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Jaynie 09-18-2011 09:31 AM

My kids are the only ones that can guilt me into doing alterations or repairs on clothes. My son uses that ole line..."but Mom, you're just like Martha Stewart, you can do anything"...I have to remind him M.S. has a team of people that do everything behind the scenes. And if you put off the repairs long enough they will forget about them.LOL

Phannie1 09-18-2011 09:34 AM

Would you ask a dry cleaners to make you a quilt?

I have a friend who does alterations for a living. I do not ask her for free alterations, I also can't afford to replace zippers in pants that I paid less for than her cost to replace that zipper. If I paid big dollar on a piece of clothing, I would want her to do my alterations. Not me.

mom-6 09-18-2011 11:38 AM

Even when all the sewing I did was creating clothes or costumes I DID NOT WANT TO DO ALTERATIONS! Hems maybe, replace the zipper in your jeans - no way.

valsma 09-18-2011 11:47 AM


Originally Posted by juneayerza
The older I get it gets easier to say no, but I like how you responded. It doesn't create hard feelings or constant nagging from the person asking.

You know I am finding that myself. The older I get the easier it is to say no.

noahscats7 09-18-2011 02:57 PM

Learning to say no is such a stress buster.

My time 09-18-2011 04:05 PM

You go girl! I'm taking a step in your direction. Just because we love to quilt does not mean we like to mend and tailor.

Dee 09-18-2011 06:27 PM

Good for you-proud of you.

charity-crafter 09-19-2011 04:37 AM


Originally Posted by fitzroytrophies
I am not really into doing alterations, but after my Daughter was quoted $85 to hem a chiffon dress (The lining did not need heming)

It was probably someone who didn't want to work with chiffon. See it works, quote an really high price and they'll go elsewhere.

charity-crafter 09-19-2011 04:47 AM


Originally Posted by 2ursula
One of my relatives used to have a lot of 'little favors' to ask: "Can you just do this?" (The 'just' meaning that no reasonable person would refuse.) One day, I was late for work after I watched her children 'just for an hour', which turned into four.
I discovered the word 'No' when only a short while later she refused to let me use her sewing machine for a tiny job. (I did not have one at the time.)
I have issued very simple 'No' answers without explanation ever since. She did ask me why I was "so inconsiderate".

To her chagrin I can say more than 'No'.

Good for you, stand up. Let her know why you are no longer helping her out with her little needs.

That's why I've stopped doing a lot things for people, they want from you but when you need something, all of a sudden you're asking too much. As someone else pointed out, as we get older our "No" button is easier to push. There are too many users in the world.

pdriggs 09-22-2011 04:22 AM

Years ago when I was 'sewing for people' I was amazed at the people and the attitudes they had. People would pay $5 to have a pair of pants shortened, but thought $15 to make them from scratch was too expensive.
Phyllis


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