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Good article by Leah Day about avoiding hurt feeling in making gift quilts.

Good article by Leah Day about avoiding hurt feeling in making gift quilts.

Old 09-26-2012, 12:43 PM
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Default Good article by Leah Day about avoiding hurt feeling in making gift quilts.

I have read several discussions on this board about hurt feelings after giving a quilt as a gift. Often the recipient does not react as we had hoped or expected. Leah does an excellent job discussing this and shows a lot of insight in describing when this recently happened to her (with her little boy!). She gives some good pointers in how to avoid feeling hurt....http://freemotionquilting.blogspot.c...or-you_23.html
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Old 09-26-2012, 12:46 PM
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Very good article, thanks for sharing it.
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Old 09-26-2012, 12:51 PM
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WOW..so true...If you quilt only for positive reception by the giftee you can end up miserable!!
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I learned along time ago that if someone doesn't like my hand made gifts it's their loss. I usually tell the person.....if it's not your flavor~ pass it on! The gift is in the giving
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Old 09-26-2012, 01:18 PM
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I love Leah Day's blog, website and videos. She comes across as a sincere person with genuine remarks about products.
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Old 09-26-2012, 01:24 PM
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Great article - and agree 100%. Most of my quilts go off in the mail and i never know if they are used - or wind up as the oil catcher on the garage floor.....i put my best into every one - would never send one i wasn't happy with....BUT having said that - i sent 2 couch quilts off as wedding gifts to my husband's nephew in July (posted the photo of one under pictures "Lost my mind assembling quilt"
Well..got their thank you card last week..and they said thanks for the check we sent, but no mention of the quilts at all....and since they were in the same box, i know they got them....so yeah....that kinda hurt my feelings - cuz even if they hated them - a thank you in writing doesn't require you to fake it too much.
Oh well...que sera !!
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Old 09-26-2012, 05:40 PM
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Great post I needed to read this today as I have been stressing over a quilt I am making, but now I feel I can continue with what make me happy and I enjoy as I no control over what they will think about it. I just enjoy making it and forget trying to second guess what they will like. Thanks for sharing this link.
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Old 09-27-2012, 04:44 AM
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I learned a long time ago to size up the recipient. If they are crazy for quilts, then the sky is the limit. If they are sort of ho-hum or rather disinterested I put a lot less work in a quilt or simply make a table runner or maybe a purse. Something they are likely to use and enjoy, but not so much work that you have to be angry if they don't use/like it.
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It's funny this should come up at this time. I gave my neice a bow tuck bag for Christmas ,was at her house reciently
and ask her if she liked it her reply was she had thrown it in the closet, I was hurt, she could have lied to me, she was at my house just this week and she told me she is now using it and she loves it , uses it to take to work putting all her stuff in it and most of she loves the pockets. I guess it takes some time for things to process. Good luck to all who give keep it up.
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Old 09-27-2012, 07:27 AM
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Great article and points well made. I have given up being hurt by giving quilts to anyone who does not appreciate the gift.
Now I am involved making quilts for orphanages in the Ukraine and the women who receive my quilts to send them
there are crying when I deliver about 15 quilts a month. They are so thankful and it makes want to make even more.
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