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Mamagus 05-12-2010 06:37 AM

I don't do a lot of sewing summer time but having my kids "visit" stops me solid. If they were moving in for the summer, they'd be doing their share of the housework, all their own laundry and half the cooking!! And then I'd hide in the sewing room and sew sew sew!

LoisN 05-12-2010 06:38 AM

My daughter moved her stuff home from college last night and then left for the evening. With work and a couple of trips that she has planned, I don't think I'll be seeing her all that much. I'm thinking that you'll have more time than you imagine. Good luck. My kids really don't understand that I like being alone in my quilting room. go figure!

Maride 05-12-2010 06:39 AM

She will probably be out with her friends and the time she is home, she will be either on the phone or on-line catching up with her new college friends. I see a free summer for you. You may need to make an appointment to see her. I found that every year my daughter had less and less friends at home and spent more time at home, but not necessarily with me.

sharon b 05-12-2010 08:23 AM

Or if it appears that she wants to be stuck at the hip again, explain that you have a new routine ( since she went to college) and you require at least an hour in the evening to unwind from work and what not to relax. She should understand , just be firm.

Jim's Gem 05-12-2010 09:00 AM


Originally Posted by Maride
She will probably be out with her friends and the time she is home, she will be either on the phone or on-line catching up with her new college friends. I see a free summer for you. You may need to make an appointment to see her. I found that every year my daughter had less and less friends at home and spent more time at home, but not necessarily with me.

This has been my experience as well. They are so busy catching up will all their friends. However, I do find that they tend to leave their stuff all over the house and so there is a little bit of angst getting them to remove their dirty socks or shoes or their laptops from the coffee table when you have guests coming over!!!

I love having my kids home. They are fairly good at spending time with us and having dinner with us. My daughter loves to host "card nights" and has a dozen to 15 of us (we are usually invited cause it's our house) for a pot luck dinner and cards. We have great time with them and all their friends.

Quilter7x 05-12-2010 09:06 AM


Originally Posted by sharon b
Or if it appears that she wants to be stuck at the hip again, explain that you have a new routine ( since she went to college) and you require at least an hour in the evening to unwind from work and what not to relax. She should understand , just be firm.

Not only should she understand, but it would be an hour for her to find ways to become a more independent young lady. It would actually be good for her to be separated from you for a short time each day.

Just don't stop quilting! :)

dotcomdtcm 05-12-2010 09:11 AM

I do sympathize! My daughter is coming home next weekend. For at least a year. I know her job hunting will require a lot of TLC and time. Fortunately, our apartment has always been a haven for her friends. DD wanted to change her bedroom around from high school to post-grad. Picked out the color with former boyfriend. I balk at repainting. I did make a surprise quilt to hang behind the bed to give it a new feel. Wondering how all of her stuff can be stored for the day she gets her own place! Fortunately, my kids are proud of my quilting. Being a single mom and putting 3 through college gave me little time to do my own thing. And they know that you are supposed to learn new things as you age. So quilting can give me more time on this planet to be their dedicated mom. Incidentally my daughter went to Hunter HS, recently in the news with the Elena Kagan nominatioin. I hope this will encourage her to follow her own dream. Dreadful economy. My biggest question is how much spending money for the unemployed Class of 2010!

littlehud 05-12-2010 01:10 PM

My youngest was happiest when she was with me but a year at college changed that. She still has fun with me but wants her own space and respects mine. It was great.

ezug 05-13-2010 03:35 AM

Just tell her you have gotten in the lovely habit of being able to quilt an hour or so a day and you'll be available when you're done! I am trying to practice what I preach because I will have 3 daughters coming home from college shortly and 1 still around in high school (she's the one I never see!)
Now if I could just find someone to clean my house - that's the never ending companion !
Have fun with your daughter - I'm sure she's a gem :)

jolo 05-13-2010 04:57 AM

Well maybe she will like to learn to quilt too. BUT it is my experience that kids that age wont be home that much anyway.You should have time for yourself. Jolo


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