--my hair, in case you couldn't tell, is long, almost waist length. Husband wants it long, I got tired of dyeing it. Plus, with my looks, I need my brain for income and putting red dye in every six weeks, I worried about eroding that! *G*

what makes me nuts however, is the grey in the eyebrows. I love grey on top, don't mind hubby calling me "grandma" now and then, but those eyebrow greys make me feel OLD

misseva 01-04-2011 10:37 AM

My hair looks like Rosyhf's avatar - all shiny white in front with a little grey in the back. Like dakotamaid - my hair has always been fine plus limp - but my white hair that started in my 30s if super fine. I use the silver shampoo and mix it about half & half with cheap daily clarifying shampoo. That way it doesn't build up on your hair and turn it purple. If I use purple shampoo every day it will build up. I can't use shampoo with ANY color of any kind in it - it will turn my hair that color. Baby shampoo is the worst - makes my hair turn an UGLY yeller.

munchkinmama 01-04-2011 11:09 AM

I just got the last of my color cut off and I am so happy. Makes me wonder why I have colored all these years.

polly13 01-04-2011 12:06 PM

The first gray hairs were at my hs graduation. Colored it until I turned 30, then went a la natural. Each hairdresser has a different opinion, but mine says it's very soft and fine because it really isn't gray, but a mixture of what few brown strands are left and white. Gray would be more coarse. Sally's carried Shimmer Lights shampoo, put out by Clairol. I mix 50/50 with regular shampoo to use occasionally to keep it sparkling and not turn yellow. Full strength it would be blue hair like in granny's day.

Ldydrifter 01-04-2011 12:35 PM

Ask at your favorite beauty shop for a shampoo called so silver. It helps whiten the white. i really like it

karen Cicio 01-04-2011 01:16 PM

Try a special shampoo. It is to brighten yellowing gray. It is called Jhimack. I find it at Wal-mart. Try the beauty supply. I have salt and pepper hair and lately I have the problem of my gray yellowing. I don't like it so I'm trying this shampoo. I believe it is helping.

Hosta 01-04-2011 01:27 PM

I am going gray not gracefully but with both of us unemployed hair color is not happening. but it looks ok but my husband doesn't like it.

Jugtavernquilter 01-04-2011 01:41 PM

I am a cosmetologist and also color my hair. I am very gray on top and at 43 I just am not ready to be gray. I do think it is very beautiful on others just not on me yet. lol If you don't want to pay beauty shop prices for shampoo look at Walmart for a purple shampoo for gray hair. It cuts out all the yellow that gray or white hair gets. Don't freak out when you put it on your hair it's not going to be that color it just gets rid of the stuff you don't want. Also, someone mentioned Fanciful rinse. That works to blend your hair while it's growing out. It just washes out so you have to keep doing it but maybe you could just use it when you know you're going somewhere. Hope this helps.

sew wishful 01-04-2011 02:47 PM

My hair has always been dark brown. Then one day I noticed a White one...not grey...WHITE! So began the dying process about every 6 weeks! Oh, once in a while I'd let go longer in between..at least at first. But then it was beginning to show more and more white between visits to the beauty shop. So I started doing it myself and kept that up for years! At 60 I got real tired of it so let it go. I keep my hair short so didn't have that growing out process. My hair never turned grey...it's still dark brown with lots of white sparkles in it! I use Pantene also which helps with shine, but also have some Shine spray made by FX Express. I love it but really compare it to the old spray and shine floor wax! Has to be washed out after every use, but it really does shine! One of the kids in my church said "How did you get the sparkles in your hair?" I told her God gave them to me with a little help from my kids!! LOL!!

grann of 6 01-04-2011 02:51 PM


Originally Posted by Corky
I have decided to see what color my hair truly is and I am at that stage where my grey roots are about 6 inches long now. Looks awful!

My questions to all of you is:

1. Is there a way of getting through this growth period gracefully?
2. Is there a rinse to make my grey hair sparkle, rather than be dull? I hate the old and tired look. I want to have nice hair that looks and is, healthy, but I don't think I am going to have that gorgeous vibrant grey that is so pretty.

Help?

There are 2 solutions, one is too late for you: #1 don't start in the first place. #2 Turn all the mirrors around so you can't see yourself. I am almost 70 and luckily have just a tad of grey showing. But I notice that since my dog tore his ACL & had surgery the hair is getting greyer by the day. It just shows how hard I have worked all these years. It is my badge of "courage".

mcar 01-04-2011 03:52 PM

I dyed my hair for a few years until my hairdresser changed the formula. After a while I began to get a deep tissue itch in my neck which was a reaction to the dye. I stopped and went grey/white. I use American Crew for grey hair on her recommendation. Order it on line at http://www.salonsavings.com/american-crew/

Maurene 01-04-2011 04:18 PM

Maybe find a hair stylist that will give you a great haircut to start with. Something that really suits you face, and the natural hair colour will complement and make it's own statement? Faces are like quilt blocks, the shapes and sizes and angles an colours have to fit, sometimes it takes an expert to figure out the fit! Whew! that's my art philosophy for the day!

Quiltylady 01-04-2011 04:56 PM

I have been snow white for 10 years but color my hair. About 2 years ago I decided to see what it looked like. My hair stylist began by highlighting my hair and we slowly lightened it until we could cut it and then bleached out what was left of the color 3 times. I used an over the counter whitener, found at the drug store to tone down the ends. And wella! I was white. It lasted three months and then I could not take the non-color and went back to coloring my hair. Oh, I am 60. I started getting grey at 30. And did not color until 45. I think you have to keep a current hair style to keep it young if you go natural.

Quiltylady 01-04-2011 04:56 PM

I have been snow white for 10 years but color my hair. About 2 years ago I decided to see what it looked like. My hair stylist began by highlighting my hair and we slowly lightened it until we could cut it and then bleached out what was left of the color 3 times. I used an over the counter whitener, found at the drug store to tone down the ends. And wella! I was white. It lasted three months and then I could not take the non-color and went back to coloring my hair. Oh, I am 60. I started getting grey at 30. And did not color until 45. I think you have to keep a current hair style to keep it young if you go natural.

Greendragon6889 01-04-2011 05:03 PM


Originally Posted by kathy
Pantene makes a good blue shampoo called Silver Expressions, cream rinse too, mine is white with silver sparkles and has been since my 30s, if you smoke or are around someone who does it will always have a yellow tint. part of why I quit smoking!

My hair is naturally silver gray, I help it along with the silver expressions or but from a beauty shop.

jitkaau 01-04-2011 05:56 PM

I dyed my hair for many years, but grew it out last year. Everyone cheered at Christmas when they saw the grey hair for the first time. They all think it looks better than the dye job, so maybe we kid ourselves about what looks good.

Butterfli19 01-04-2011 06:43 PM

I haven't read all the responses, but when I turned 49 I went to the salon and had them strip the color (as in hair dye) and recolor it gray. I also now use salon hair products as they are milder and really bring out the color of my new natural color. It is now mostly silver and white and I absolutely love it.

CGail 01-04-2011 07:09 PM

I had to quit coloring and perming my hair about 15 years ago due to Graves disease and losing my hair. My hair went white quickly, probably within a month. I didn't like it, but everyone else did. They even thought I was highlighting it or something. Even after 15 years, I am still not used to my hair being so white. I get compliments on it all the time, and I am just amazed. I would give anything to have my curled, colored hair back. - Cynthia

tuxedokitty 01-04-2011 07:23 PM

There is a shampoo from Clairol called Shimmer Lights that helps to keep gray nice and bright. Can be found at most beauty supplies.

Wazzy 01-04-2011 07:56 PM

I'm naturally an ash blonde that started going grey in my early 20's. It's funny, when I was a teenager, I used to lifeguard and my hair would sun bleach out to completely white (then turn green from the chlorine). Anyway, I have a streak in the front that was always lighter than the rest of my hair and that's where I started going grey. In fact, that's the only place I'm grey now and I'm pushing 50. Well, just like someone mentioned earlier about feeling like Cruella, for me it made me feel like a skunk. So I dyed my hair to match my natural color. This worked out great because as it grew out no one could really tell the difference. Except I would see the grey and know it was time to dye again. About 9 months ago I just quit. Since my hair is so light anyway, the grey pretty much blends in so I'm ok with it now. If I'm feeling really sensitive about it, I avoid looking in the mirror or change my part so the nongrey hair shows more than the grey.

To keep my hair, both blonde and grey, bright I just use something that I got at the hair dresser that's purple or blue. But you only use a dime size amount and mix it with your regular shampoo. I also only use shampoo for blondes and something to control the frizz because I have really coarse hair with a mind of it's own. I also avoid chlorine; green hair doesn't look so good when it's wet (kinda like snot).


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