How about trying to over dye the fabric to blend better? If you aren't happy with it you don't have much to loose...JMHO

I had a similar experience with a quilt. I didn't unpick the border off, but instead, made a skinny border and then added color on the outside border to liven it up, and the neutral little strip, kind of separated what was going on in the center. Easier to trim, than to unpick.

Yeah, I hear you about the venting thing, but excuse DH because he's trying to be helpful and sympathetic. And sometimes he's right.

Could your helping husband photocopy a piece of the material on that fabric material for photocopiers. Sorry about lack of proper names. I saw a street map done with the owner of the quilts house marked so doing a sample of material should be possible.

Why don't you try just a bit of appliqué on those borders? If you're not good at appliqué, to can be raw-edge. Amazing how a vine or some berries or holly make a border beautiful.

Pieced border
 

Sometime what I do if I don't have enough border fabric, is sew a small "strata" of some of the interior fabrics, generally about 1" wide, and the cut it as wide as the border and add them between the larger border pieces. It ends up looking like a "design decision" and not that I've run out of border fabric.

can you tea dye it to look like it belongs more? Oh and applique is a great idea too!!

The cream boarder has been removed and is packed away snuggly with the rest of the stash, similarly colored. Am now waiting for CT replacement boarder fabric to arrive. When I was on such a creative roll, I took most of the unused scraps and made a large lap quilt so I'm plugging away on that, adding the final sashing. I just need to be patient for the replacement boarder fabric to come, but you all know how that is, the heart wants what the heart wants! If this is the biggest hurdle in my life, I'm one lucky woman.

Happy New Year to all quilt board members, and SouthPStitches, think of it this way -- 2013 started off not great for you, so it can only get better and better!

So sorry that your quilt didn't turn out the way you wanted.
I hate to rip, too, but in the long run, when we rip out and redo, we end up with the way we want it.
Wishing you peace in your day! May it get better!