DD and SIL are having a child custody hearing. It's very detailed and very stressful. Sad one lawyer is making it a parent bashing instead of what's best for the children. The children were living in unfit conditions so my DD and her DH received temp custody of his four kids for the last year. Had to find a bigger house, bigger vehicle, and bigger paycheck practically overnight :shock: Now the permanent custody case is being decided. Now it is up to a judge to decide if the kids go back to their mom or stay. So stressful for the kids who don't want to live with their mom but love her. :cry:

I hate those situations. It is so hard on the children. I hope this one works out to whatever is best for the kids.

Good luck!! Prayers are with you and your family!

It's yjr children who bare the brunt. Prayers are with you.

Prayers are with you and the kids.

Been through similar situation, my thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family. Pray the judge had good sense.

That is heartbreaking and very stressful.

I hope it works out!

Are the children old enough to have a voice in this, I hope so. Prayers for you and your family and I hope the judge is listening with an open heart.

I'll be thinking of you. This is stressful for all of you. Sometimes the courts don't know what is best, and it is only as fair as the child and family services representatives allow it to be. Good Luck.

This is never a good situation, even in the best of scenarios :(

I've been in that position and it's not pleasant at all, I'll be keeping your family in my prayers today for a positive outcome for everyone, good luck!

Never a good situation....reason #1 for people to be careful who they marry. Divorce hurts the kids most of all....the adults can just walk away...the kids are caught in the middle!

good luck and prayers all works out for you

It is a hard situation, and the kids do have some residual issued from this. The best we can do is love the kids, support them and as always, prayer can get us through most situations.

I went through this, luckily with only one step-daughter years ago. Good luck to you all!

Thanks everyone for the good thoughts. The case is over and the judge will have his decision in 14 days. He'll call the lawyers at 8:00 am. I guess this is a new way of delivering the decision. So everything is still up in the air about where the kids will go to school and where they will live.

That's weird why would they say the decision would be in 14 days but they'll call the lawyers at 8am? Will keep ya'll in my prayers for this to be settled soon, I cannot even imagine how difficult this wait is going to be.

Even the emergency temp hearing the judge delivered his decision over the phone three days after he heard the case.

I sure hope the kids come out of all this mess unharmed, doubt that will happen. Judges don't really care about the kids, just want to be done with it all. This can be a nightmare, permanant custody can be changed if other party decides they want the kids. Hearts my heart to know kids have to go through these things and others.

So sorry to hear - all too often that's the way it is - always about "the other" bashing, and never what's best for the kids. Best wishes on it turning out the right way!!

My youngest dd is trying to get her three step-daughters who really need a stable home. Their mom moves frmo place to place and the girls have lived with both grammas and dad. Hope it happens soon. Praying all goes well and the kids outcome is for the best. ♥♥

hope it all works out.

You all are in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us updated, if possible.

Here's hoping things turn out for the best for the children. Oddly, I live on the other side of the coin--I'm married to a judge who takes his job very seriously. He prays every day for God to help him make good and just decisions. He also has to follow a set of state guidelines (like a checklist) to decide cases. Most people think judges are subjective when it's just the opposite--they have many rules to follow. Sorry to get on a soapbox. Am thinking about you and your family!

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Sadly in these cases there is never a winner. And that includes the judge that needs to make the decision. I cannot imagine how hard it is on him/her to decide what is best for children. I know how hard it is, I went thru this myself after my divorce, my ex wanted the children, and of course I wanted them. It is never any fun for anyone. Luckily I won, but I wonder with todays standards if I would have : ), things are completely different than they were 40yrs ago.

Also hoping for the best for all concerned.

Thank you for a look at the other side.

My daughter works for a lawyer, and has to deal with some sad situations. We are praying that the judge will make a decision that is best for the children.

Thinking of you... take care of yourself as just being present can be very stressful... how nice for your daughter to have your support... keep breathing.

I hope the judge will put the best interest of the kids ahead of the parents. Teh kids are what matters ina situation like this. Good luck.

The judge we had has a reputation of being a caring and fair judge. DD and her new DH never asked for custody, the judge awarded them temp custody when a medical condition of one of the children was not being treated properly by the mom and the living conditions were questionable. They had the temp custody for a year. Now the question if the kids can go back to their mom is being decided. It's not been a battle fight to keep the kids but a decision to where the kids will live.

Going thru a similar situation with my BFF right now. Hard to know what to do sometimes.

Good luck with the kids. Hope all works out well.

Good luck to all concerned. I pray for the best for the children... bless their hearts... although they are not at fault, they always catch the flack. My prayers are with you!

Good Luck to the children and prayers that all works out well!

Such a heartbreaking thing for the children to have to go through. My prayers go out to your family and all you can do is keep making sure the children get lots of love and understanding. Let them talk about it when they want to.

Terrible situation. I so hope it works out well for your family.

Hope the judge takes note of the childrens wishes. All the best to all of you

Awww, this is so sad. I hope it works out. I think many judges want the best- it can't be easy for them either .