oh Hon, there are posts like that too. several in fact. just keep reading. sometimes in these hard times, the need to vent is important. otherwise our little heads would explode. after venting, i'm sure those go off smiling and make other people feel good too. (())

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One needs the negative to be able to recognize the positive!

I think of QB as my "virtual sisters/brothers". You can tell your sister/brother anything in your heart and count on at least one of them to commiserate with you or to point out that maybe you are wrong. Some folks don't have others to vent to. I've had plenty of people to rejoice in my successes and point out when I've worn my heart on my sleeve and I welcome my QB family and their opinions. Please allow me the freedom to vent or crow!

I'm aware of that. But, as she would have lived in the intervening decades, one would have hoped she'd have progressed past that.
My 92yo grandmother did.

Anyway, my post was deleted -surprise!! - after they edited the post in question.

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In my neck of the woods, if you carp too long on the same thing; it is 'harping'. Just saying....

Here is a happy thought.....My canary started singing again after 2 months of molting...HAPPY! HAPPY!

Hi all, There have been good points made here from everyone. Isn't it great that there is a place that we can say what we want. I don't believe that anyone of us wants or sets out to hurt anyones feelings. There will always be times we don't agree with someone. That's life. I think that we all respect each other and look for the good in things. That said my brothers and sisters I want to say that I love you all and look forward to hearing what you say even if I may disagree. God Bless you all and have a great life. Thanks for letting me be a small part of it. BrendaK

I was one of our 3 local Save-Mart grocery stores yesterday, unhappy because of the picked over display of Nectarines, one of my most favorite of all fruits. One of the clerks asked if he could help me and I told him I was unable to find any of the huge fruits I'd gotten just a few days before. He told me to wait just a moment and went into the back and pushed out a big box of those beauties that I love!!! I did thank him and came home with 2 big bags of them, almost just right to eat. One or two more days on the counter and they will be perfect!!

Bummer... I missed the deleted post!LOL

I agree with Deb,we are all the threads that make the QB what it is.Thanks to each and every one for making me feel like I belong to a huge wonderful family that I can turn too when I am in need..Patty

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I don't want my little head to explode!


Froggy - bless your sweet heart.

Some times it is helpful to the person who is hurting from what ever to vent....For some maybe this board is the only means they have to express their feelings. Good or not so good.

We can't change the problems people are facing but we can be gracious enough to lend an ear if this will help them.

I have seen many "praises" sung and compliments given by these board members.

My hat is off to you too because you spoke up about something that was bothering you and we listened. * I should say 'read')

I find this board refreshing and friendly. It's a great place to post.

Oh, I apologize, but I thought it was about fishing, too. My brother and I fished a lot when we were children, and it seemed we always caught a Carp.

I love this Board. I have vented and found very kind, compassionate individuals who listened and they will never know how much they meant to me at the time.

When my Mama passed away, in 2009. This quilt board helped me keep my sanity and encouraged me in many ways.

Thanks to everyone on here who have helped me.

I have found the most thoughtful people here on the board. Several have gone WAY out of their way to help me and they are so appreciated. Yes, there is some negative, but the overall tone is one of encouragement. I just don't read for long on the most negative posts. When I have been down I have heard from friends made on here and it always helps. Cyd

I do see what you are talking about on a few random threads, but I think that it's life. We all have bad seasons in our lives, and I can understand getting support or venting on the board. :-)

I'm in the weight loss challenge and the ladies have been so supportive to me, and informational as well that I have lost some weight. So, there is a lot of good to be found here. I tend to skip the really negative threads if I'm not in a place to be helpful or supportive.

For a positive aside, the lady who works at my local walmart fabric area is always friendly and helpful. My husband just spent time helping me pick out some fat quarters even though I take forever. :-)

LOL don't feel like you were the only one....LOL I did too! :shock:

I do understand how you feel though. I try not to read anything where people are venting about husbands anymore. They just don't realize how lucky they are to still have their DH's, and they have no idea how devestating it is to have them pass away.

I was shopping at my favorite, Lenore's Fabric and Yarn, and traded a few words with some other customers. And now I am invited to their quilters' meeting on Monday. Soon I may have some face-to-face quilting friends. :lol:

And if you don't like carping------try bassing or catfishing.

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oh my gosh froggy, this was the biggest lift of my evening! I just finished cleaning after my cat teased and teased to come in and ran into the living rm to throw up on the rug!
reading thru all the replies set me to laughing out loud, carping is a block, and carp fishing - lol!

The reason I am addicted (yes, I will admit it ADDICTED to this site) is: I truely believe in the people who post here always post from the heart. I don't do anything else on the computer remotely like this. I belong to a varity of groups, and this is the only one I go to now.

I don't think people carp as much as they need to vent so they don't explode, are in a corner and need advice, care, concern, are feeling down due to illnesses - their own or others, feel afraid they are alone, feel too inadequit to do anything- let alone start quilting on their own.

It might seem some of the same issues come up, quilting or otherwise, but there are so many of us, and so many areas to post, and so many new people coming on, and, lets face it - so many of us in the same boat it might sound on the surface like carping - but, froggy dive deeper! We are not a shallow group! We need each other and are here for each other - sometimes we may sound sharp, but words can be read in many tones, I dont think any of us carp to all that much (not even you carping we carp too much - lol! oh, that just cracks me up - someone posted you're complaining about complaining)

You are all on the otherside of a glass wall, away from me, and there are times when I wish so hard you were all living next door and could all come for coffee or tea and cookies and help me on a quilt, or just to talk! I love the way this group works and wouldnt want it changed for anything.sharet

It's too bad we can't all live in Happy Valley and be stepford women, but this is life, the good the bad and the ugly!!! We are who we are, take us or leave us, none of us if perfect, but oh don't we have fun here????

Uh, yeah...

"there seems also to be a constant need to be right/correct about every definition of every quilting term no matter whether there is a widely accepted defintion".

I agree with you on this. Certain board members seem to have a snappy or snide remark too often. That's when I have to move on to the next topic. I truly believe that if anyone feels the need to always do this or to always be the "know it all" then they should move on to the next topic and not post anything. Just like the saying "if you can't say anything nice.....

You don't have to read them, you can just pass over them.

I agree. There are always praises on the QB. Tons of times I've read where someone has finished their quilts and look at the number of remarks that are made about how lovely and beautiful the quilts are. And, this is only one tiny sample of the love that is shown here on the QB.

Times are hard and it is a frustrating world out there.

BUT, my heart goes out to the lady from Texas. Sometimes you get down in a dump or are having a bad day and maybe this was just a way for her to vent. If this is so, I would like to send her a great big """HUG""" and I hope this helps.

I really see more positive comments that negative, It is a great board with lots of great people on them, guess you just wanted to vent like some of our members do.. Glad to have this board!

A BIG THANK YOU to my wonderful daughter who came in yesterday and sat on my lap(she is 22) and told me that I was the best MOM. To know that she will always love me no matter what. WOW!!!! my baby is growing up.My wonderful DH that leaves me to go fight for our Freedom.My wonderful friend who tell me to eat when he is gone and to stay healthy.
Thank you Board Members for reading this.

This board is wonderful. There are all kinds of emotions in life and we share them all. If someone is having a bad day who can they complain to but a friend. If you don't
want to read a post don't read it.

I agree with all the above, but if you don't like a topic you are viewing, then the smart thing would be to NOT READ IT! PRAISE GOD YOU ARE STILL ALIVE!!!!!!!

What's left to say? :D I agree 100%.

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Amen
LC

:thumbup: :thumbup: VERY WELL SAID!!!!

No offense, but I think that you perhaps don't read enough of the threads posted on this board....Every single day I read posts that thank other board members for their help and graciousness, posts that sing the praises of the the Lord or another higher power, posts that congratulate other board members for their accomplishments, for their children's and grandchildren's accomplishments, posts that offer loving help, donations and prayers to those in need, posts that celebrate the lives that we are living - both the good and the bad, the pleasant and the unpleasant. There are awesome, loving and giving people who participate in this board. Of course sometimes some of us bitch about one thing or another - but those posts as far as I'm concerned are far, far outweighed by the vast number of supportive, welcoming and loving messages conveyed by so many here. For that, I thank you all.

It's just like the TV or what movies, etc., etc. I CHOOSE to watch. I CAN CHOOSE TO READ, OR NOT READ.

Have a blessed day & may all your quilts be filled w/LOVE. :lol:

One thing I always keep in mind is that communication face to face is much easier to interpret because you can see facial expressions and hear intonations in the voice that helps you understand the meaning behind the words. On paper or here on the Board, we interpret meaning strickly from the words written. I do believe that often meanings are misunderstood or responses are written in a hurry without realizing how the message may be interpreted. I also like the fact that this is a place of friends...we can share, cry, laugh, and vent to help us navigate through life! I love it! There is so much support here that I refer to this Board as 'my quilting friends.'

Personally I do not mind if someone needs to vent, I'd rather it be here than to children, or spouse. We all get irritated at times, and some do not have anyone to vent to. I know that one of the LQS's has a lady who just grits on my nerves, so I try to go there when she is not working. Others like her a lot, but she just rubs me wrong, so I avoid contact.
My take is, if I read the first post and nothing grabs me, I just go on. I may just respond to the first post instead of reading what everyone has to say. Mostly due to not having the time to read all the posts.
Lots of times I just thank God I am not walking in that persons shoes.
So put on a smile, put on some good music and sew.

I have to agree here....seems sort of counter productive.....but then again, you got your complaint off your chest! (um...and isn't that what most of the rest of us are doing when we post a "negative" post?)