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    Some men are uninformed regarding quilting

    Ok, I'm wandering around JoAnn's looking for something I need in order to use a 50% off coupon courtesy of a survey. Wife is just touching stuff while hubby comes up with loads of ideas of what she can make. They get to the quilting notions section and he notices a pair of gloves to be used while machine quilting. Hubby holds the gloves up and loudly announces "something for the woman who is too lazy to hand quilt." Luckily for him, they then proceeded out the door as I'm pushing aside shopping baskets to get to him.

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    OMG - that almost sounds like something that my DH might say because his "sainted" mother made quilts for all of her 10 children - during the depression and quilted them all by hand. He went with me to a small quilt show once and loudly said that he "hated" the quilt on the wall because it had that "stupid" border on it. I have many of Grandma's quilts and none of them had any borders on them. At the end of her life, she moved to town to a little 4 room house and had one of those hand quilting frames that hung from the ceiling of her tiny living room on ropes and she had to "roll up" the ropes so that we could come in the door and we would have to sit underneath her latest quilt when we visited her. I actually have her 4 wooden rails that she used - still unused here - guess that I am too lazy!!!
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    Fortunately my DH is the opposite. He is amazed at how much work is involved in making a quilt. When he goes to quilt shows he asks how long a quilt took to make -- when we have been at booths at craft fairs that are selling quilts it goes out of his way to compliment the quilter. I am so glad he appreciates the work that goes into the quilts.
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    My dh also appreciates the amount of time it takes to make a quilt. Obviously that guy doesn't pay any attention to his wife and what it takes to make one. I feel for her that she has to put up with that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mike'sgirl View Post
    My dh also appreciates the amount of time it takes to make a quilt. Obviously that guy doesn't pay any attention to his wife and what it takes to make one. I feel for her that she has to put up with that.
    I agree. I've proclaimed long and loud about how much work goes into my projects that my DH wouldn't dare say anything.
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    Maybe he had his tongue firmly planted in his cheek and this was his way of getting her out of the store. It struck me as funny.

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    While I would have been appalled to hear this comment as well, I wonder if katesnanna is correct in thinking it may be an 'inside' joke between the hubs & wife? I certainly hope so. My hubs in in the camp of knowing what is involved in quilt making but is also the type to make a comment like that in jest.

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    DH and DS are often at a loss in quilting stores. Mine too makes too many "helpful comments" finally after several visits, I have them both trained to leave me alone by telling them we will get out of there faster if they go do something else. They instantly go away.
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    Not just men, we have all seen women who don't understand why we can't whip up a quilt by the weekend.
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    Or those who have no idea of what goes into the entire quilting process and ask you for a favor.... like make a quilt for Uncle Joe or someone else - since we have so much time on our hands - at little or no cost for the effort. "Since you have all of that material (yeah, material) just sitting around......."
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    Quote Originally Posted by katesnanna View Post
    Maybe he had his tongue firmly planted in his cheek and this was his way of getting her out of the store. It struck me as funny.
    I am leaning towards this assumption. My husband will come up to me at the cutting table and say "Put some of that back, I won't have any money for the bar later." or "I thought I would find you here, let's get home I'm hungry and you need to cook." There are so many more things he does while I am shopping for my hobbies. I know he is being funny and to me that is all that matters. He never balks about what I spend on anything. However if I want something "big" for my hobbies we discuss it, then save for it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AZ Jane View Post
    Not just men, we have all seen women who don't understand why we can't whip up a quilt by the weekend.
    Very true, maybe cause we make it look so easy.
    Everyone is born right handed, only the gifted overcome it.
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    I swear to you, I am guilty of only being Indian. That's why I am here. (Leonard Peltier)
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    I have heard that before but hand quilting is the top quality type of quilting to be done. I STILL love looking at beautifully done hand quilting.
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    I have my DH drop me off at a quilt shop and then he goes to wash the car. He takes his time and when he comes back, I am usually ready to leave the store. No fuss that way.

    As for the guy who says it is lazy to not hand quilt......hand him a needle.

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    My DH only complains if I spend hours in a fabric shop & not buy anything.

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    My DH knew about quilting before he could walk and was always interested in each project and had 'the' eye for color combo's. And most trips to the fabric stores he was there and helpful. We were in a JoAnn's one day and another couple were there -her DH made the nasty remark -Oh for Pete's sake can't you just buy her a blanket -talk about an eerie silence. My DH said -I am so glad I'm not in his shoes.

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    I've seen many more women then men behave that way! I've been told ( by women) that I'm not * a real quilter* because I have a longarm; that I'm not a true quilter because I enjoy applique and paper piecing.... When we made picnic/ beach quilts I even had a women yank a quilt out of my granddaughter's hands and scream at me for telling her to spread it out, it was 4 th of July & we were in the park.... Very seldom do you see/ hear that kind of behavior from men.
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    I see lots of horrible people of both genders. I'd rather spend my time and attention on those who are kind, generous and funny.

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    My hubby stays home when I go shopping, so much easier that way. He has no appreciation of what it takes to quilt anything, figures it is easier to buy than sew but he lets me do as I please. I knew that 39 years ago when we got married, good thing he has lots of other great qualities that I can over look that one. I do see him using the items I make and he has been known to tell other people if I make something he really likes.

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    I am so grateful my DH would never act like that anywhere !

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    I wonder if she'll let him tag along the next time...or send him to the closest hardware/sporting goods, or whatever store, so she can shop in peace...I know I would

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    Thankfully, I have an understanding boyfriend. Well he doesn't quite understand what I'm talking about when I talk about quilting stuff but he listens and he really tries. He also loves when I make things for him. I once made him pillowcases for his b-day and out of all of the presents I got him, those were his favorite. And he asked for a bed sized quilt for Christmas. He's not a fan of Christmas and said he didn't want to celebrate and didn't want presents (he was very much kidding). I told him that he didn't get his quilt then and he said well he can still accept quilts. He's silly but I love him.

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    I would have said hand quilting is outdated and overrated, get over it, everyone else has. (I don't really think that but the clod doesn't need to know). I won't go shopping if DH has to go with me. He can go or I will go but not together. Makes no sense to me.
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    I would crawl under a table with embarrassment if my DH said something to me in public like that. My DH is usually pretty supportive of my addiction. He will give me extra money & will drive me there but he usually waits in the car but he chooses to do that. Looking at fabric doesn't interest him. He did pick out his own fabric for the quilt I made him though which I was surprised.

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    I would shout from the mountain tops if my DH ever even went into a fabric store or near a quilt show. As he so bluntly told me tonight, he knows I have talent but he has no interest and doesn't really care about the quilts or crafts I make. I feel diminished.

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