From what I understand,we used to all do it that way because we always matched the back with the front colors.Now we can back the quilt with muslin or a sheet,whatever we can afford,and its cheaper in the long run ,if you do a seperate binding strip.(depending on how you do it.)

I'm glad you came here to vent...makes me appreciate my own Mom so much more...she applauds for each of her 4 kids...
my Grandmom, though, sounds alot your mother...but deep down, we knew Grandmom also loved us...my Mom always tells us, sometimes those that love us the most tend to be the hardest on us...I can't give you any new advice, and I hope you and your mother have a better future...

I'm babysitting and my youngest DGD just erased my whole reply, thank you sweetness....!
now, here is a summary of what I said:
I just wrote all about this method of binding that you are using, to someone bc it is so economical and convenient!
People sometimes feel guilty about their own habits and doings and want to keep focus off themselves so they find fault with others.
It is so easy to do it to family, especially kids,...even if they are grow, bc we are all so reluctant to tell our parents when they are doing wrong.
It's just as wrong for your mother to criticize you as it is for me or you to do it to another person.
You are being the bigger person and it is hard...trust me, I know all too well...but we do it for this reason:
It is better to resist returning unkindness for unkindness and we can feel good about being the person with traits we admire in others.
You are not doing anything wrong and there is nothing wrong with tying your quilts either.
These are all personal choices and you have earned the right to decide to quilt every waking moment if you so choose, unless it causes upset within your own household.
I'd try to change the subject when quilting comes up with 'mom' in the future. She is being a spoiled sport who feels guilty.
It's ok to be upset...just do it without being ugly. I applaud you...trust me, sometimes I need to be encouraged to "rise above" too! You go girl!!!! ;-)

i like that "It`s your quilt and you can do whatever you want" mentality!!!! lol

You know, I have never heard of this method! It makes great sense to me.

Deanna , { my birth given name is Dena} :D my very critical mom is half the reason I don't attempt anything out of my comfort zone. I vowed to change that this year & I am 55 yrs old. I could go into alot of pycho pabble but bottom line is do what you like...I have finally realized there are no quilt police, they aren't going to come in my home & arrest me.
I've done my quilts in several different ways:
I tie alot of my quilts,
I also bind the way you described,
I also use old blankets instead of batting sometimes-ok most of the times.
I taught myself to quilt years ago when I had a family and needed to do things cheapy.
I hate reading patterns so most of the time I design myself or even wing it as I go.
There is no right or wrong its what you want and if you are happy with the end result thats all that matter.
Happy Quilting!!!!

Hang in there Kiddo. Next time don't tell her what you're doing. She should be supporting you in your endeavors and not putting you down. Don't let her pull you down. A lot of the old, old, old quilts were bound that way and they were also tied. We're behind you all the way.

It isn't cheating to bind that way! Just another creative way to finish a quilt. I read your own philisophical statement it is so timely for your situation read it yourself again! I have toxic people in my life also so it helped me to read your statement. Thanks ! ;)

Just remember it is your quilt--and you are getting yours done.

Can you sew or watch TV while talking/listening to her. Maybe just listen with part of one ear???
Susan

I have been quilting for only a year but i have seen so many quilts done by ladies who have been quilting for like 20 years and believe it or not my quilts are WAY better, and i cheat (like they say!!!) but when they see my quilts they can't close their jaws...with that said you taking the time to actually make the quilt is a talent that should be appreciated and never be told it is a waste of time. God bless you for just keeping quiet with your mom because she is still your mom and they should be respected and loved for who they are. Also the fact that you hand quilt is amazing it is something i can never do.

Faten