Sometimes it's hard for me to accept that I cannot do some things myself. I used to be pretty efficient at moving "stuff" around, but neuropathy has weakened me. He's very good at helping and also good at procrastinating. I am interested in your ideas for getting them motivated.:)

I get my step-son to help, he asks no questions, does what I want and I give him a few bucks. Works for me.

My husbands sister married my brother...so what we use to do, was she would call my husband and I would call hers to get things fixed. The guys hated that..so we never had issues any more. Tell him a friends hubby is going to be coming over to help...omg...men hate that.. lol

I've always just started doing stuff myself. if he helps that great. If not it still gets done the way I want it.

An apple pie usually works for me....

ROFLOL! Too funny!

:lol: This I can agree with. My dh does the same thing. Why do you have all this? What are you going to do with it? If I get on a roll to do a bunch of something he's like "it's not a race, you don't have to use it all at once"

Tell him you are going to have a headache tonite.LOL

I think I might take tomorrow off to organize some things so he will only have to move furniture. He doesn't need to see everything that will be in there. I have just started collecting quilt stuff but I have a TON of cross stitch stash.

My husband says if I want something done to do it myself. He seems to have no guilt level as he sits and lets me paint, move furniture, do yard work, whatever and bribes have never worked. I believe it is called LAZY! After 23 years, I just go ahead and do it myself. It's just easier! And if I get stuck with something, I just call my wonderful son in-law.

My dh is usually pretty good to help when I ask. But I have found that just starting things can bring him in on a project pretty quickly.

Welllll.....I'm 77 now, but that USED TO WORK when I had a hubby --- MANNNNNY YEARS AGO (& you you maybe BOTH get something out of it ) :lol:

call your girlfriend over and forget the hubby.

FOOD is the greatest bribe for men. I usually put on something that will smell real good and start rearanging and he shows up ASAP I think he thinks if he helps it will get done faster and he will get to eat whatever I'm fixing.

LOL :thumbup: :thumbup:

Tell him you are going to your LQS for fabric or you will stay home if he will help you in the sewing room.

You probably won't be able to cook or do laundry till you rearrange it yourself. (or whatever else you do for him that he would miss!)!!

Good one!!!

Best one yet

My DH would like to help me but I tell him no way - stay out of my room!!!!!! He might throw something away!

Tell him If you don't have re-arrange by...whatever day you chose. You are going to hire it done. This works for me every time. Good Luck. Diane

Just start doing it yourself and ask his advice and he'll probably pitch in.

Just start doing it yourself and ask his advice and he'll probably pitch in.

That's true - there is nothing that gets my husband motivated than thinking that his delicate little flower of a wife (NOT!) is going to try to do some "man's work". He's sure I'll screw it up and he wants it done right, so he runs to the rescue. LOL works every time.

Tell him that is grounds for divorce...

Usually, I just ask him to help me decide how it should be done, arranged, etc. That gets him involved and he gives ideas I may not have thought of.

Anytime I would ask for something I always got it the carpenter's way. That guy would do things his way, if I said something my DH would always say '' He knows what he is doing''. One day I just registered for a woodworking course at the Adult Education. My project was the railing for a 37' gallery. I repeated the course to make the slats. In June I asked him if he wanted to put that up or if I would do it by myself. Never had any problem after that, he knew that if I didn't get exactly what I wanted I could use a saw and a hammer! Carpentry and sewing are alike , the only difference a 5/8 or 1/4 seam.

Apple pie always works at my house--and make sure you do not forget the cinnamon. Be sure he sees you making it, then ask him to help you while it bakes!
Peach pie if he does not like apples.
Not a pie eater? Try chili and cornbread!

:-P :D :roll: Funny! Jan

Thanks for all the suggestions! I will use them, my usual tactic is to wait forever, get mad and then do it myself!

I think some of you ladies are just bragging.

Funny you say that Marthe, my husband is a carpenter and he is astounded that I (who won't touch a bandsaw or a router) am now measuring and cutting and puzzling where to cut to get correct finished dimensions for my quilts. HE says it's like carpentry, too!

My hubby is usually pretty good about helping me, especially since he retired, but I find the best way to get his help is when I take initiative and start something first. If he sees that I'm doing something, he's much more willing to help. Let us know what you did and if it worked out best for you. :)

I like this one too!
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I usually start it myself and the guilt works. I have also opened the classifieds and when he ask me what I am looking for I tell him someone to help me ............
If it costs him money, he would rather do it himself. :lol:

Loved reading all of these!

I usually ask, "what can I do for you that would compensate for your helping me do what I need to have done".. My dear one says, "if you know where you want things, just tell me, but I don't want to stand around while you make up your mind." He said "life is helping when it is needed, no bargaining required". Is he wise, or what?

First have a plan on where, and how you want your room to look. Go into your quilt room and make so much noise in there he'll have to come and investigate. Once you have his attention ask him if he can give you a hand moving a couple of things. Really I tried this and it worked for me. If it works for you and once your done, make sure to tell him how wonderful he is and that you couldn't have done it without him. We all love the fesling of being needed.

I usually just turn on the scroll saw and he comes running. Which is funny since I can use it better than he can (or maybe that's the reason he wants to do it)

ha ha ha ha ha.... sooooo very funny!