I saved a quilt!
 

I saved a quilt that would of been thrown out... It was for my brother and I guess he did not like it... A quilt my Aunt made that now is passed away.... Stupid Brother.... but he is hinting for me to make him one..............

I don't think I would make one for him. If he didn't like the one your Aunt made him. Why would he use yours?

I wouldn't make one for him either. The right thing for him to do would have been to give you the one he didn't appreciate or like, and say "I'd love it if it were more masculine or blue or something". And then you could have offered (or not) to make one for him that he would like more. So glad you rescued it!

My brother is the same way. He doesn't understand how important quilts are. I was at his house yesterday and both my quilts were in his living room. I tried giving him a quilt made by my deceased sister and me. He said "This isn't a quilt house". He didn't realize the significance of having a quilt made by his two sisters. He's a guy! I'd explain how long it takes you to make the quilt and make him one. He just doesn't understand. Go easy on him. We shouldn't be ganging up on him. He doesn't know the first thing about quilts.

He may not know about quilts but for sure he must know that people have feelings so the right thing would have been to return it or better yet, use it a few times to let your aunt know he at least appreciates the gesture. He's freeze them off before I would make him anything. BUT,,that's just me.

Awww give him a break. I think he will love and appreciate a quilt you make for him. He didn't say he didn't like ALL quits, just the one his aunt happened to make which may have not been his colors or style etc. We all have preferences. Happiness to all.

Hey! You got aunt's quilt which you treasure. Shouldn't someone who treasures it, have it.

We're all different with different priorities. That doesn't make one better than the other, just different. You valued your aunt's quilt, he didn't. He's different. Which do you value more: live brother or dead aunt.

Generally, men are hunters: hunt it, shoot it, bag it. Generally, women are gatherers: gather all options, review the choices, think about it, discuss it with friends, consider peoples feelings, stew, then make a discision, oops, that option is no longer available, start over and keep the friends.

If the issue is as simple as you say, make the quilt for him and treasure aunt's quilt that is important to you.

Give him one of those ready made ones from Target......lol

Nope wouldn't make him one if he so disrespectful that he would throw a quilt made for him, from an aunt now passed. Sorry if I sound harsh, but to throw it out??? He could have at least given it to you, knowing you make them.

OK. Let's say he's as stupid, undeserving, uncaring, greedy as you say. You DID GET your precious aunts quilt. How much do you want him to suffer-I think this is called revenge. You want him to loose the relationship he has with you? Then don't be nice to him, maybe never even talk to him, that'll teach him!

Gee, after reading this, I'm glad my brother won't throw a quilt out. He asked me to make him one for his bed after his divorce. I asked what happened to the one he had and he said the ex took it. I liked to have had a fit. I told him that was a wedding gift that our grandmother had hand pieced and had quilted and she had no right to take it. He talked to her and she has put it up for one of the girls to have when later. I did make his quilt to his liking and to make it fit as the spread for his king size bed.

Just because he didn't care for the one your aunt made doesn't mean he may not now appreciate one from you, especially since he seems to be hinting.
Lots of times we grow in our appreciation of handmade items as we mature.

I would go ahead and make him one but ask if he would be willing to pay for the fabric. If he agrees to pay for the fabric, he might treasure it more than he did the one your Aunt made for him.

AND/OR, give him some input into fabric and/or pattern choices. If he has some ownership in the quilt design, perhaps he will be more likely to enjoy it.

I agree with RGAY. Nothing makes a person appreciate something like having a stake in it...especially if they have to pay part of the costs. I'd also have him choose colors and give him the choice of two or three pattrns that you like to make. Just my opinion. It might also be interesting to ask why he wanted to get rid of your aunt's quilt. That would be a worthwhile conversation and would help you make your decision.

Nope, at first you don't appreciate, then forget it !!! My MIL made a king size for an idiot SIL . Beautiful hand made totally. When we went to visit about 4 or 5 months later . She had parked her van on top of it to catch the oil. She really didn't like to clean oil off the concrete. I could have cried.

Teach him how to make a quilt from his old shirts. He will seriously love it!

If he wants one let him buy all the stuff. He may appreciate it more that way

Oh my goodness, that's got to be the most horrendous unappreciated quilt story I've ever read about!

Cringe!!

I would ponder making him a quilt but I would also bring him in on the process if I could. Allow him to experience picking patterns, colors, cutting and relate this to a skill that he has such as auto repair, building, plumbing, dirt bike racing, hunting or such. He is showing you that he has preferences, not your aunt's quilt, but he likes your work. Use this time to teach him how some of the knowledge and skills are involved in quilting. I guess in teacher lingo this is a "teachable moment". Don't allow him to continue in his "stupidity" help him to understand the value of your quilt as well as the quilting of others even if we don't like their work we can still value their work. He doesn't need to learn HOW to quilt but learning ABOUT the quilting process could add even more value to your work in his eyes.

I've heard so many stories of unappreciated quilts. With every quilt I make my Mom asks who is going to get it - Many of them I just keep myself to enjoy. Many I have given to my kids and my grandkids - they all know the work that goes into them.

I would tell him not to hold his breath. He had his chance.

It sounds like that quilt hadnt been thrown away - yet - when the original poster got possession of that quilt.

It seems to be a sad fact of life - not everyone loves every quilt that has ever been made.

My feelings are hurt when someone disrespects an item I put a lot of effort and/or money into.

I agree that guys may have no idea the time and money that goes into a quilt. If you look at your aunt's quilt do you see why he didn't like it .....too flowery, too pink, too girly? He might just like a guy one. I say either way forgive him,
it is up to you if you make him a quilt. I would have him help pick the pattern and at least the focus fabric if you make
one so you know this one will be loved!

People value different things. Your brother demonstrated his lack of interest in quilts. No more for him.

Why don't you just ask him, or his sig other if he would like a quilt made by you and what style and colors does he like?

Maybe it was too girlie for him. I'd make a more masculine one and trade for the one you want.
Maybe just squares sewn together. eazee peezy

When my daughter was 18, newly married, and totally clueless about quilts, my mother gave her the handpieced Lone Star that my grandmother made in the 1920's. The last time I saw it was in the trunk of her car with a couple of old batteries sitting on top of it. I told her how much I'd wanted that quilt over the years, but since my mother gave it to her, she should take better care of it. Never saw it again.

You said that your Aunt passed away. So your brother did not like the quilt. That is not a crime, I have made a couple that I don't like either. Of course I wouldn't have tossed it away. Make him a nice quilt, but take him to the fabric store with you so that he understands the value money wise. Men can be such innocent dumb animals. lol

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Why do we expect other people to feel the same as we do about quilts? Especially men. I have the most wonderful, loving son but he isn't sentimental about anything. Neither is his wife. So I'm careful about what I give them. I don't want to put a burden on them of trying to pretend they care about something when they really don't. Took me a long time to realize that though since I'm sentimental about everything.

So refreshing that you didn't say Wal-mart! lol

I would have asked what was wrong with it and then asked him to quit beating around the bush. Maybe he had a bad history with your aunt you don't know about. If it was a scrappy quilt, many people are under the impression it was made from rags, even though we know differently. Every quilt has a history with a reason behind it. Many make quilts because they like the style. I've been back and forth with my family about things they like and don't. I take that information and run with it when I think about any gift to give them. There are some who get nothing because no matter what it is, the effort/ thought is never appreciated. They have complained in the past. Even a gift card is not enough (the easy way out not hardly. Not enough). If it were my brother just tell him what the dollar value would be.

Sorry to hear about this!

Not nice but I would have told her to get her D____van off the quilt and taken it home with me and tried to clean it
and given her a tarp for under the van, or a big peice of cardboard.. Some poeple are so stupid it makes we wonder how they get through life.

I'm encouraged to hear some reason and compassion finally coming through. Sometimes other people's actions really hurt! We have the choice of how we respond. We can only control ourselves. Your brother is valuable, precious. He's not you and aren't you glad.

Last night, "The Middle" had a scene about a gift of hippy style bright yellow jeans. Her response was hurtful. She'd told them what she wanted, why they picked bright yellow jeans, I don't know. She found a use for them, all rolled up behind her back in the chair at work. They still love her.

I agree with some of the posts. Ask him about his actions with aunt's quilt. Then if he still wants one from you, explain to him your feelings about making and giving him the quilt. Explain your hurt if he was to reject or abuse it. Then let him have a stake in it: pick out and pay for materials and pattern. Make this an opportunity to bond with you brother.

Great job in the save!!!

Just my thoughts as I have seen a post similiar to this before...quilts and other home made gifts are not always appreciated by the recepiant as they should be...and it is hurtful when you have put so much time and effort into the project. I try to evaluate whether the person would appreciate a handmade item before gifting it. Perhaps as someone else suggested, he would appreciate something from you, made in his colors and your "style".
"We" have to remember, most other people don't live in a "quilting" world...they don't know the cost of materials, or where the local quilt shop is...just like I don't know how much golf clubs cost or where all the local golf courses are...
When I give something, I now "give" something...fully prepared that I cannot feel hurt if that person lets their dog use it as bedding. In saying that, I would only give something that involved a lot of work to someone who would treasure it.

Make him a tied levi quilt, quick, easy and guys love them.

Over 20 yrs ago when I was first getting into quilting I made my brother (and several others that year for Christmas presents) a quillow, easy, simple, kinda looked good from a distance but really very amateur, nothing special, not a heirloom. Ths is my half brother, we didn't grow up togeter, he didn't even know I exsisted until he was 10, we spent most of our lives 3000 miles apart. But I would visit when I could, not very often. Anyway, a few years after I gave him that quilt he left his wife of 30 yrs, and had carefully planned it by taking his personal things from the house that he wanted & hiding them before he told her he was leaving. At one of my visits he was telling me about this & said the first thing he took was that quilt! I was so shocked that he thought that much of it & even still had it.
So you just never know when something you give does mean something, when I see some of those quillows I made that year I cringe, they are really poorly made & ugly.