After a night of thinking it over - I have come to the decision that since you both KNOW the designer, best thing to do is to tell 'your friend' to call the designer friend herself and ASK for a (free) copy of the pattern.... then she can have her own.

You must also "not give up one inch". Anyone that would expect you to do this is not your friend, so ending this is not your problem. Cut your losses before anything else is expected of you! You will however have to be very matter-of-fact and just say, NO. Sorry that you have to do this. Patty

I am simply amazed at the sheer number of pages on this topic when you already know it is a violation of copyright law as stated in your thread. Why would one need opinions or affirmation in doing what you know is right and legal? For me and I would hope many others it is a no brainer. Not being harsh or anything just wondering.......it should be obvious that a friendship is not worth having if they wanted you to break the law.

One needs opinions or affirmations to feel at ease about a situation. It has nothing to do with being legal or being right. This is why the board is such a great place. Posters commiserate with each other so diversely and wonderfully.

Just say NO .....it is a copyright and unlawful to copy.

If you wanted it enough to pay for it... well give her the adress of where she can buy her own copy. Tell her you do not want to go to jail for giving it to her.She will understand. You can't do things like that for her. If she is a good friend she should understand.

I am a musician as well as a quilter and this is one area my two worlds overlap. This is a teaching moment. See if you can get her to understand that the designer put lots of time and effort into producing that design and it is really unfair for anyone to give it away for free. It is hard enough for independent designers (or musicians for that matter) to make enough money back on their work to make it worthwhile to continue. And without these independents our world would be less joyful, creative, inspiring, and free.

Great idea.

If I do say so, this has been an interesting thread. 'Lots of views and some wonderful comments. After reading this comment, it reminded me of the old game "Whisper."You know the one, you whisper something in one person's ear, who then whispers it into another ear, and another and so on. By the time it gets back to the original whisperer, the story has changed dramatically.
In my post, I stated that I already knew how I would eventually handle this and in the interest of conversation, asked, "how would you respond?' I did not ask for opinion or affirmation.
If I seem weak to some for dreading confrontation, so be it.
I have mellowed with my years and no longer see the need, nor do I have the time, for any confrontation. My time is too valuable.
That said, my "acquaintance" will be coming by tonight.
I think it's time.




I am simply amazed at the sheer number of pages on this topic when you already know it is a violation of copyright law as stated in your thread. Why would one need opinions or affirmation in doing what you know is right and legal? For me and I would hope many others it is a no brainer. Not being harsh or anything just wondering.......it should be obvious that a friendship is not worth having if they wanted you to break the law.[/quote]

Stick to your guns! A true friend would not ask that of a friend. You mentioned it was a mutual acquaintance of yours and the designer. If she continues to be persistant, refer her to the designer who has the copyright. As I tell my son: "As you go through life, you have many acquaintances but only a few true friends. If you make this acquaintance mad with your decision, it is just one less acquaintance to deal with.