I had never thought about "starter quilts" but I LOVE this idea!!!!

Used and mistreated or stuffed in a closet to never see the light of day again....which is worse.

Give them that quilt now, but then make another quilt and pack it away with a letter for him (possible divorce, death etc.). When he goes through your things he will find that quilt for him. By then they may enjoy it more.

Used and loved to death would definatly be better, mistreated...hmm, I don't think that is better than stuffed into a closet. At least maybe someday someone might enjoy it when it was discovered.

First of all, I know you sewed a lot of love in that quilt. I am on my 14th quilt for family, my 2 sons first, then oldest grandchild, then DIL's and sister and brother and now neice. I am so thankful that they love and treasure their quilts, and use them. There are no pets in thier homes and have not had a problem, they have been washed and I see them in their bedrooms, on vacations, and camps. Think Rebecca VLQ said it best....You can make them another one,,, and knowing that they will use it,, and have cats, just make something that is easier to make and not have so much time in it..They just don't know the time and hours, and all that goes into making a quilt. Hope in the future they will appreciate it more,, but some things come with time.

First of all, I know you sewed a lot of love in that quilt. I am on my 14th quilt for family, my 2 sons first, then oldest grandchild, then DIL's and sister and brother and now neice. I am so thankful that they love and treasure their quilts, and use them. There are no pets in thier homes and have not had a problem, they have been washed and I see them in their bedrooms, on vacations, and camps. Think Rebecca VLQ said it best....You can make them another one,,, and knowing that they will use it,, and have cats, just make something that is easier to make and not have so much time in it..They just don't know the time and hours, and all that goes into making a quilt. Hope in the future they will appreciate it more,, but some things come with time.

I love making quilts and giving them... I feel once they leave my hands that's all the say I have over them, the more used the better! What good is something left in a box in a closet for someone to look at someday? I don't mean this in a mean way really... yes I know this is something that is brought up many many times. I really feel if you don't want it used DON'T give it away. Things happen, life happens don't ruin a RELATIONSHIP for something, tomorrow that person could be gone.. cherish the relationship not the quilt....
Been there.