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The lady must have been very old!
Years ago you didn't hear the word sashing very often, only in regard to the wood pieces that divided the glass in windows. We used to say "division strips" or something like that. I think "sashing" is a much more usefull descriptive word. |
Sashing is the word I have always heard.
Bless her pointy little head, sometimes the best thing to say is, "You may be right about that." And remember, ordinary people like us are VERY annoying to those who know EVERYTHING. |
You have great patience! I probably would have walked away and then she would have thought me rude. Some people just think they know everything.
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Sounds like she is one that always has to be right about everything. Why then does she get off the subject lol I probably wouldnt or couldnt have been that nice lol I hope your group was able to come up with an idea for labeling!!!
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rebeccalr
You were right in changing the subject, there is nothing worse than a "Right said Fred", believe me! TreeFrog |
Google sure understands what sashing is.
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You handled it well, I agree there is ALWAYS one or two of the "ladies" (and I use that word loosely here) who know it all. Its useless to try to educate them. Just look heavenward and say a little prayer for patience and change the subject.
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LOL!!! Gotta love it! God puts people (all kinds) in our way to sharpen us and help us improve our character. At times like these, we can't quite get the words out: Give thanks in all circumstances! :wink: :lol:
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Never try to tell someone something they don't want to hear. I have had people tell me a 1930's quilt they had is at least 100 years old, because their GM made it.
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Update...the fellow board member that PM'd me, misread the post. She has rePM'd me and apologized. I also apologized, because I was too hasty in my response to her.
That is one thing that anonymity on boards like this perpetuate...us not being kind to each other. I was civil to the woman at church b/c that was the right thing to do in the situation to keep the peace. I didn't 'have' to be on here. Maybe I learned 2 lessons. Ignore those who know everything. DON'T reply everytime you want to. |
Originally Posted by ghostrider
Sashing is also called lattice...that may have been what she was thinking of.
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Originally Posted by S D G
Ya' no, duct tape works wonders for people like this.lol
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Next time tell her "Webster says: "framing" that is what you do. Then if she still doesn't understand, tell her it's in the dictionary.
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Originally Posted by okiepastor
Did you ever pray for patience? BIG mistake!:>)
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you did great in dealing with this know it all lady, ohh wait, she did not know it all coz she did not know the "CORRECT" name of the thing she was arguing about!!! go figure!! patience is a virtue!!! and you have alot of virtue!! take care....gina
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I have a Sampler Quilt book that calls it Lattice but that is the one and only time I have seen it or heard of sashing being called Lattice. Maybe that is what she was refering too.
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What would the world be without the quilt police, ever ready to criticize rather than to educate or to help? As I've written before, our quilt group had one of these know-it-alls, an elderly woman who, in fact, was a wonderful quilter at one time. As she aged, her skills began to fade, but you could almost guarantee that she would blurt out some hurtful comment whenever one of us would show our quilts such as: "someone needs to teach this lady that babies do not like bold colors". The lady displaying the quilt (happened to be me) bit her tongue but oh how I wanted to say back: now you've insulted two of us. I made the quilt but the colors were chosen by the lady who wanted me to make the quilt.
Another time one of our elderly quilters displayed her quilt with such pride until that is our police lady said in a loud voice "one of your squares is in backwards". I was helping hold the quilt and I reached over to give this lady a hug to comfort her. Thankfully, she said "Oh, I don't pay any attention to that old crone"! Whatcha' gonna do? Here's what, let the criticisms roll off your back, smile sweetly, and give thanks that you only have to deal with this curmudgeon for a few hours. Pity her poor family. :roll: |
Some people don't know when to keep their mouths shut!!
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Sorry, I am really chuckling over this one! Every group has at least one--please, Lord, let it not be me! I just started quilting with the church ladies on Mondays. I have to pray to hold my tongue each week, not to swear or get involved in any negative banter! Needless to say, I don't run into such issues when I play cards with the guys at the VFW on Thursdays!
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I loved the story. I could just picture the conversation. Thanks for sharing it. Made my day.
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Reminds me of something I used to say to my son when he was little and would argue with me like this....
Obviously it is more important that I be wrong than you know the right answer. |
Well at least I just learned what sashing means!(I think) :lol:
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Some people may not be right but they are never wrong, and we all know a few of those, don't we? At least the work of your hands will help somebody. piecefully, the old one
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Regarding the individual (bless her heart) who felt it necessary to chastise you for intolerance, I ask why? You gave the woman more patience than anyone I know could have given to no avail. There is no one so stubborn as the truly stupid. And how stupid of her to argue with you when she clearly did not have all the facts at her command--and what is really amazing, is that this did not bother her at all---she still knew you were wrong!! Never mind the rudeness of correcting the teacher. Perhaps your church's womens group could have a study on submission. But I am following a bunny trail, back to the tolerance. Tolerance in the guise of political correctness has gotten many in the world to a very bad place, where wrong is right, depending on who is doing the wrong, and the technique of denigrating one who disagrees with you is a common operating procedure. All done, not to protect (you fill in the blank), but to secure power. Intolerance is a good thing--
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OMG>>>OMG and you said she is not a quilter?????wow some people have nerves but i have learned to breathe deeeeeeeeply in such situations and in my mind "God save them from their ignorance". Just take it easy and move on.
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yes, i noticed a person seems to get alot of practice with praying that one. lol
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Originally Posted by Rainybug
Just gotta luv the Quilt police!
Just an idea, what if you just say to that non-quilter expert person, "OK you may be right, but in this class that is what we will be calling it. When you go home you can call it anything you want!" |
silence is golden, duct tape silver.
I think we've all encountered people like the one you had that conversation with. I give you so much credit for keeping calm! |
Now that you say that I have a sister like that too -
You are sooo funny |
Originally Posted by rebeccalr
My women's group at church is making a quilt to silent auction for one of our missions. We met this morning to sew together some of the blocks. Let me just say that leading a women's group has greatly increased my patience levels, thank God!! A few of us were discussing where/how to label the quilt. Here is the conversation with a person that doesn't quilt:
Me: We could put the person's name in the sashing under their block. Lady: In the what? Me: In the sashing. Lady: What is that? Me: The material you use to frame the block. Lady: That isn't what it is called. Me: Yes, it is. Lady: No it isn't. I have never heard it called that. Me: Well, the frame you put around the block is called sashing. Lady: No, it isn't. We just had a quilt made by an Amish woman and she didn't call it that. Me: What did she call it? Lady: I don't know, but it wasn't that. Me: Well, lots of people call things by different names, rails or 'blocking the square', but it is also called sashing. Lady: No, it really isn't. Maybe borders or something. Me: Borders go around the outside of the quilt, not the individual squares. Lady: I can't remember for sure, but sashing makes me think of satin or something like that. I just had to change the conversation, because I was really getting aggravated. She just had the most matter-of-fact tone and aire. I am not an expert quilter, but have it called sashing, from other quilters, quilt patterns, and the quitingboard.com! Some people's children!! pane of a window or door.." But I did not find sashing...that didn't stop me! I went further!! Searched the web for quilting terms and low & behold!!! There it was!!! Sashing!!!! "Sashing The fabric that separates the Blocks, framing them and making the quilt larger." Here's the link to give to your group for your next session!! I just LOVE it!! http://www.straw.com/equilters/libra.../glossary.html |
In the Merriam-Webster's Collegiate Dictionary 10ed. the word "sash" is framework for panes of glass. I guess we
Quilters borrowed the word. Put it in your dictionary the next time you use the computer. Happy Quilting! |
Was a minister's wife for 43 years until DH passed away. I know from experience that the church is full of sinners that need forgiveness. Some for big sins and some for their know-it-all attitude. It is the wise woman who tries to enlighten them, but when they resist just walks away letting them continue to be wrong. The people who matter (those who love to quilt) know what it is called. You did a great job of handling her and the situation. Plus the example you set for the other ladies in the group (who are more than likely tired of her attitude also.) Another star on your crown in Heaven!
BTW my dear grandmother, who taught me to quilt, always called it sashing. She learned from her mother. Grandma was born in 1882 so the use of sashing for quilting has been around for more years than this wannabe. So there!!! |
Originally Posted by S D G
Ya' no, duct tape works wonders for people like this.lol
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Are sashing and lattice the same thing? Just wondering if there's a difference in case I bump into this woman.
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Bless you.
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Sashing is what we call it. The woman said that sashing made her think of satin? Maybe she's thinking of a stin sash for Miss America. LOL
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Yes, bless you. You learned two important lessons with the posting. Patience IS a virtue and you handled yourself fine.
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Originally Posted by Barbm
for a minute there I had to look at your location- I thought it was my sister. She doesn't quilt- but she knows it all!
Sounds like you handled it just fine! |
LOL ......I've sat on many such conversation at work.
I Think you have 20 women in a group and you'll get 20 different ideas for 1 thing... Hang in there.... |
Originally Posted by S D G
Ya' no, duct tape works wonders for people like this.lol
God's gonna get her one of these days! |
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