I guess I would plan to go with the two boys. Can you afford to do it that way?

how about also basing the trip with the boys for a history tour. even if you have to stop for an overnight. find some interesting places along the way. Search the web for cheap motels that have a pool. Sometimes kids just yearn for a pool.
thereare many wanys to go on the cheap. bringing cereal for breakfast, bread pb&j for lunches some snacks and koolaid for drinks. Make it an adventure for the boys. Kids need time away from the troubles of the world. someone said it befoe me. You make the best of your life. Figure out a way.

Ok, call your brother and mother and father and see if they are going ---tell them you wish to go also.
If this is not feasible, then I agree---tell hubby that next year you are going to host it so you can see everyone. If you and your boys were going in the first place, why can't you go now?
I hope you make it.

Please, go !! I have missed many family things in the past because hubby didn't want to go. Now all my family are dead, so I can't anymore. Go, have some fun!

I learned a long time ago,when I missed my reunions,because my then hubby wouldn't go,that I will not ever do that again in the future.My parents are both dead now,and that opportunity for me is past.But not for you.If he can't go,you and the kids go.And stay for 3 days or so and enjoy the company while their still here and you can.I regret not going,and giving in.Now,I will never meet my dads side.Let your kids meet the family and get aquainted.It is much cheaper to drive,heck in our car we can drive to Kansas 1240 miles on just 6 fill ups.In fact we generally leave early am,and are there the next day by 4:pm Kansas time.Of course now,we're older,so would stop now at about 6 pm for a hotel and get rest and dinner.Now it would take 3 days and 2 nights.So,I say GO,your hubby will be fine,as he can hold the fort down.

Praying all works out...

I hope things work out for you - -

Are you able to drive that distance? You mentioned health issues - - -

Sometimes the "others" in our lives don't have the same priorities and/or needs - - -

If your health allows it, put the kids in the car and go. You don't need permission.

Can you take a tent, drive yourself and camp out????????? I can understand your disappointment! And I agree with Xylie55, GO --- before it's too late.

I agree with Xylie55 and all the others who told you to go anyway. If your husband has decided not to attend (and he doesn't believe in vacations), then taking your sons and going for 3 days or more would be good for each of you. Do you want your sons to grow up believing that work-a-holics have the right idea? It isn't healthy, mentally or physically. Good luck! I hope you end up going and being with your family. God bless you.