Well, it's official...my DD has been discovered by the boys! She's in 8th grade so I knew it was coming but I don't think I'm ready! :shock:

Who would have thought it would happen over night. I guess I better start praying more. :-D

Yes, praying more is a good thing. Coming from a mother of 3 girls.....

Advice from one Mom to another...Lock her up and throw away the key...lol..j/k


I am sure they have noticed your masterpiece before. But boys are an odd brew.

My girls have an older brother, a very big brother, who let these little men know their place....haha

Chase

Here daddy wants to line the guns up on the table just so the boys get the idea. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I like the idea of locking her up and tossing the key!

My daughter is 10 months, I am dreading that stage. Told my hubby that I was going to lock her in her room until she was 25. :)

I was dreading the "teen years"and before I knew it- we were through them! My daughters were easier than the boys- go figure!

Just love them and keep the lines of communication open. It's tough being a parent but you'll make it!

:shock: I know what you mean... (((HUGS)))
I have 2 daughters and remember those times :roll: I am SOOOOOOOO glad that they are adults now :D:D:D My dear SIL will take care of my beautiful granddaughters when that time comes round again :wink:

LOL My DD"s uncles were cleaning their handguns when she introduced her future husband! It definately made an impression on my future SIL! LOL

My DH told DD that he was going to lock her up til she was 35! LOL She turned down lots of boys and she met her future DH in 7th grade. She never dated anyone until her future DH asked her out on her 18th birthday because that is what she had told him was the only way she was willing to go out with him! She never dated anyone else. Her rationale-- one guy had three kids by all differant women and she wasn't dumb enough to be number 4! And she promptly told him so! She was very discriminating! LOL

I am sure your daughter will do fine!!

I'm right there with you...only mine is ahead one grade, so she's just turning 13 now in 8th grade...tall, leggy, and so beautiful. But, I think it really helps them stay grounded when they know how very precious they are to both mom and dad....
So far, so good. The biggest issue I'm facing is that her friends are pressuring her to have a boyfriend. Fortunately, she's pretty picky.
Good luck....If you need a sympathetic ear, just holler! 8-)

Good luck !!!

It's a hard time. Just know you raised her right and hope she remembers all you taught her.

One of my nephews got out his shotgun to "clean" when boys started to come around. I'm sorry to tell you, it didn't stop them.

Things really do seem to happen overnight!

So... the boys have discovered HER... but what does she think about THEM?

My daughter's in 7th grade, and right now she says that all the boys are idiots. Proven by the fact that they line up at the edge of the pool and push each other in.

(Girls are way less likely to do that sort of thing...)

LOL, a smart girl would be over there holding their heads underwater......LOL.........j/k not that I have ever done that...haha

We had the same problem. We put an end to that. The rules were that she couldn't date until sixteen. It worked because she wasn't ready for it. When she was in 9th grade a senior in high school followed her around school like a dog in heat! He kept asking her out so all she said was " I'm not allowed parents rules". There was no pressure for her. She held up to the rules and was ready for it when the time came. It was easier because she didn't have to deal with drama. She is 20 now and still follows our rules! That's the secret rules. We've given way to the leash so to speak but the word respect is used for everything. We know we did a good job! She's a great kid, good head on her shoulders, and knows what she wants and aiming for it!

My daughter is turning nine soon. I'm not looking forward to the teen years!

Hang in there mom. Get some hair color. You're going to need it! It's fun though. Just keep talking. And talking....and a little more talking! Talk until you see their eyes roll back in their heads. LOL!

Have 1 girl, 2 boys. Make sure you know who she is with, where & who will be there. What time she will be home & not to leave that place. Also check out the parents. Some seemingly normal upstanding people will host beer parties just to be popular. Man I feel for you. It's not always the boys you have to look out for. Some of the girls are so wild & will try to get her to do all kinds of things. Get ready because you are in for some hard times. It will shock you what some of these kids do. I'm glad my baby is a boy. Last year this girl asked him to the prom. He was a freshmen & she was a junior. I said NO! Guess what she is getting for graduation this year. A bundle of joy & isn't sure who the daddy is. She comes from a decent family too. So look out for her, don't be afarid to say no & put your foot down when you need too. She may say she hates you now but will be glad later you were so strict. Protect her at all cost.

Debra Mc is so rite. I have 1 girl and 3 boys. DD is the oldest and is now 32 (where did that time go!). The rules were the rules. No dating until 16. The same rules applied to the boys. I made sure I knew their friends and their friends parents. They knew there were places they absolutly could not go and kids they absolutly could not hang with. AND they knew the consequences if they broke the rules. That was all talked about before hand. Also, we didn't pull any punches when it came to drinking, drugs and sex. They always knew that their dad and I stood together, period. In todays society, parents HAVE to be on top of things constantly. It's you against everyone else. As in "everyone else can, why can't I?" Just hang in there and stick to your guns. Pray constantly and keep the communication going.

Oh, such a fun time!
I went thru it twice!
Had the oldest go thru it, got my gray hairs, then the youngest started. UGH!
It's not all that bad, honest!
Just talk, talk and talk. Communication is the BIG key.
Make sure you tell her to stand her ground. Stand up for her principals.
My youngest was seeing this guy and after 3 weeks, they ended their "relationship". The guy told her that he doesn't date anyone he can't "bed down". Daughter told him...well, I guess you aren't dating me!
Gotta love it!!!

Don't just pray...pay attention!!!

Heres a good suggestion to keep the lines of communication open. Invite her out to breakfast with you, a mother daughter thing, you will be surprised how food opens up the communcation, spending time together one on one.

My DD is 15 and in grade 9, tall blonde and beautiful!! She is pretty picky and so far hasn't taken to the older boys, thankfully!! All the boys her age are idiots. She rarely goes out, which is good and bad.

Ooohhh boy....the best advice I can think of is...buy her a horse.... :wink:

That would work with my daughter.

Cute

Seemingly you can't get pregnant on a horse.

Look up the silver ring thing. Find a church in your area doing it and get her involved. My daughter is 21 and still wears her ring that she got at 16.

A strong relationship with her father will do so much more for her ability to know her value and be able to tell boys no then almost anything you can do as mom. keep the lines of communication open. You will get through this.

Buy her a Rottweiler.

LOL!! Too funny!

I remember when I was a teenager, and my Mom would always let me use her as an excuse. For example, if I wasn't comfortable with something, I could always say "My Mom doesn't allow me to do that" and she would back me up. If I was on the phone with someone and wanted to get off, I'd give her a certain look, and she would "Yell" at me to get off the phone. So I'd hang up, and say "Thanks Mom! :-)" I think just letting her know that you are there for her is huge.
I see too many parents these days that are trying to be their kids friends. Don't do it! Friends will come in and out of her life, but YOU are the only parent(s) she will ever have.
Sorry for the soap-box rant! lol
Good luck!

I am just about 15 and thats what my Dad said!! :lol: :lol:

My dear little one is 18, joined the army last summer, in college, in a Sorority and OMG prayers are needed for the next few years. All I can say is I remember when I was.. and that helped me a whole bunch understand why I was so STUPID, didnt know ANYTHING, why the boys.. uh you know.. love them sooo much and its not like THAT AT ALL.. yeah I remember those days. I say aside from those prayers buy yourself some good tea, beautiful fabric, a stack of great books because they will help you with patience when patience is so hard to be found.

I LOVE THAT IDEA!!!!! :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
I tried making my Dad consider it, but we live in town. So thats out of the question. :/

My daddy got out his shotgun and was literally cleaning it each and every time a boy came to pick me up. He totally mortified me once by sending the young man home because he wasnt dressed well enough to take his daughter out. He had jeans on. We are not talking a zillion years ago.. this was in the 70's.. jeans? everyone wears jeans. But not to take me out. I had a good laugh at the story thanks for the memory. And you know.. I think it makes anyone think twice. He said bring her back in the same condition you took her out in and boy did he mean it. I had many one time dates because of dad he scared the beejebus out of the boys. I took on that roll too for my little girl and many a boy was not sure if I was serious or not but no one wanted to find out :)

I really wasn't kidding about the horse.....I used to run a boarding stable. I can't tell you how many teenaged girls spent every spare minute at the barn and hanging with the horses rather than chasing the boys. It gave them extra years to just be young girls and not get too involved in the boys quite yet.

It worked for me too...I got my first horse at 13...

Of course it didn't help that my Dad kept his guns right next to where he made the guys come in and sit down before we went out. :roll:

so glad I don't have to go through that any more, I had all boys, but some of the girls they brought home were something else. Penny

I know of people who were arrested for playing with a gun in their house when some teens came. One young man told his parents and the man was taken to the police station. He was told most people are killed by unloaded guns...they are not play things.
This was supposed to be a joke when the daughter was dating.

Those young boys have parents to. Guns should be locked up :thumbdown:
I had 2 girls and a boy.......no guns please

As Truvy of Steel Magnolias said. The nicest thing she could say about the girl that her son brought home was all her tatoos were spelled right.

:D thats so true!

You could always tell prospective dates that you know how to castrate calves and are willing to demonstrate the technique to them. :) DH did that one of DD's dates and the boy got very white and totally quiet. She was pissed but it was so worth it.