A lot of men also associate quilt with girly. My son was not thrilled when I told him I was making him a quilt for college graduation. I made a rag quilt out of homespuns. He loved it...not girly, according to him. He keeps it on his couch and argues with his wife over who gets to cover up with it to watch tv. Now he has asked me to make him one with Texas Tech fabric like I made for his dad. Got the fabric. Hope to finish by his birthday. I say make him the quilt because it's something you want to do. Just go "manly" for him.

A couple of years ago, my DH and I spent a week at his aunt and uncle's place in Cape Coral, Florida. I was showing her pictures of quilts that I had made and she politely asked me not to make her a quilt as it is very warm there and they wouldn't use one. I wanted to do something nice for her since they were such wonderful hosts. Since I knew they entertain all of the time and they have a beautiful sun room, I made a set of 6 quilted, pieced placemats and 2 sets of matching coasters. Well she absoultely loved them. She still tells my MIL how many complements she gets on them. I didn't have hurt feelings, I just tried to find something that I thought she would appreciate since I knew a quilt wouldn't be it.

Few years ago I made one for my MIL but I think she didn't like it. I went to her house this weekend (they live 7 hours away) and she asked when I am making her a quilt. I said I had already made her one and she insisted I never had. I took her to the living room and showed her the quilt I made, used to stuff the spaces around the air conditioning unit. She then said that she ws kidding, she really doesn't want one.

Ouch! That would really hurt!
I am very lucky, I have a wonderful MIL. She cherishes the quilt I made for her and my FIL. She is not a quilter nor is she crafty, but she really appreciates all of the time and work that goes into making a quilt and she was honored that I made one for them.

omg, i would have taken it out from around the air conditioner and taken it back home with me.

Make him a quilt, but with man colors. I made a quilt for my DH that my MIL absolutely loved. He and I gave it to her for a Christmas/bday present (same day) and she uses it all the time and just cherishes it. I made DH another quilt. My mom wants me to make her a quilt, just something simple that won't take too much time - her words, so am thinking about a turning 20 or D9P for her. She isn't real picky about the colors except no black nor does she care about the pattern. Hope to get it made this year but need to finish 1 DD's and do the other DDs as well. Thas'ts in addition to baby quilts and quilts for charity. But I have huge stash and Dh doesn't mind much if I add more to the stash.

you know, they dont want to appear "needy" or excited, so go ahead and make it anyway. even if he doesnt end up using it" (but i am sure he will) he will still appreciate that YOU made it for your daddy :D

I mentioned to my son that I would make him a quilt and he stated that I would have to check with his wife as she wouldn't be happy with same. I had made my other 3 children quilts and they accepted them without rejection. I put the quilt away. I finally got it out a few months ago and finished the top and took it to my son and wife to see if they wanted the quilt when I finished and asked what type of back would they like. My son loved it and said Mom I'd pay for a quilt this pretty. (Double Irish Chain) Besides one of his sister stated she had dibbies if he didn't want it. So I guess time heals hurts.

My granddaughter told me she doesn't need any more quilts. I made her one when she was 3 and another when she was 16. She is 24 and specifically told me - no more quilts.

As for your father, perhaps he decided he didn't want anything else to have to give away when he passes. Some people are like that. My mom is one of those. She will accept the gift but you will get it back eventually. Perhaps your father is the same.

Upon asking our youngest daughter about the size for her quilt..SHE said that she did not want a quilt. When I told here that I already had it pieced (I made double blocks when I made one for our son) she said, "If that is all you have done, then don't finish because I don't want a quilt". I completed the quilt anyway, have it on OUR bed. Told the other children that 'when the time came' and she STILL did not want the quilt, then they could decide the fate...BUT, if at that time, she has grown to love quilts, she will have one made my her mom.... win-win situation, to me.

Yes, My DIL. About 2 years ago, she said they had received as gifts several of the "Tie fleece blankets" & had a few quilts already, so they really didn't need any more. I figured that was honest & I wasn't going to do all that work if it wouldn't be appreciated. BUT.........she just gave me a couple of her quilts that were quite worn out to make mats for our Pug Rescue group so maybe she' in the market for a new one??? I
ll think about it! :roll:

I think he is feeling like maybe he put you on the spot and this is the way he is getting himself out of it. I am sure he would love one of your quilts.

I started to make a small quilt for my sister and made the mistake of showing it to her. I asked if she would like it finished for her dining table or as a wall hanging. Her reply was ... I should finish it how ever I wanted and then give it to her daughter who really liked the colors!
That was several months ago and I did NOT finish it for my niece! Today, I bought a couple of yards of complimentary fabric and I will send it to Linus Quilts for them to send to Haiti.
My sister will never know!

That is the best idea ever! Someone in Haiti will truly love your quilt.

My mom didn't really care for quilts. I think she made some negative association to growing up during the depression and her grandmother quilting out of necessity. She also had three daughters who all quilted, knitted and crocheted, so she had more afghans and quilts than anyone should have to store. In 2002 we both decluttered the closets and took over 30 afghans and lap quilts to a nursing home. She loved that we put so much effort into her gifts, and she used them, but quilts were just not her favorite things. Maybe your dad just doesn't like quilts.

Well it's the other way around for me. I have said No to some who have asked me to make them a quilt. :lol: :lol:

BellaBoo, I am sure you had a good reason for that, just curious to why you said no thanks to a quilt.

Because the relatives that asked me I knew they would sell it it for little of nothing the day before payday. :!:

My ex-husband's new wife had the gall to ask me to make them a quilt for their bed. I told her she couldn't afford what I would charge.

I understand.

That was nervy!!! Good for you telling her no.

Just today, my MIL said she didn't want a lap quilt from me b/c a friend's daughter had already made her one. Don't know if I'm pissed or relieved. Maybe she thinks I'll need to buy fabric and she's worries about that b/c I'm unemployed. I'd have just sifted thru my stash to find some bright pretty fabrics and then made it. I may make one anyway only send to my mom and not MIL. Her loss.

I totally agree with this point of view.

Is he possibly worried that you would make him a foo-foo girly quilt with ruffles and pink? He may not realize that there are some nice "manly" patterns and colors and that a nap under a homemade quilt is 10x better than any other nap.

Well, I didn't ask, I just made my Dad a lap quilt using woodwork tools fabrics etc. Because he use to do that sort of thing. And he ask if I might be able to sell itor get something for it. Makes me wish I hadn't made it. Those fabrics weren't cheap. Could of use the money elsewhere. He complains about being cold even with the fleece lap thing his granddaughter via marriage made.

I have read most of the comments on this, their actually folks who do not care for quilts like we do. I would be every sure he wants a quilt before you make him one. If he did not use it I think you might feel really bad about it. Think about this, aren't there things you do not care for how would you feel if someone spend alot of time on that and gave it to you ?

You should have done it then put itching powder in the batting! :mrgreen:

Stop and think. Your dad is probably very proud of you for making such a nice quilt. He wouldn't want you to miss the money that the project cost you. Some men have a way of saying things that tend to hide their real feelings. (some women too). Your dad is proud of you and really wants the quilt. He thinks it's wonderful enough to sell. Just insist that you made it especially for him, because you really want him to have it. Before long, he will be all wrapped up in your love. (And he'll be showing it off every chance he gets.)

:thumbup: YES! :thumbup:

My mother basically told me she does not like quilts at all. She thinks if she can buy something at Walmart for 15.00 that matches her room, why would she want something from me that she does not like as much becuase it does not match as well . . WHAT-EVER is what I say. Her loss.

My dad always told me I didn't have to make him a quilt but when I did, he was so proud ot it, he took it with him all over for about two weeks to show his friends and family. I think he told me that because he didn't want me to feel that I had to make one for him. He loves it. I used a large farm print. He has farmed all his life.

I agree. Make him a nice "manly" one. He will love it.

I made a quilt for my gd one Christmas, and my daughter said, "another quilt?" She told me not to make any more for my gd, so I won't.

This reminds me of the quilts at my DD#2's house. I've given baby quilts, just because quilts, etc. They haven't turned one away yet. Perhaps because of kindness and good manners, or perhaps because they like them. They've always got a houseful of friends over. You can walk into the den, and all of the guys (or gals, depending on which child has friends over that day) are wrapped in those quilts.

Mine asked the other day when he was getting his quilt. He has a wall hanging and I have the fabric for his quilt.

Doesn't that just make your heart sing, Gail? Of COURSE they like them! :-D