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SingerSewer 03-10-2015 03:54 PM

A solution may be at hand...one of the ladies who is going also teaches classes locally. She has been helping the lady with all of her cutting, etc. when she takes a class or just needs help. She is going to help the lady in need to have everything cut out before we leave and make sure her projects are simple and easily completed. I am sure the lady in need will want to have her station near to her.

Thanks for all of the great comments and suggestions. I have laughed at some, shook my head at a few and found out we really aren't as special as I thought. Seems lots of people deal with the same sort of thing.

Please continue to post. We also have one who wants to take over everything. No matter who is doing a program she jumps right in and wants to do the teaching. We do get VERY aggravated with her. Again, a nice woman but...

Neesie 03-11-2015 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by SingerSewer (Post 7122874)
A solution may be at hand........

Please continue to post. We also have one who wants to take over everything. No matter who is doing a program she jumps right in and wants to do the teaching. We do get VERY aggravated with her. Again, a nice woman but...

You need to get one of those 'Quiet!' signs and appoint someone to hold up, when needed. If that doesn't work, whack the offensive person over the head with it.

SingerSewer 03-11-2015 10:38 AM

We actually use a bell for our guild meetings. It helps but doesn't make for quiet long!

CMARAS1234 03-13-2015 10:47 PM

I just say" that doesnt work for me right now. maybe later if i have time"cmaras1234

bcross 03-14-2015 04:56 AM

At our retreats we had one or two that
were annoying, talking constantly. We
assigned tables and put them together
It made one fuss that she couldn't get
anything done but she never realized
she was guilty of the same behavior.
We were blunt with her. It didn't help
She is no longer in the guild. The other
one learned from the experience and
has become less chatty during sewing
times. You should not let one person
spoil it for others. Try kind first then
be firm with I don't have time to help
you now. Sometimes it will work and
sometimes you will lose a member

Neesie 03-14-2015 06:59 AM


Originally Posted by bcross (Post 7126911)
At our retreats we had one or two that
were annoying, talking constantly. We
assigned tables and put them together
It made one fuss that she couldn't get
anything done but she never realized
she was guilty of the same behavior.
We were blunt with her. It didn't help
She is no longer in the guild. The other
one learned from the experience and
has become less chatty during sewing
times. You should not let one person
spoil it for others. Try kind first then
be firm with I don't have time to help
you now. Sometimes it will work and
sometimes you will lose a member

I love that solution! :D

tkhooper 03-14-2015 07:36 AM

You make me afraid to say anything at the new group I have joined. I'm the least experienced and now I'm wondering if I should even try to join a group.

bearisgray 03-14-2015 11:08 AM


Originally Posted by tkhooper (Post 7127122)
You make me afraid to say anything at the new group I have joined. I'm the least experienced and now I'm wondering if I should even try to join a group.

Groups do vary. You may need to "try" more than one to find one you are comfortable with.

miriam 03-14-2015 11:36 AM


Originally Posted by tkhooper (Post 7127122)
You make me afraid to say anything at the new group I have joined. I'm the least experienced and now I'm wondering if I should even try to join a group.

Now I feel that way, too.

Why would you go to a week end retreat to sew if you want things quiet? Stay home if you want quiet.

HouseDragon 03-14-2015 12:13 PM

It has less to do with being "quiet" than with interrupting the person next to you and making it impossible for her to hear what the instructor has to say. When I've paid good $$$ for a class, I don't want to miss a single minute of it.

If you don't understand what the teacher is saying, please raise you hand and ask her directly. She may answer your question right away especially if others are nodding their heads; or if it's obvious you're in over your head, she may tell you she'll come help you with she finishes with that step.

Please make sure when you take a class that you understand how to sew with your machine and how to do basic quilting. When you sign up for a class at our LQS, the class is rated "Beginner" "Intermediate" "Advanced": if you're not sure, ask the shop owner if the class is right for you. If you've been taking other classes or BOMs, she'll either know your quilting expertise or she'll know the correct questions to ask you to advise you.

At the same time, don't be afraid to stretch your wings.

Bottom line: don't ask questions of the person next to you in the middle of instruction. Please.

Retreats: each one is different.

Read the notice that was sent out and if you have questions about how it works, ask! Some retreats are very chit-chatty and some aren't. You should also ask if everyone brings treats to share; or a little something to give to everyone else (example: an ort bag): you don't want to be embarrassed by being the only one treat-less or present-less.


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