Grrrrrr......

He made supper last nite while I was at guild. Sorry about the picture quality, but I was angry.

You're so mad, you're even shaking the camera! :lol:

Well that really wasn't very nice of DH to leave all the dirty dishes behind. Mine will eventually put them in the dishwasher, but then he'll run the dishwasher and will even empty it! Of course, he didn't do that before he retired, but now that he has more time, he's becoming more domesticated. And he's a very good cook!

Pam, I hope he is open enough to let you show him how to get those dishes in the dishwasher.

We do not use the dishwasher, our hard water ruins the dishes. Spaghetti sauce was all over stove, floor, sink, countertop!

Pam, you have to at least give him credit for making dinner.. .there are a lot of women out there , that after working a full day of work and going to the guild have to make sure there is dinner on the table for the rest of the family that is not at the guild. .I say ...tell him thanks honey, how nice you made dinner! Now we can clean up the kitchen together !

send him to training.

lol looks familiar....
everytime i end up stuck in bed for a couple days due to health issues, i dread seeing what becomes of my house when im able to get up... i will never understand why they would rather live in their own filth waiting for me to be able to do it than take the few minutes at a time it would take to clean as they go.... instead, they rather wait 2 days so it will take ME 2 more to clean it all up... seems they would get tired of hearing me ranting over it lol

OH MY GOSH! I would do them with such a bad attitude!! After 15 years with my husband he finally has started to clean as he cooks. It used to be like a tornado went through the kitchen. I have to say - he is a good cook - not such a good cleaner. When he is done preparing something that might be in the oven he yells "CLEANER"! It is kind of a joke, but kind of not. :) He has gotten better over the years!

I believe it, spaghetti sauce knows how to travel. Well then, maybe he should see if he likes having spots on his clothes because they didn't come out in the wash!

I have told my DH a hundred times to at least rinse off food before putting plates into the dishwasher and he still just puts them in there really cruddy. He will put his cups and silver in but if mine are there he just ignores them. I feel like letting use dirty stuff sometimes. If he cooks something in the micro his dirty bowls just sit there.

He loves to cook, and does a good job, but come on, at least stack up the mess so it is organized.

And as for training him, the Marine Corps couldn't do it after 20 years, and I've had him for 30!

Oh no, I was hoping that this was a trainable thing. But, according to Pam, a combo of the Marines and marriage can't fix it! Guess I'll be happy that mine does anything, and he does do a lot. The dishes thing, though, that seems to be his main thing... :-)

OMG!!! In all honsesty, if someone left a big mess like that for me, I just would NOT clean it! If he says something about the dishes still being there the next morning, I would just say, 'well, they're not my dishes!'
Mine is a bit of a clean freak, so I'm usually the one who gets nagged if I'm not celaning up as I go along, lol!

My hubby doesn't do alot of cooking, but he's just uber messy with anything he does and drives me nuts. My son is following in his Dad's footsteps, throwing all my years for training under the bus.

Guess I'm hard, but I was raised, do it all the way or don't do it all, so when it comes to making dinner, good clean up is part of the package.

I've reluctantly resigned myself to accepting that dinner leftovers get put away and I'm left with the aftermath, even if the kitchen was totally clean as dinner was served (I clean as I go). GGGgggrrrrrr.

Tough love-

Stepdaughter came to live with us for a while. She was 16. Never rinsed out a glass so when I got to them they were dried up with milk.

What did I do? As I ran across them I threw them away til there weren't any left. Didn't replace them either. She moved out, I bought new. Problem solved.

Are we married to the same man?

My Hubby is retired and evreyone knows how that goes. But, he has more or less taken over the cooking, which I really don't care to do, and I look at it this way. If he will shop and cook, then I can clean up the mess. He recently took very good care of me while I was sick and in bed for a few weeks. The laundry done and put away, house cleaned good, and even the dishes got done. ( Until the night before I was able to get up and going) Then it was back to being the "cleaner" again ( I loved that title!!LOL) Whatever would wwe do without the guys?

Since I retired a year a do more cooking and more dishes (I'm the dishwasher).

Now he wants french toast or bacon and eggs for breakfast. When I was working he ate cold cereal and sandwiches.

THAT is why I like dogs! When you get mad at them you can tie them up in the backyard and NO ONE calls the police. Just try to tie up a kid or a hubby. LOL

And people wonder why I am single :-P At least that is my reply to friends when they have this or something similar happen to them.

I won't date a guy, at least not for long, that doesn't clean up after himself. If he doesn't do it now he sure isn't gonna do when you live with him :-P Cleaning up after him would cut into my quilting time I want one that will cook and clean so I have more quilting time ;)

I know that will probably get me killed, but here goes. There isn't anything in the house that my DH hasn't or won't do except clean the toilet. He picks up after himself, cooks, cleans you name it. Every day I look toward heaven and say thank you to his mother. When the kids were little (in the days of cloth diapers) he even rinsed and washed them. I have a gem and believe me I know it.

My DH is really good about picking up after himself, but does not know how to turn on the vacuum, dishwasher, washing machine or iron. Scrubbing a toilet is out of the question. Both my boys do know how, tho. In the grand scheme of things, it could be worse and I'm glad it's not. He makes up for it by being a pretty handy guy and can fix just about anything. Plus he built a machine quilt frame for me a while ago. So no complaints here.

YIKES!!!!!!!!!!

If it won't matter in twenty years, it doesn't matter.

I told my DH before we were married that either he should plan to do half the housework or we weren't getting married. Stupid him, he chose to get married. It's been 30 years and I haven't cleaned a bathroom or cooked a meal in all those years. Those were the tasks that feel to him, among others. I am not particularly grateful for this - I grew up in a house where the boys were expected to do as much as the girls, so I just expect it. We both work FT so I don't understand why he wouldn't have to pitch in as much as me around the house.

I will admit that he doesn't always do his chores on my timetable but it's better than doing them myself!

"I have told my DH a hundred times to at least rinse off food before putting plates into the dishwasher and he still just puts them in there really cruddy"

I've been having this this discussion with my 24-year-old daughter, who actually said to me one day "I don't think you know how a dishwasher works!" To my credit, she still lives and breathes!

That's how I would approach it too.

My DH constantly takes the dishes to the kitchen....isn't that sweet??? EXCEPT he doesn't scrape and he just sits them on TOP of the dishwasher!! RIGHT THERE! I've even left the door of the dishwasher open thinking he'd get the hint.......NOPE!!!! I've mentioned it till I think he's being obstinate....

When we both work FT, DH does the cooking and shopping. The least I can do is dishes, no dishwasher here. LOL But I still try to get him to rinse the stuff. It's hit and miss with that.

oh my that is awful, did he say why he didn't clean up the kitchen? at least he cooked (mine doesn't cook)

I understand you being upset, so did he clean up your kitchen yet???

Are you kidding me? He is so tender he washes dishes with the very mildest of lukewarm water. I forbid him to do them. When he gets done with the dishes, there is such a pretty, reflective grease shine off every item!! Sparkely!!

It looks like my kitchen, when I come home after a weekend craft show. :( I usually can't face it on a Sunday evening...so I get to start on it on Monday mornings...

Well, there you go!!

My DH isn't perfect, but I think I'll keep him. He will do anything, but I have to ask most of the time. He does put his dishes in the DW, he picks up after him self. After reading this I'm thankful for what he does do.

I don't see anything wrong, I think it was nice that he cooked dinner.
Now put on your apron and get busy cleaning the kitchen.

The problem is that men don't see "things" around the house like women do. What is a mess to us doesn't even show up on their radar.

That is soooo true!

That sounds like Pat. He was hopping around the sink the other day and kept uttering "hot-hot-hot" as he's banging the glasses around. Call me curious, but I HAD to know and carefully poked my finger at the suds. I expected a scalding retreat because I do use VERY HOT water. Oh it was barely past body temp. Some men are wusses. lol

I seldom use dishes we have to wash. I have a cabinet full of disposable dishes, cups, glasses, bowels, and a lot of plastic flatware. I refuse to cook and then have a mess of dishes to clean up. I clean the pots and pans as soon as I use them and put them away. It equals out. I save gallons of hot water not washing dishes, save power not using the dishwasher, and the main thing is the freedom I have from not having to clean up after a meal. The good china and silver is there, way up on the shelf for the formal meals we may have one day. Yeah right. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I have discovered that the men I have chosen to love in my life RUIN my kitchen. I now tell the DH my mother would flop over if she saw me allowing you to do anything in there.. he actually believes it. Ok she was a very 50's leave it to beaver type of mom BUT I think the three hours it takes to clean up after them is not worth the gift of the making. Now I get take out if I say I am just to dead to cook he offers.. Pizza .. he loves pizza. I say yes. Better than cleaning THAT. I clean as I go, put spices back after I use them, wash as I am cooking so by the time dinner is on there is nothing left but the main cooking pot/pan to clean and our own plates. I feel for you, oh do I feel for you. The thought a very good one was a gift. Some gifts are better left as thoughts.