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Thread: She's still searching for adopted daughter

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    A few days ago I got some older (August/September/1987) Threads magazines from our local library's used book room. In one of these at the end of the pages was an article with pictures of a quilt she made for her newborn daughter, to take to her new home 1976 or 77. As an unwed mother she was forced to give up her baby, but the Nuns in the mother's home taught her to sew enough to make both herself and the baby quilts alike. She shows a picture of it, with cream squares and smaller colored 9 squares, all edged and bound in green.
    She said that she hoped her baby would grow up with this quilt, the social worker promised that it would go with the baby.
    Wouldn't it be marvelous if that 30 something lady would be a member of this quilting forum?
    This really did make me tear up on reading it.

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    Is there any way you can photograph the pic of the quilt and post it here?

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    Interesting story , Hope they can be reunited some day

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    Oh gosh, your story gave me goose bumps! I am going to be in prayer that the daughter is a part of this QB and that she is directed to this post. You are right . . . it would be a grand reunion if you are the one who can reunite mother/daughter with your post. God bless you for posting this!! :)

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    It could happen. Just gotta believe and have faith.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Theresa
    Is there any way you can photograph the pic of the quilt and post it here?
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    Sure wish I could, have a not so old printer that I've yet to learn how to even print out what I put on the screen...

    I keep on thinking how that 18 year old must have felt when she was sewing this fabric. She got them from her Grandmother's closet in pieces after the funeral, said she attended it in spite of her embarrassed parents' objections. No one else would want the scraps so she made use of them.

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    Wow that would be such an amazing story to see her today with that quilt. Would almost be worth the effort to see if a local news outlet would pick up the story and see if anyone responds. I truly hope that person grew up in a happy home with lots of love, and that precious quilt.

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    That would be awesome if she were on this board and remembered the quilt..but hope if she chooses not to come forward , as many adoptees do, we wish her the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ramona Byrd
    Quote Originally Posted by Theresa
    Is there any way you can photograph the pic of the quilt and post it here?
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    Sure wish I could, have a not so old printer that I've yet to learn how to even print out what I put on the screen...

    I keep on thinking how that 18 year old must have felt when she was sewing this fabric. She got them from her Grandmother's closet in pieces after the funeral, said she attended it in spite of her embarrassed parents' objections. No one else would want the scraps so she made use of them.
    Actually, you need a scanner to scan the pic/article. Then, you just transfer to the QB. In reality, it probably is more complex than this.

    Is there anything said about where this happened; a place of birth? What a kind, wonderful story.

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    Is there anything said about where this happened; a place of birth? What a kind, wonderful story.[/quote]

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    Just re-read that story, it said she wrote under the name of Carolyn Hamilton (not her own) and is now married with two
    other children and works as an Art Therapist in a mental health center in the mid-west.

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    "the social worker promised that it would go with the baby"

    I hope this was true. Our children are adopted. In 1979 our son had nothing with him. Even the clothes he was wearing had to be changed for the clothes we brought to take him home. I've been trying to get more specific information about his birth family since he was 3 years old and have been unable to. At age 32 he says he has no interest in searching. I'm not sure he knows that for sure, but he will not allow me to help him search.

    In 1982 we adopted our daughter. She was wearing the clothes her birth mother bought for when she left the hospital - for a foster home until papers could be finalized for us to have her. We were allowed to keep that outfit - our daughter is ... a girl ... the birth mom expected a boy and the outfit was definately that! We still have it if she chooses to have her next baby wear it. Things had changed SO much in just the 3 years between our kids' arrivals. Everything was "hush-hush" in 79 and was much more open in 82. Even the paperwork involved allowed so much more information sharing.

    This is tricky stuff. So much is involved that can't be imagined by those who have not been involved in reunions. Times have changed so much, too. From my grandmother's adoption back around 1910, to my children in 79 and 82, to today's climate - so much has changed.

    As mentioned, our son has no contact and in this mother's opinion - needs it badly to resolve some issues in his life.

    Our daughter had a picture of her birthmom in her room all her life and met her when she was 17. Daughter is now 29 and it surprises me that no relationship has developed between the two. Just seeing and knowing seems to have been enough - for both of them. They could easily email each other - but don't except for about every year or so.

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    Maybe you can get someone at the library to scan the story and quilt photo and send it here. It would be wonderful if that could happen and it would broaden the search for her DD.

    I have a niece and nephew who were adopted, they are brother and sister. After my SIL passed away her son searched and made contact with is birth mother and her two daughters. He found out that his birth mother had tried to contact him ever since he turned 18 but his adopted mother refused to let it happen. He's glad he met his birth mother but hasn't developed a close relationship with her, he has become close with his half sisters who live out West and has visited them several times.

    His sister has no interest in finding her birth mother. In fact, her brother said she's very angry about being adopted. Never did find out what she's angry about as she knew from an early age she was adopted. Maybe because she thinks her birth mother gave her away? It's difficult for young people of today to understand what the mores were back 40, 50 years ago - there was no place for pregnant unwed girls to go, hardly any support from families as they were embarassed, they couldn't finish high school as it wasn't allowed, hardly anyone would hire a woman with children with or without a DH, there was no day care so many decided to make their child a gift to a family who really wanted them. Guess this story points up the fact that everyone reacts to this situation differently, sometimes the seeker is disappointed that a close relationship doesn't develop.

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