2K. I love it!!! and there is nothing wrong with the color red!

hold your head up high!

Ninnie

Everybody has different tastes.
I find the quilts shown in Magazines are awful and so muddled you cannot see the design. Yet they are published and people like them.
So whatever you make some will like and some will not. Do your own thing and enjoy your art.

I love the quilts pictured here - the cowboy one is clever - the "Hell Fire" one is AWESOME.

Looks like a simple design with striking colors. Love it.

Camillacamilla - so sorry the criticism has you bummed.

We would like to see pictures of it - Is it remotely possible his comments may have some justification?

I love the comments about - well, if it's so doggone simple and easy, then YOU do it!

And yes, I have also lost interest in a project from criticism - even when the criticism is my own.

Fiddlesticks black isn't "evil"
Black makes other colors pop like no other color can ;)
I've done a couple quilts with black as the bg and I love how it makes
the colors seem so much more vibrant.
You're the one that has to be happy with it not hubby.
So long as "YOU'RE" Happy with it, what everyone else thinks is irrelevant.

I like the hellfire one it's the perfect name for it and the cowboy one looks great as well you can tell you put a lot of work into it.

.........This says it all.


You should keep at it the way YOU had originally envisioned it.

I wholeheartedly agree with this, also.

When you first decided that you wanted to make this quilt, was it for you or for your husband? If this answer is *you* then you should please yourself. If it was for your husband, then I wouldn't blame you for taking his comments to heart. If the quilt was made for the family, then you should still do as you please. If your husband thinks there should be a blue sky tell him to learn to make his own quilt.

[quote=2K] Here is Hell Fire
WARNING: NOT EVERYBODY IS GONNA LIKE THIS!
quote]

No, some of us just LOVE it! LOL!
One size never fits all - just know that it is beautiful to some eyes. Sometimes I have passed on things that did not appeal to me, but someone else loved them. It's the way of the world.

No, some of us just LOVE it! LOL!
One size never fits all - just know that it is beautiful to some eyes. Sometimes I have passed on things that did not appeal to me, but someone else loved them. It's the way of the world.

I don't care what people think and if I like what I am doing and they don't I keep on sewing.

I have not liked something I started and will stop working on it but only because I didn't like the way it was going. I usually just take it apart and use the pieces in something else.

Sybil

I love your quilt. I can almost feel the warmth coming off it. Love the colors.

There are things I do around the house a certain way, and hubby thinks they are sort of silly - a waste of time.
Ok, I rotate things. Rotating groceries is an excellent idea, but I also rotate the clothes and linens when putting away laundry.
He says, "Why do you bother, i just go in drawer and pick out the one I want."
I said, "I know, but as long as you don't let me see you do it, we're both happy."
About five years ago, I got the nicest car I have ever had.
We had some very bad hail, and it got 4,600 dollars worth of damage to it. Took it to a body shop and the gist of it is: the owners wife called and we had a conversation about their guy coming on Monday, (2 days away),...told hubby, and he stayed home from work. He did not want a stranger in his garage, etc.
Ok, won't put all the details, not important, but a few days later, both owner and his wife, denied that she ever called me. i was so stunned, I couldn't think of what to say. They were denying anybody called me.
Ok, how did I know to tell hubby, and who was the guy, that came on Monday, and took my car, and how come the car was at their business, when they finished with it?
I know the story might be a little confusing, but the point is this:
Because these ppl upset me so much...before the storm, I washed and dried my car, every week. Cleaned it and vacuumed, did all the vinyl and windows, pampered it, like a baby.
They did an excellent job on it, but the denials, and making me look like I was nuts...I have washed that car once, in past four or five? years.
We take it thru carwash, now. I still clean it, but no babying like I used to. I just don't feel the same way, and it's MY car.
We just associate certain experiences with objects sometimes and it is really hard to get over.
I know your feelings about your quilt might not change, bc hubby can't take back what he said, but I would tell him, how he made me feel, and the affect it has had on my being able to work on it. He should at least know, not to do this again in the future.

2K, I think the orange quilt is so cheery and happy!

2K and Quiltgranny, I have RA + other autoimmune disease troubles. Luckily, I am able to ease off the brain fog every day by taking a solid 2hour nap. Then I do some quilting, well unless it's a day my fingers don't work. So, I am very impressed with your abilities!

I don't know how I will react to someone not liking my quilting because it hasn't happened yet. That's probably because I've only made things for people close to me and I have never let them choose a pattern or colors (not necessary as I know what they like and their decor). I hate to admit this, but I will probably cry if someday it does happen so if I ever do experience criticism, I'd better reread what everyone here has said!

Cathy

I went to a quilt store and bought a rather substantial stash. The owner (who knew me privately) said to me: "Please tell me you are not buying ALL THAT for the same project." I said that it was. She then asked:"What will you call it - Nightmare on Elm Street?" I told her that I would bring the finished piece in and that she WOULD EAT HER WORDS.

I made the quilt EXACTLY as I had envisioned, and took it in to her. She made a real sourpuss puckered face and said that it turned out differently than she had thought.

SO, if you have the design in your mind, then you go ahead and finish it. If for no other reason than to prove to YOURSELF that YOU WERE RIGHT in your choice.

I'm pretty sure that DH would not have made a comment, had he known that he could knock you off center.

Hi Cathy,

My RA is in remission, but I do also have Sjogrens and Fibro. Lucky duck I guess. At least there's more documentation out now about having multiple IA's and their crossover symptoms. I appreciate your compliment, but I do want to assure you that there are days, sometimes weeks, that I am unable to sew or quilt at all. What I have accomplished has taken more than a year at a time for each quilt.

I wish I could nap, but if I do, then I don't sleep well at all, and I don't sleep very well anyway due to the Fibro. I'm glad to hear that your naps help you so much with your brain fog. Wish it were that simple for me. Oh well, I just handle it best I can. I'm thinking maybe the big reason I do have trouble with DH's comments is because I used to be so sharp and able to do just about anything I set my mind to. Not so much anymore. Guess we just have to keep recreating what we're capable of doing and do the best we can. Hang in there.

Karla

My very first quilt was a really complicated (many points meeting) and I did as much unsewing as sewing. My life took several 90 degree turns and I finally finished it 10 years later--living in a new place and a new husband. When I finally finished it and put it on the bed his only comment was "It sure is pink". Actually it was, but it had been started for another house and another decor. So we used it until I finished a new quilt and gave the pink one to a neighbor for her guest bedroom. She is so crazy about it, everyone who comes to her house has to go look at her quilt. So a very happy ending.

The red "Hell Fire" quilt was awesome.

Why has the picture of it been removed?

I have a son (one of four) who happens to like black and bright, basic colors. I made his first quilt ten years ago. It was 45 degree colors and my first time working with bias. I thot it was the ugliest thing I had ever made but HE loved it. It was well used and now he's ready for another one. This one is black background with music staffs in white and a huge, red treble clef in the middle. The back is beige with black music. He is an electrical engineer in the lighting, sound and decorating end of show business. I don't worry about anyone elses opinion. Only his, and he loves it. No, I'm not too fond of it either, but I like the pattern and ten years later, the workmanship is VERY improved.

It is so unfair for anyone to judge your work unless you ask for their
opinion. It is even more unfair for anyone to judge something that is not finished.

I was devastated when someone did that to me, and then I reallized that
I didn't like their taste at all, so why would I be upset when they didn't like mine? Thinking this way has saved me a lot of grief!

I feel so bad for you! Absolutely nothing kills the spirit like criticism or judgment... :( I can touch your feelings.

Frankly, I would throw the whole darn thing out and begin something new that I WANTED TO DO!

Sometimes people say things without thinking the problem is the more we respect (or love) that person, the more it hurts.

Keep your chin up and your mind creating...
Love from Norway

When I was learnign o quilt, I had several experiences like that, made by my hubby's family, who do not quilt. I even cried over one of them. I now quilt for myself. Our quilts are our creations and they can look how ever we want them to look. You keep right on gong with that quilt. It sounds beautiful to me. I love black in my quilts.

I say do it the way you want to. DH might just be surprised when he sees the finished product. I know sometimes when I see start something my DH will look at me with those eyes that says What are you thinking Woman? Well he is usually surprised at the finished product. I say go for it. And by the way I love those boots that the other lady showed. See I'd name it " These boots are made for walking." Pull out that mariners compass and go for it. Black just makes it interesting.

I have had the same thing happen to me, my husbands taste and mine are very different, I call him Mr Dull, all of his clothes match each other. So I have tried to tell myself his opinoin won't count on this matter, but then he says something, and it will seem to ruin the whole project for me.

I wish I had some wisdom to impart, I am just as prone to this problem as you are!

You know, this happens to me too. I'll be going along on a project and someone will give me some thoughtless "advice" that causes me to lose interest and confidence. I usually put the project aside for a while, maybe do something fun like a table runner or blouse for myself and sooner, rather than later, guess what? I decide to pick the original project up and say,"Who cares what someone else thinks? If I like it, it's okay. I'm doing something I love and I'm learning something from it." If you can, go back to your original idea and show DH just how wrong he was. But show him in a kind way. Men really have no idea how tactless they are. Good luck.

This almost happened to me, until I remembered it is about my creativity. I learned along time ago in life you aren't going to please everybody. As long as I'm happy with it and I trust the person will grow to love it.

Do what you love.

I can understand how you feel. My Dad use to build a lot of furniture & wood items. So I bought fabric with tools & wood grain etc. Built a large lap quilt just for him. What did he do & oh it nice why don't you see if you can sell it. Well, the label reads in such a way it is dedicated to him and I just can't sell it, not yet anyway. :lol: Anyway that kind of bummed me, wish I'd never spent what I did or made it. He hasn't ever used it and probably never will because he has a fleece his granddaugter-n-law made. :x

You know what just do you and the rest will follow. One can only imagine where any one would be in the quilting world if they always followed the crowd.

Quilt freely and creatively.

Diana

[quote=mimisharon] [quote] Let's laugh at all of this and say, "Ain't no such thang as an ugly quilt!"


Edited: Here is Hell Fire [quote]

i have room that would be a perfect place for hellfire to live, either as a bed quilt or an art quilt wallhanging. if you ever need to foster it out, i won't mind feeding and housing it for you until you're ready to take it home.

( :hunf: just you try!)

Camillacamilla,
I didn't get a chance to see your quilt but I'm sure it is beautiful!! Quilt granny yours is beautiful. It looks like a quilt that some one from my part of the country would make. The boots are great. Don't think I could do that.
Don't ever let someone else tell you how they think you should do a quilt. You are the one doing it. You envisioned it. It's your art. They should wait to see the finished product. I'm so lucky. My DH always thinks anything I make is beautiful and always brags about the quilts and paintings I do. Of course we have been married 43 years come July 14th.

I guess my family is different from others. We are all very supportive of each other's endeavors. My husband is interested in my quilting and always has really sweet things to say to me.

Maybe I just have a fragile ego and everyone knows I need to have it positively fed :wink:

My dh did that to me on one of my quilt projects and made me lose interest, but I continued on and finished, and he still put it down, till I said to him, " If you think it looks that bad then you go buy fabric you like and make your own and see if you can do it any better". He stopped putting his 2 cents in and now doesn't say a word, cause he knows he will have to make a quilt of his own if he does. I have made that a rule in our house!! Try it with your dh, see what happens, if he keeps it up take him to the quilt shop and let him get his own material and pattern and tell, this is what he is making ALL BY HIMSELF!!!

Obviously this topic touched a lot of nerves.

While I agree that you should finish it the way you want to, I probably would put it away and not finish it.

Do whatever makes YOU happiest.

T

So I want to know, are you gonna do your own thing with this quilt so we can see it now that we all have a vested interest in it?

I'd like to see it now, before it's even finished! I think this thread has done us ALL good on one level or another.

C'mon, show us what your ORIGINAL idea was all about. :mrgreen:

:? I am verrry Surprised it wasn't at the Quilt Guild where a Quiltzilla or Quilt Police said it or An Unfeeling Person that is. Stick it out and keep on keeping on quilting!!!

i once put together some blocks without concern for color.
It was after all just a mockup to practice with. I took it to the hospital, having just turned over the edges without binding
i took it with me to the hospital for comfort, My dh loved it, his mother said what an odd color combination, and the nurses oohed and ahed over it. So, it just goes to show you, anything you do at all is subject to criticism by someone. It does hurt when that is someone you love. But a project unfinished is just that , unfinished and it can change in a twinkling of an eye when the next step is taken.

I know what you mean,I made a baby quilt and so I wouldn't have to buy material for the back I looked around my stash and foud some that I thought would work.Bayb quilts get used up so I thought that back wouldn't matter so much. My sister in law is real presis on every thing neat,everything must match,you can't wear any thing that dosn't match.I shouldn't have let it bother me,since I know how she is. I don't change to a white purse,I carry the same one till it falls apart then buy an new one.that kind of thing. Well,here is what she said when she looked at the quilt,well it's nice,but what is this you have on the back. So I have never given it to any one,and it is a nice big one. May have to put my dogs name on it and let him have it. I spend more time trying to save money than trying to make every little thing match perfectly. And yeh,I do wer black socks with sneakers sometimes.

I have a rule that anyone who dares to exercise unqualified criticism of my work is OFF the list. They can kiss my formerly German white hiney and wait for hell to freeze over before they get a quilt. :evil: So far so good.

If I ask my HB about a quilt,he says it's ok,but then he says that not matter what I ask. What do you want for dinner? What ever you want to cook... did you like dinner? It was ok.. But if I do fix something he doesn't like,once I fixed Veg. lazanaha,,he said, I don't know what that is,but don't fix for me again.... So every thing is just OK,,until I hit on something really bad..

please go back to your first plan of doing it or you won't be happy an don't let his words hurt so much i had some nine patch squares i put into a black back ground an when i mentioned it they didn't like the sound but every body like it. it was put in a silent auction an my dad got it an gave it to dear friend for christmas 5yrs ago an i could have sold him the baby quilt to if i wanted it went for more

Why is it we let other people's opinion affect us so???

Post some pictures of it here. I'm sure you can get bolstered back into finishing.

My issue seems to lie in the lack of appreciation... so I just don't make quilts for people who I know won't appreciate them.