I never had the nerve to ask about getting them back.

That is what most takers count on, people being too nice to make a scene. Learn to make the whole play and give encores. It works.

My Mom used to say this all the time! And I agree, it's the best policy.

Here's another angle: One friend will sometimes foist a book on me that I didn't ask for or want to read! She insists I take it and read it (she has already read it). She doesn't take 'no' for an answer, so the last time I just took the book and disposed of it.

After losing several key pieces of homeschool curriculum, I learned a trick to get my stuff back.

When I loan something out, I take the borrower's picture with the book. Then months later when I'm scrolling my phone and find the picture, I ask them about it. When I get it back, I delete the picture.

I haven't lost an item since I started having photographic evidence. :D

How annoying! I like to read Amazon reviews of books and your post reminded me of an opposite scenario. Sometimes a person will write "don't read it". Umm...... we are all so different. People like all kinds of books. To tell a public audience what you think they should or shouldn't read is utterly ridiculous!!

I still have my copy of bury my heart, but I don't have Lame Deer seeker of visions , it was a book i loaned my DH just before our first date, i did get it back from him but some where along the way over 40 years ago and several moves around the country, Ak. Or, twice, wa. Maine twice, ND. Ca. Tx. and Ky. lost lamw deer.


What I do not understand is why don't some people understand the difference between given something and loaned some thing. I don't borrow things if I need it I buy iy it,

Fantastic idea!

I use to record me telling my girls what I said. There was no tears of no you didn't say that. It stopped most drama in a heartbeat. I like the photo idea a lot!