Hi - I've been on this board for nearly a year, and I go on it every day, usually more than once a day, because I love looking at everyone's work and seeing what others are talking about. I respond to other peoples' posts, too, although maybe not as often as others.

But when I post a picture of my latest completed project, I have found that I get a very minimal response from the rest of the board. Most pictures get over 100 responses, many get much more than that, while mine have been averaging under 20. This has happened so many times that I am forced to wonder if there is some unwritten rule I am breaking that I don't know about. I wouldn't ask, except that it happens every time. It's starting to bug me a bit, even hurt my feelings a little.

I love this board, but I'm not really feeling the love in return. Please be honest, is it me?

Mary B.

Definitely NOT!

Sometimes it just happens that way especially if there are a lot of new topics posted in a day. I have some that have very few posts but I don't worry about it. Try not to let it get to you. We love you!!

I'm wondering if it depends on the time of day you post?

I do understand though - the last picture I posted got exactly ONE response so I wondered if the project wasn't worthy? I had posted it as a work in progress and then posted it completed so maybe our forum family was telling me they were tired of it? Or just maybe... it was a time when either a lot were posting so it was hard to get to everyone or ... very few were posting and it got buried before people saw it. Perhaps it's just happened that your posts have been at times when some lively discussion was taking up the general interest?

So ... I too have wondered about this. Try not to read too much into it. What surprised me the most was how much it bothered me! And I'm one that thinks it's funny when a picture has 27 "Beautiful" comments on it!

I am sorry that you feel hurt. If it makes you feel better, it happens to me often too. I notice that many people read the topic, but don't reply. So, I personally have put more value on those who do respond. By the way, I lived in the San Gabriel Valley for 13 years. I love San Marino :)

It's hard to explain what is going to get a lot of comments and what won't. I don't know the answer, but I just looked at several of your pictures, and you do fantastic work. It is very well made and quilted. I love the variety of work you seem to do.

Sometimes I think it might have to do with the time of day something is posted. Sometimes items get back to the first few pages by a newbie who is looking over old posts and brings them back for another round.

Please don't be hurt. This is a great board and a great bunch of people who are usually very helpful, courteous, honest (when asked to be) and would never knowingly slight someone.

Don't feel slighted. Some pictures get more response than others. I've posted some that got lots of comments, some hardly any comments. I don't comment on every quilt I see and like. If I did I'd never get off the board. I'll bet you have looked at and appreciated posts that you didn't comment on too. :thumbup:

Mary, no it's not you. There are hundreds of posts that go up daily and it takes a while to read thru all of them. I am sometimes on the board for hours reading mostly, and sometimes responding. Some posts I just read and then proceed to the next post. I don't leave a comment on every post I read. It's impossible. I would never get anything done. Usually responses are plentiful when a post is first put on. As you can see, the more posts that go up, yours moves down so sometimes members may not always look too far down to read the older posts.

Please continue to post pictures and ask questions. We are all here to help each other and I am sure you will get more responses the more you post. We all love to see pictures of works in progess so slap a few of them under the pictures category along the way. Continue to read other posts and respond to them as well by leaving a comment or asking a question to that post. Good luck and welcome to the board.

Oh, and it's happened to me too.

I'm sure you're not doing anything wrong or breaking any rules. If you are, then I don't know about them either...lol. I think a lot of people, myself included, look but don't always post. I find I don't have time to post and I guess I've posted on those that catch my eye for some particular reason or other..maybe it contains some technique I'm particularly intersted in at the time. That's not saying that there's anything at all wrong with those I don't post on. Everyone's work is unique and lovely and I enjoy looking at all of them. I have posted only a few pictures of my work and I've had some that haven't attracted a lot of comments but that's just the way it goes..nothing to worry about.

Don't let it upset or worry you. Just keep creating and posting your work because I know everyone loves to see what we are all doing, whether we get many posts or not. Just keep enjoying your quilting..that's the important thing :)

I have had a similar experience here and felt as you do. I'm sure it's not you, I went back and looked at some of your posts and thouh I hadn't left a comment I did remember your quilts and thouht they wre lovely. You do good work. I think the other posters are most likely right, some days on the board are busier than others. People often look but may not have time to comment, even on projects they like. I guess we need to learn not to take it personally -lol!!

Mary,

I only get on in the evenings after work and by than it is hard to say how far down the posts are. I am usually too tired and try to look as far back as I can, but tend not to post on every quilt, but I do try to look at all the quilts and dream that I can only do as good as some of them are made.

Maybe it's the time of day you post. I just went into your screen-name to see your picture posts and I had not viewed *any* of them. I don't open every picture post I see, but I usually open quite a few of them, so I'm surprised I never happened on one of yours.

Incidentally, I *love* the Alfie baby quilt!

Don't feel bad - my last post with pictures got NO responses. I was a little surprised, but my feelings are not hurt. I just assume I didn't put a catchy enough subject on it! There were a lot of other things posted that day, too.

The number of people on this board has mushroomed in the last year, and a lot of the 'old' familar names don't pop up as often as they used to. I'm thinking it's not because they're not posting - it's because so many other people are posting. That's a GOOD thing, because there even more interesting things to read here than a year or 2 ago, because there are so many more quilters posting. IMHO.

It is not you!!! As other's have said, if there is a lot of pictures in one day or if you post when it's late at night or not many people are on it won't get a lot of responses etc. I have had many posts that have had only a couple of comments and others that have had 6 or 7 pages.

I look at the pictures that are posted, but I rarely post on them. I have to get some things done in the house, and there just aren't enough hours in the day to post on every picture shown.

If you look at the other posts, there are quite a few with one or two pages of comments, and it is neither just newbies nor just oldies who have to deal with that. I spend a bit of time on the QB and did not see a single one of your posts. (You do really nice work BTW)

Don't look at the QB as a popularity contest. We are all here to support each other and if you got 2 pages of positive comments, that's a nice support.

If you are more concerned about building a relationship with fellow QB members, you may try your own thread on the PDA section, but even there, you have to BUILD a relationship. I have few PDA "friends" where I check in regularly. Most of the members I don't.

Just enjoy the board and rejoyce in the fact that you fit in with the rest of us.

There is a logical reason for this. I only look at unread topics. If I look at it when you first post it, I won't see it listed again when you update it. Because I have already read it! I stopped posting "Beautiful" on all the pictures because of the posts complaining about too many of the comments. They thought it was just being done to get the posts up to be a regular.

So I guess I can't win!!!! Never meant to hurt anyone's feelings and I am sorry you both felt this way. Guess I'll start commenting again. (At least until the complaints start again!!!)♥♥♥

I think all of us are way too busy, way too rushed, never enough time......I know I would love to look at everything on here, everyday............esp the pictures.......but I just dont have the time...that is probably what has happened with yours too........and even if you have time to look, you dont have time to do any comments, etc....please dont feel hurt or unloved......we, as quilters, can always appreciate the things everyone makes !!

Mary, it's not anything you are doing wrong. I usually go straight to Recent Topics, it averages about 4-5 pages. Then I head to Unread Topics and two hrs. have just flown by. I haven't even made it to Home and the list of main, pictures, BOM, Intro, etc. yet. I think because pictures is one of the busier section the topics drop down the list pretty fast.I am guilty of looking at your post on your DH's cousins wedding quilt and not commenting, :oops: when I saw it ,my first thought was " whooo, how pretty ,love the colors, nice quilting, I bet they loved it and then the label, wow , love the embroidered vine & leaves and thought I need to bookmark/save to faves on this one.I saved it to my faves.Sorry I didn't let you know how much I liked it. And the quilt for Alfie is precious, love the fabric and your colors. I think sometimes I am so intent on not missing anything and seeing ( x) amount before I get off that I forget to comment in my haste. And I have had post with low views and comments, and admit I have wondered if anyone would notice if I quit posting, but have also thought , well I quess they're like me , pressed for time or whatever and keep reading and enjoying the post.I also look at total views for the post, some of yours have thousands and think of the ones that comment as your QB friends and your cheerleaders! If you don't mind I added you to my buddy list, now I can find your topics in a flash. :thumbup: :D :D :D Please keep the pictures and visits coming :thumbup:

I am pretty sure its the time of day. I voluntarily post Today's Birthdays and when I do it at 6:00 in the morning, not too many post, so now I am posting around 9:00 am.

Due to time restraints I ususlly look at the first page and am sure I have missed some lovely quilts and informative post that have been moved to other pages because of the volume of post.Please don't feel hurt this is a wonderful group. I would love to personally welcome every new member and comment on every project but I would spend hours here and have to work to afford my quilting addiction.

I love seeing the pics but hate going through a gazillion "nice job" "beautiful" etc. responses. That goes without saying.

Same here! Maybe I should at least put something. But saying the same thing over and over again, even though I do MEAN it, seems a bit redundant.

Keep posting Mary, we all luv yuh!

Just had a look at your work, it's all beautiful.....and I have to say I hadn't seen it before! :D

Your work is beautiful...and somehow I seem to have missed most of your pictures...so it must have something to do with the time you post. I usually click on 'recent topics' (because there is so MUCH on the board to read!) so I must have missed yours. Others must do the same thing. I think your quilts are fantastic!

There are so many new posts each day that I don't have time to check out each one. If it is a weeknight, I'll browse the list and click the ones that have a descriptive title. On the weekend is when I have time to relax and savor everyones work! And even then, with 3 teens in the house, I may only get to check out the first 3 or 4 pages.

A forum I used to belong to issued a 'cease & desist' plea for the members to NOT post simple 1 word replies "Gorgeous" etc, since the mods had to screen each post - I guess that always stuck with me. I've seen hundreds of breathtaking quilts that I didn't comment on, for that reason.

I wish I could reply to everyone, I love seeing peoples work, yours included. Keep posting it! and go look at the view count, people might not reply, but you'll see it gets read quite a bit.

Mary, I just looked at your posts and your quilted projects are wonderful. However, I don't recall having seen any of them before. I work during the day. I check the QB in the morning and again in the evening, but often don't get to check during lunch. So my guess is that a lot of people are just missing your posts.

That being said, I must admit, there are a lot of times I will see a quilt or other project and my first response will be "Oh wow...how beautiful!" But all too often, I don't stop long enough to comment because I have such a small amount of time to look at everything being posted.

I'm sure it is not you or your work because you do beautiful work. I think it is a timing and volume issue.

I don't think you're doing anything wrong, most of the times when I've posted a topic, if I get more than 5 or 6 responses, that's unusual, sometimes I can post a topic and 2 hours later, it's not even on the front page, and I don't think most people on the board go farther than that, I know I will occasionally, but that's all.

It is difficult to know what makes people curious enough to look and then reply. Don't give up. Most of my posts only get a few replies and then a silly one I did on daffodils appearing in my garden/yard earlier this week has run into 4 pages already.

Just keep going and I, certainly for one, will look out for your posts.

I agree with the answers posted above. There is just not enough time in a day to respond to all the topics on this board and have a life at the same time.

IMHO, I did not realize people felt slighted or would feel slighted if their pictures/posts were not responded to...for me to just respond "beautiful quilt" or something simular when it has been repeated over & over again seems redundant. I don't post pictures but if I did I certainly wouldn't expect kudos for whatever I posted. I come here to learn different approaches by other quilters and respond when I think I might be of help to someone.

I might get slammed for this but to feel I was not appreciated because of not getting a response or not getting enough responses just makes it seem one only comes here for validation instead of being a part of a group that wants to learn (variety of quilting methods/styles) share ideas,experiences and try and help others when you could.

There are so many topics on this board that unless you are able to spend many hours here there is no possible way to wade through everything each and everyday. People are posting all the time and that's how posts go futher down and don't always get viewed by everyone. The Pictures section is wonderful and all the quilts & sometimes other things shown there are fabulous but that doesn't mean I have/need to respond to each and everything as to not hurt the feelings of the poster. I enjoy looking as much as the other person but have found myself staying away from the Pictures section because I don't want to feel like I am obligated to make a response to their beautiful work. To feel unappreciated or slighted because of this just doesn't compute in my world. You are not the first to bring this up and I have seen others concerned their topics were not responded to as much as others were...well, there are thousands of us here and we respond to things that interest us on any given day. As also mentioned many of the topics may not even be opened because of the vague title description and not knowing what the original poster was desiring. Also if you see there are numerous viewers but no reponses then the answer is probably the opener was curious but it wasn't a post they felt they wanted/needed to respond and moved on to a topic they wanted to participate in. There may also be many topics of interest but your answer would be the same as many of the others so you felt it wasn't necessary repeat the same thing. There are as many opinions of this as their are members on this board.

You are not breaking any rules written or unwritten nor is anyone else who doesn't respond to your posts. I am sorry you aren't feeling the love and joy of being on this board. I don't believe anyone is trying to slight you for all the various responses that are already made. This is a very loving, caring, giving group that is simply amazing in all they do for each other no matter what the capacity they are participating in....each and everyone has value to this board. I laugh, cry, empathize, learn, and try to help on this board like everyone else here. Please don't set yourself up with expectations from members who mean no harm to you, who themselves are here for their combined love of the art of quilting and desire to be a part of something greater than themselves.

I'm here, mostly looking and reading and learning with my morning coffee. I haven't posted any quilts yet.... need to figure that out and just haven't had the time for that either. YOUR quilt maybe THE quilt that gives someone an idea and you'll never know. Give yourself a pat on the back.

It is probably the time of day that you are posting. I don't know what time that the newsletter is actually put out but there are so many post now that it doesn't take too long for a post to just move on down the line. Many of mine have not had many responses. And, I think that is the reason. I'm just trying to figure out when the best time to post is. Also, many of my post never make it to the newsletter. I count myself lucky when they do.

I look at all the pics too,but sometimes I am in a hurry with things that need done,and I dont reply.It happens to all of us. Please dont feel hurt or insulted. This is a wonderful board and you are as important as anyone else! Hugs!

Please continue posting pictures of your work! I LIVE to look at pictures of quilters' work on this board. I know I miss a lot of them, and just don't have time to comment on many that I do see (like right now I SHOULD be in the shower getting ready for work...). I'll sure make a point of looking at yours later today when I have a few minutes though.

No way!
It really must be a coincidence.

When looking at different "rooms" I only go through the first page or two before moving on. Consequently if many have been listed they will move beyond that quickly and I'll probably never see them.

Often times I do post short comments on pictures others have put up, but it's because the picture or something about it has caught my attention in some way. Never do I post just to increase my postings. If someones hard work catches my eye, I think I should let them know their talent is appreciated!

Hang in there... :D
Lori

Hi Mary B. I can tell you right now it's not your quilts in fact I am one of those who usually don't respond. If you are talking about the wedding quilt it was awsome. I just don't say much but I love looking and learning on this site and hope you take in consideration there are alot of people like me that look and admire but just don't say much. Sorry your feelings were hurt. Marilyn

I AM GUILTY . I LOOK AT ALOT OF POST THINK THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL STUNNING BUT NEVER POST. MOST TIMES I AM IN A HURRY . HAVE OTHER THINGS THAT NEED TO BE DONE BUT JSUS HAVE TO LOOK . I BOOKMARK ALOT .

It's not you. Happens to me, but, then again, I can't respond to everybody's posts either, so I guess it is hit or miss.

I don't always post either because I can't wait to see the next idea, noone on this board would ever want anyone to feel slighted. We (me) often just don't think about things like that, and if there are 8 or 10 postings of beautiful work I don't want to duplicate. Think many times we assume that people know how we feel and often times we fail to tell them.
Very sorry you felt hurt!!
Michele