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    They found it!

    Last year I made my mother a friendship braid quilt in her favorite colors. 6 months later she was moved to a nursing home from assisted living. She could not take most of her favorite nick-nacks with her but she was allowed to take the quilt. Beside some pictures, that is all she was able to take with her. Last weekend when I visited her - the quilt was gone. Needless to say I brought it to their attention and 4 days later they found it. Whew - now I can sleep tonight.

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    Wonderful news, I am so glad she has her quilt back and you can rest easy.

    Make her a spare quilt and chain it to her bed.
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    I know in my mother's rest home room she has her quilts, but she has all kinds of lap blankets and afghans in her room that aren't hers. All the staff are very familiar with her quilts because she talks about them all the time and about how her daughter made them for her. One set of her color coordinated pillowcases were bleached to the point that they were no longer recognizable. I had to make her a new set and now they are much more careful with them. I didn't get angry, just stated that I had done things like that myself. I could tell the staff was happy I didn't get upset.

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    my sister broke her hip and was in a treatment place. they sent her home during a hurricane and her quilt with her name stitched in the border front, wasn't there when she got back. anything not nailed down goes home with workers it seems. sad but true.

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    I'm glad your Mom got her quilt back. Lots of thieves in this world. So sad they steal stuff from the elderly or someone not able to fight for their stuff.
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    I am curious, did you push to know *where* they found it? For "future reference"?

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    I bought my mother some nice new shoes and then they were gone. I asked If the had seen her shoes the reply was the black ones no I haven't seen them hmm I had not said the color yet.
    Quote Originally Posted by nativetexan View Post
    my sister broke her hip and was in a treatment place. they sent her home during a hurricane and her quilt with her name stitched in the border front, wasn't there when she got back. anything not nailed down goes home with workers it seems. sad but true.

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    we all need to put "tracking" devices in shoes, quilts, etc!! That would fix em!!!

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    I had finished a quilt mil had started but did not think about the need for a label. It has not been located as far as I know. I just hope someone is using and enjoying it since I'm not sure she even remembers my bringing it to her. Although she did express appreciation at the time.

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    When my MIL had to move from assisted living into the nursing home, the administrator insisted we take her wedding ring home. It was a fairly large stone she had gotten from her aunt. We were told that if we didn't take it, it would be gone within a week. Many of her "little" things disappeared. Sad, but true!

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    My neighbor ask me to do some embroidery on a sweatshirt jacket for her mother that is in a nursing home. They wanted her name in big letters so it wouldn't get stolen, since she has a odd name not many would want it. Then we added a pretty hummingbird to it. Sad with the cost of living there that your things are not more secure.

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    My mothers false teeth disappeared when she was in a nursing home. The staffs reply, 'all valuables are suppose to be kept in the office safe' Now I ask you what would someone want with another persons false teeth and why would one keep their false teeth in a safe when you need them in your mouth all the time except at night?
    They never were found.

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    It didn't matter in the long run and, actually, my father-in-law would have smiled about it; but, my father-in-law was buried without shoes. Someone took them from his room in the nursing home after he died and before his body was transported to the nursing home.

    We all hoped they fit.

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    Midnight shoppers

    Quote Originally Posted by Jingle View Post
    I'm glad your Mom got her quilt back. Lots of thieves in this world. So sad they steal stuff from the elderly or someone not able to fight for their stuff.

    In many cases in assisted living homes it is the residents who are the midnight shoppers. My mothers quilts kept going missing and then showing up. When my mom passed away and we cleaned out her room we found lots of stuff that wasn't hers, just things she liked those things.

    The care takers try as they might can't stop it from happening.

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    My 95 year old Mom is also in a nursing home. Little things have disappeared from her room, too. The strangest one: the wedding photo of her eldest grandson and his wife. Whoever took it...do they want my son and DIL as relatives? I'm sure I can arrange that! LOL Unfortunately, my mom has advanced Alzheimer's and doesn't recognize anyone (including me) anymore, so aside from me being a bit miffed about the missing picture (frame is still there, so I know they didn't want the frame), in the long run, she wouldn't know the people in the photo anyway.

    The nursing home Mom is in is better than average care wise, so I count my blessings. A missing photo...oh well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nativetexan View Post
    my sister broke her hip and was in a treatment place. they sent her home during a hurricane and her quilt with her name stitched in the border front, wasn't there when she got back. anything not nailed down goes home with workers it seems. sad but true.
    Years ago, one of the patients at my mother's nursing home had a couple of nice dresses "adopted". Since she was in a wheelchair, her daughter solved the problem by taking a permanent marker and putting her name on the back of the skirt in large letters. Couldn't see it when she was sitting down, but it sure showed up when someone else put it on and stood up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nativetexan View Post
    we all need to put "tracking" devices in shoes, quilts, etc!! That would fix em!!!
    I'm sure that would be great for quilt shows. Irena Bluhm lost a quilt worth about $10K because somebody didn't take care when they sent it back to her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ILoveToQuilt View Post
    My 95 year old Mom is also in a nursing home. Little things have disappeared from her room, too. The strangest one: the wedding photo of her eldest grandson and his wife. Whoever took it...do they want my son and DIL as relatives? I'm sure I can arrange that! LOL Unfortunately, my mom has advanced Alzheimer's and doesn't recognize anyone (including me) anymore, so aside from me being a bit miffed about the missing picture (frame is still there, so I know they didn't want the frame), in the long run, she wouldn't know the people in the photo anyway.

    The nursing home Mom is in is better than average care wise, so I count my blessings. A missing photo...oh well.

    Anita
    Since the frame is still there, is there any possibility she took the photo out because she didn't "recognize" the people in the photo?

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    I worked as a Nurse's aide when I was in my 20's (needed timeout from the upholstery business). We had thefts amongst other residents. We had a "kidnapping" of a Lady's baby (one of those real looking baby dolls). I found her in another residents room. When I tried to take the baby home to her ""Mom", the Lady who had her yanked my ponytail
    and brought me to my knees. All I could do was scream for help, that lady had a death grip on 4 feet of my hair and wasn't letting go!
    There were other small thefts mostly brushes, eyeglasses slippers etc. But I don't ever recall someone stealing teeth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by catmcclure View Post
    Years ago, one of the patients at my mother's nursing home had a couple of nice dresses "adopted". Since she was in a wheelchair, her daughter solved the problem by taking a permanent marker and putting her name on the back of the skirt in large letters. Couldn't see it when she was sitting down, but it sure showed up when someone else put it on and stood up.
    What a brilliant idea.
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    I swear to you, I am guilty of only being Indian. That's why I am here. (Leonard Peltier)

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    makes me afraid of getting old-my important things are my DH and dogs. I do like to cuddle under my quilts tho and would hate for them to go missing.
    Logn way from nursing home-I hope!!!

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    Have to be careful (and I hate to say this) but there are those beings out there who take what does not belong to them. And it could've been an accident. I saw on one of the posts this week, one of the members worked a label into a flower on a (I believe) a table runner for the bridal table. You may want to try that when you go back. Like maybe stitch it into the darker material with a slightly lighter thread or vice versa. A friend of mine embroiders her labels on the back sometimes in the binding and then takes a fine point permanent marker and goes over it. If anyone tries to remove the thread the marker is still there. So very happy you were able to get it back. Gave my stepmother a chenille sweater of mine while she was in the hospital. It came up missing when she was in the shower. On the inside I had an ID # on the inside of the label. An aide had it on. I brought it up to security since the aide worked on the same floor. We got it back and she was fired. I paid good money for that sweater and my step really liked it.

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    Oh Boy! My mom is 90, in a nursing home, it feels like all I do is play detective, tracking down and keeping track of what little she has left of her earthly possessions. Whether it be the charger to her cell phone to brand new bra's brand Capri's, her socks, geod...! it's everything!! My sister insists on sending her cash for her billfold $20-40, It is gone before I ever see it.. I get so tired of being a cop/detective every time I visit. My mom suffers from some dementia related to advanced Parkinson's or is sleeping or out of her room, it stresses my mom out so much when her things come up missing.
    Interesting fact: If the laundry help misplaces articles of clothing say in another residents closet/drawers, they are not allowed to retrieve it...they can put clothes away, but not remove. I understand, but doesn't help matters as well.
    Get this: late Feb. I noticed my mom did not have socks on, only part of her foot was exposed from under her blanket, I asked why she did not have socks on she said they hurt her toe, I peeled back the blanket and found both of her feet were BLACK AND BLUE AND SWOLLEN, I inquired to the nurse who knew nothing about it, mom said they had been that way for a week, I asked for X-rays, her toe was broken. Nobody saw anything, nobody heard anything, nobody reported the B/B and swelling, Nobody knew anything....Needless to say we had meetings, phone calls, all they could say was they were there for my mothers best interest. The person of interest quit before she could be questioned.
    I asked that a new policy be put into place that staff wear first name only name tags, they did say because of this incident staff it would be policy, hasn't happened yet...
    Sorry and Thank you for opening this thread and letting me vent!!
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    I went thru the Missing "whatever"when my Mom was in a nursing home.These patients are the easiest people to treat badly or steal from.

    Who would most ppl believe,someone with memory problems or a "normal" employee ? Mom's wedding ring,engagement ring,all her costume jewelry,all her pretties,clothing,a quilt I made & recovered,boxes of candy her son gave her,lotions,the list is endless.

    I was leaving one day when I saw her quilt folded on the back of a rocking chair.I walked in,took it too the directors office,then it went home with me.Was easy to take it there,then fold it up & take it home.My feeling is workers from the top down know about the stealing,but it isn't important to them.
    Pat

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    I know that story. It's a shame we have to worry about things like that.

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