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sharon b 04-27-2009 06:35 PM

I had a similiar experience, made two rag quilts for a "friend" having twins, went to the shower, no-one spoke to me, they could speak English just chose not to, I left early and never received a Thank You. And I have seen the boys several times and to date as far as I know she has never used the quilts.... Oh well her loss.. I still make quilts and blankets, some people love them , others just think oh well. It just goes with the territory. Keep your chin up , I do :lol:
Sharon

Barb M 04-27-2009 07:46 PM

Oh dear, i'm sure it must have been a mis-understanding, i'm sure she must love the care you put into making it :)

ScubaK 04-27-2009 08:43 PM

Do you think she was embarrassed?
I mean, you have helped her out a few times and maybe, just maybe...
I found out this holiday season that most people are embarassed about receiving a handmade gift. I embroidered several t shirts, dish towels and such and I know they turned out nice but never received a thank you...
I won't do that again...
But however, most people I give a quilt to are rolling over backwards expressing their gratitude!
K

sandpat 04-29-2009 03:42 AM

Pam, sorry that she didn't thank you, but I too think it must have been a misunderstanding. With the cultural difference...do you think she may have even though it was just an 'ole hand me down! Your work is so gorgeous, she probably thought it was "store bought" and still in such good shape that you just gave it to her :roll:

PrettyKitty 04-29-2009 04:00 AM


Originally Posted by Shadow Dancer
Is it possible that she is not familiar with quilting and the work that goes into making a quilt? Some people don't sew and don't have a clue what goes into making something. I am sure the quilt is appreciated and will be well used by the baby.

Wise words Shadow. I think it may be a combination of what Shadow said, as well as your message maybe getting lost in translation.

You should be proud of yourself! You did a really nice thing.

kayjak 04-29-2009 05:23 AM

I think I know how you feel. I made large quilts for my son and his wife and my grandson for Christmas 2008, and have yet to get a thank you. My daughter and her husband and my other grandson are still thanking me and sending pictures of them using the quilts. It really hurt that my son and his wife couldn't say thanks. Makes me sad! So, I know how you feel. Hopefully the lady will realize that you did a good thing for her and you are a special lady.
Don't let this experience spoil your heart of gold.
Have a great day!

pittsburgpam 04-29-2009 06:08 AM

I'll just consider it a miscommunication and hope that it's well used.

Sorry that others have not said thank you when they should clearly know better.

Made me smile yesterday when I talked to my eldest daughter and she told me when she opened the picture I sent of the partially done basekt quilt she yelled, "My quilt!!" and startled her fiance. Some things make up for others and it all works out.

Debbie1 04-29-2009 06:27 AM

I make baby quilts for all the young people at my work when they have babies. The last one I made I never got a little note or thank you. I really enjoy it when then send little notes with a picture of the baby though! I hope your neighbor just hadn't taken the time to look at the quilt and when she does she will appreciate it and in some way let you know.

scrappylouisa 04-29-2009 11:08 AM

I made a baby quilt for one of my husband's coworkers. He and his wife was having their first baby. When Rich gave the quilt to the young man.....he was speechless. He told Rich the next day that his wife loved the quilt that I had made for them. She sent me a Thank You note and later a photo of their new baby girl.

On the other hand I made a quilt for my nephew and his wife's new baby. I made it over a year ago.......I have never received a Thank you or a photo of my Grand-niece with her quilt.

tigerlily11 04-29-2009 08:45 PM

I feel the sting in this for you. I have experienced something similar and I agree with much of what has been said here. As for me, I have learned to be careful about giving too much of myself. ( I love to give and have had to dial it back in the last few years.) I, as all of you, put my heart and soul into my quilting and it feels like a "gut punch" when these things happen, especially when they concern family members. I have become more discerning and even seemingly "stingy" about who I will quilt for. I guess we all have lessons to learn about our journey with Arts and self-expression. That's what life is all about, right. (Also, I am not implying that you gave too much! This was just my philosiphizing!) Thank you for bringing this subject to the forum. I think I needed to know other people have similar situations.


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