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donnajean 03-01-2011 05:03 AM

Just want to thank all those who expressed kind words regarding my sister. Is it not great to know that there are so many of us loners. I spend a good deal of time alone working in my gardens, quilting, walking, etc. I agree that if someone is causing stress in your life, you are doing yourself a favor by avoiding them. Stress does kill! For those who do feel too alone, we are only a few clicks on the keyboard away. God Bless!

mcar 03-01-2011 05:04 AM

I think it is very important to be able to entertain yourself, to be happy even by yourself, to be self reliant, to do more than just socialize.... on the surface of life. But although we need time to alone to complete our work we also need to share it. So there needs to be a balance.

queenlatte 03-01-2011 05:28 AM

I don't think quilting can make you a loner. You're either a loner or not. I'm a home body. However, at times I crave some socialization. My DH and I have been in this town going on 5 years and have not met any friends. We're retired. My DH is very outgoing and I'm more reserved around people. I LOVE to meet outgoing people because they bring me out of my shell. Just started quilting, it's so fun and this QB is my new friend.

lclang 03-01-2011 05:33 AM

I had a very good friend of about 50 years who quilted and we corresponded all the time. She passed away and I sure do miss her letters. Makes me feel like a loner and I carch myself checking the mail for her letters. We shared patterns, ideas, and general chitchat.

mmb195152 03-01-2011 05:41 AM

So sorry for the loss of your sister. How wonderful your thoughts of her can live on whenever you use one of her pieces of material. I think there is a difference between being a loner, and being lonesome.

Personally, I am social when I want to be, but on my free time I like to read, sew and garden. If doing what I like to do makes me a loner, so be it. I raised my kids, took care of my parents, spend time with my grandkids when I can, am willing to lend a hand whenever needed, but my time is now my own, and I love it.

The world needs lot of different people. enjpy being who you want to be. M

bunniequilter 03-01-2011 06:07 AM

Sorry for the loss of your sister. I wouldn't describe myself as a loner. My house is my comfort zone, it's the one place I feel at total peace, and my sewing room is the heart of my comfort zone.

raedar63 03-01-2011 06:45 AM

How sad, yes I see myself the same way.....

EagarBeez 03-01-2011 07:01 AM

sorry for the loss of your sister. For me, I guess you could call me a loner now. I have 2 sisters, but, they both live across the country from me. I saw one of them 2 yrs ago and the other about 6. I talk to them. I had friends back on the east coast, but, since moving across the country to where I am now. We correspond through Christmas cards. Actually, I only know where my one friend is, the others either got sick and passed on or moved. We lost touch. Both my parents have passed within the last 6 yrs. It's me and DH. We live in a rural area. No neighbors across the street. House is vacant. Woman in the Nursing home. Our neighbors across the way are young with small kids. My in-laws who have a house in the next lot from us are here during summer months. No quilting groups in our area. The closest 100 miles. I speak to people in stores and a howdy doodie to some, but, it is mainly DH and I. He watches T.V. or weather permitting will build wood furniture. I used to be more sociable, but, lost my hearing and now, have a cochlear implant which helps. People look and try to figure what the heck I have on my ear. It's fun educating them. But, no close friends. I do my quilting which I love art work and designing and then we travel once a year to visit kids and grandbabies
I have this quilting board and all you wonderful people, whom I consider to be friends. Thank you all

sew_sew 03-01-2011 07:10 AM

I'm a bit of a loner but always was. I'm perfectly friendly and get along well with others but it part of who I am to like my private times. Thus said, I wish I of not left my husband (now ex husband) alone watching tv so much. I hated the shows he watched but maybe I should have given up having a sewing room and put my sewing maching on a table near where he sat watching tv.

mhansen6 03-01-2011 07:44 AM

Quilting has done just the opposite for me. I have met so many wonderful people through this hobby that I now call friends. The only problem is that I want to retire so I can spend time with these friends and do more quilting.


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