My women's group at church is making a quilt to silent auction for one of our missions. We met this morning to sew together some of the blocks. Let me just say that leading a women's group has greatly increased my patience levels, thank God!! A few of us were discussing where/how to label the quilt. Here is the conversation with a person that doesn't quilt:

Me: We could put the person's name in the sashing under their block.
Lady: In the what?
Me: In the sashing.
Lady: What is that?
Me: The material you use to frame the block.
Lady: That isn't what it is called.
Me: Yes, it is.
Lady: No it isn't. I have never heard it called that.
Me: Well, the frame you put around the block is called sashing.
Lady: No, it isn't. We just had a quilt made by an Amish woman and she didn't call it that.
Me: What did she call it?
Lady: I don't know, but it wasn't that.
Me: Well, lots of people call things by different names, rails or 'blocking the square', but it is also called sashing.
Lady: No, it really isn't. Maybe borders or something.
Me: Borders go around the outside of the quilt, not the individual squares.
Lady: I can't remember for sure, but sashing makes me think of satin or something like that.

I just had to change the conversation, because I was really getting aggravated. She just had the most matter-of-fact tone and aire. I am not an expert quilter, but have it called sashing, from other quilters, quilt patterns, and the quitingboard.com! Some people's children!!

I am sure you were bitting your tongue and saying a lil prayer for her to be on her way.......lol

Don't let it bother you. Some people are know it all's and you can never change their minds even if you have proof.

Ya' no, duct tape works wonders for people like this.lol

Just gotta luv the Quilt police!

If she was thinking satin, she must have been thinking of a sash on a fancy dress or something. Totally different. lol

On another note, when I put in the word sashing, my spell check says it's not a word.

Yes, women's groups at church can turn you into an active prayerer! You do have alot of patience...lol!

Did you ever pray for patience? BIG mistake!:>)

Had to be a painful situation! :/

Yeah, you have a lot of patience!

The quilting police should have been called to take her away.
Take her to do something she knows about.
What was her idea on the subject?
And really ,why did it matter as long every one knew what you were talking about?
Some are not happy if they can't stir the pot even in church.
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you did great!!

for a minute there I had to look at your location- I thought it was my sister. She doesn't quilt- but she knows it all!

Sounds like you handled it just fine!

Sounds like you handled everything very well. Why is it that church activities can be the greatest challenges?

When I get into conversations like this I usually chuckle a little and say, "O.K!", smile, and go on. You were very patient.!

I agree that some terms are called different names but I've never heard of a sashing called anything else, but for sure I don't even claim to know everything, which is something she needs to consider or not say anything, instead of arguing. I'm glad you held your tongue, I can't say I would have.

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You handled it just fine. I worked in a quilt shop for a while and there were ladies who new it all and there was no teaching them anything new. Just let it go. You are right...it is called a sashing.

As a child, one of my more less than patient uncles used to teach me how to get rid of pests. Not the kind you hunt with a swatter!

You stare at their heads and keep thinking of her kitchen sink full of water and running over...running over the edge of the sink...running across the floor and under the fridge..running across the floor... keep repeating this, and a lot of the time she will start getting antsy and suddenly remember that she had to go home for something or other.

And a book written by a burglar still in jaii, said about robbing houses, when tip toeing through a bedroom and suddenly find someone there, immediately start thinking of cows in a pretty pasture, resting in the sun light. Tired cows, sleeping...sleeping

He claimed that it usually put the homeowner back to sleep and he could keep on tip toeing across the room.
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=====This WAS sashing...you left a pan on the stove with the burner on..the pan is getting hot...the pan is smoking...the pan is getting hot!!!! You must go home..go home...go home...

Like...Dear Lord, bless her with a brain. LOL

lol!

Sashing is also called lattice...that may have been what she was thinking of.

Jeezzzzzzzz was she having a bad day or is she always like that????? lol

AMEN!!! :shock: Never again, and I'll throttle anyone who prays for patience for me!!!!! :evil:

I'd call it sashing :)

I dealt wit a guy at work yesterday whose session on the computerprogram had timed out. He got really frustrated. I told him that it wasn't a big deal and that he only needed to open a new session (a one-click action). He practically yelled at me that it happened because he put the wrong number in the field. I stated calmly that the actual message said "Your session has timed out. Please restart." AAAAAAND he remained convinced that it was his bad typing.

There is no changing some people's beliefs. Good for you on staying patient.

Been there done that during my life as a volunteer. It is just amazing how cool you must have been through all of that. My husband calls them "self-proclaimed experts on anything you talk about". He used to just shake his head when I'd tell him about my days. It will all work out. Just give her an important job to do that doesn't involve quilting!!

She probably has similar discussions with her doctor and auto mechanic. Best of luck to her in life - she's going to need it.

Okay ladies and gents, since I was just chastised in a PM for my intolerance, let me straighten this out. I don't give a flip what someone calls the strip of material that is sewn between the 'parts' of a quilt. My point was that even though she wasn't sure what it was called, she was determined that it WASN'T sashing. I thought my point was apparent, but apparently it wasn't. (should I put a big smiley here or something?)

Well, then I guess you need to forward that PM to me cuz I'm real intolerant of know-it-alls who know nothing! :wink: And BTW, I've always been taught it was sashing...called that in every quilting book I own!

Duct tape, duct tape, duct tape ! It even comes in olors now. LOL

I work with a lady like that, and to keep my blood pressure under control I have learned to just smile and let it go. It won't do any good to argue (like talking to a stump). Just tell yourself this is the only way she knows how to carry on a conversation.

Are you serious? Wow. I can't even think of anything (nice) to say about that.

Just say "OK" and Smile. My GD always used the word "Whatever" We even found a shirt with that on.

Think you handled it very well :P
Now let it roll off your back & on to the floor!
Have a Great Day! :) :P :)

OMG, I feel awful for you. I thought PM's were to help each other, ask questions for something that person wanted advice on. Or rather just a nice way of conversation between people. I too have received one and only one of those and could not believe it. Please let it go...obviously that person has problems that go way beyond your topic.

Your topic was fine and believe me we all know people like that and do our very best in trying to deal with them. Most if not all of us agree that you handled the matter the best way possible at the moment. Personally, I think you had a lot of patience with that woman and am always amazed these types of things seem to happen a lot within church groups trying to do good for others....now before I also get into trouble I'm not saying always but there are certainly more in those settings than I personally feel should ever be in that environment.

omg....I just love you

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Wow- someone sent you a PM because you posted about how you did NOT lose your cool when confronted with someone who was behaving in a very irritating manner? Really?

Well my take on this is that you did very well indeed. You are not denying your (totally understandable) feelings about this person's behaviour. You did not hurt her feelings by telling her that she was being a silly know-all, or even try to put her down with some sharp remark highlighting that you know more about quilting than she does. Instead you chose to stay cool on the outside and let out your feelings (and see the humour in the situation) with fellow quilters on an anonymous board. That sounds to me like a very healthy way to deal with it. Well done. I am firm believer in seeing the ridiculous in these situations!

Sounds like one of those "Do you have to be right? statements. In the scheme of things it just does matter. It wouldn't be worth the time to argue with her. I would just have said, I am sure you are rigt! And zipped away from her in a hurry and found someone else more agreeable in the group.

Here, here...you handled the situation beautifully :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: