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morelcabin 01-10-2011 05:12 PM


Originally Posted by campion
do something that makes you so mad!!!

My younger married son has a hectic life with three children,one which is his own and 2 stepchildren.
A wife who is on the lazy side,and 2 dogs (who never get walked),birds in cages,a cat and a parrot in a small house.
He is worn out as he is 12 years older than her,and now she has brought home a puppy.
He hasn't told me yet----my other son told me.
But there is a lot more to my tale of woe----sorry for blurbling need to get things off my chest.

You could be writing about me...17 years ago:) not sure if I was lazy...probably was, I was young...LOL...Dh was 10 years older...same kid situation and I had every pet in the world as well...we survived it, and are the happiest married couple you ever did see....he's still tired...I still stay home...we're grandparents now...and I got the pet situation under control a while back...finally figured out life is much easier with just one dog....LOL!

sueisallaboutquilts 01-10-2011 06:20 PM

Well, he IS an adult and is living his life his way, just as you have to live your life your way.
Not much you can do is there?
Letting others behavior consume us doesn't do any good. At least he knows he has Mom when/if he needs you. I'm not a MIL yet but I've heard you have to keep you thoughts to yourself sometimes.

dflynn 01-10-2011 06:41 PM

Are you right on that.

campion 01-11-2011 02:53 AM

Thank you for all your input,you are right about not being able to do anything and it is up to them.I will try to keep the mouth zipped as I don't want to jeapordise my time with my Grandson who is only 2.And if we didn't take him places he wouldn't get!!!

pocoellie 01-11-2011 06:43 AM

Sorry to say but there's nothing you can do but vent. It's his life and he has to live it. Maybe he'll wake up one day and decide to do something about it.

Ditter43 01-11-2011 07:13 AM

This too will pass.......kinda like gas pains, it can hurt like hell for a while but it's such a relief when it passes.
Hang in there Mom. All you can do is be there when he needs you. ;)

yolanda 01-11-2011 08:19 AM

Well said! :-)


Originally Posted by Ditter43
This too will pass.......kinda like gas pains, it can hurt like hell for a while but it's such a relief when it passes.
Hang in there Mom. All you can do is be there when he needs you. ;)


campion 01-11-2011 08:29 AM

Ditter thats a very good way of putting it.
You know there is no instruction manual comes with your kids is there??

I am always there for them but it's really hard at times to keep the mouth zipped!!

Thank you

amandasgramma 01-11-2011 08:54 AM


Originally Posted by Ramona Byrd
Go on and vent, we've all either seen that or lived your pain. It'll make you feel better. Not much you can do for your son, he's got to live his life as he feels he has to. It will hurt to see him overworked but at some point in his life he'll wake up, look around and see his life as it compares with the life he was raised with.
Just don't say anything at all about it, like most men, he'll plant his feet and stubbornly refuse to do anything at all even if he had been thinking of it~~

VERY well said -- and the same advice I'd give. It's hard but eventually one of them will wake up.


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