I was just perusing the recent posts and opened one about a puppy. So cute! But as I read the comments from others, I found myself shocked by the negativity. It reminded me of a post a few days ago, in which a member said she would never post again because of the way she was chastised. I'm not siding with anyone about whether it's okay to offer a puppy for sale or not on the quilting board-I don't really have an opinion. But-wouldn't it be better to pm someone rather than to hang your negative comments out and embarrass them publicly?
Just thinking it would be a little kinder. . .

I read the post/comments ............and completely agree.

Great point.

I agree that it's best to keep comments positive.

That makes the forum a nicer place to spend time.

And you know we ALL like hanging around here... :)

But-wouldn't it be better to pm someone rather than to hang your negative comments out and embarrass them publicly?

Yes, I agree.

I agree totally! Let's be nice and send Pm's to other's if there is a problem. I've been in this same situation and it is very hurtful to see others talking about you in such a manner it's just unbelievable.

That topic has been deleted.

This is good, I hope she knows we love her and feel bad for her.

The old saying still applies "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." This is not the place to beat people up.

I agree.

I want to draw your attention to this blog and the negative comments someone wrote about this quilter's book. I have been feeling very badly about it all week.

http://stitchindye.blogspot.com/

I have left a note of support for her...but why do people feel it necessary to be so negative and hurtful?

Personally, if you are being negative, I don't even want a pm. LOL. Glad we ,in the 99% positive group, respect each other and their opinions. I think those of us who plan on being here for many years are nice all the time. We want this board to be a good place to chat with our cyber quilters. We are fortunate, with a group this big, that we only have a few negaholics here. And they could be having a bad day. Giving all the benefit of the doubt.♥♥

Because they weren't taught any manners?

I agree!!!

Please, let's all try to be nice to each other!!!!
I did not see the thread, obviously another moderator did.

That is so sad. Why can't they just go find what they like and leave other people alone????

I didn't see the thread either, but it is possible the person was new to the board and didn't realize the right place to sell a puppy. I was a member her for months before I discovered that pictures of quilts should go under Pictures and not Main. I thought Main was the only thing available.

I have read a few negative comments lately, and it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Most quilters are so friendly...I just wish all were.

She only had around 95 posts.

I didn't see the thread, but I totally agree, I think the only way is to treat one another as we want to be treated.

It is kind of sad, but I have learned the hard way that "Unwatch" can be my best friend when things get overheated. I know that in the end I will be the one that gets upset, so I just stay away from it. I also have noticed that during the last couple of weeks there have been some really negative comments made when kind comments could have accomplished the same objective.

I agree completely.

I say amen... but if someone is selling a puppy (I did not see it) wouldn't that be up to them and administration...

As a whole I think our society is becoming more negative (maybe it's because of the economy). I really do hope that isn't so because I really do like the wonderful people on this board. Everyone is so nice, and so encouraging. I am really grateful for all the kind things everyone has to say. So I hope all that negativity doesn't start to seep into the "Quilting Board". If it does we could always build a damn to hold it back.

This not a place to sell live animals. the only selling allowed on this board is quilt related.

One of the main reasons I love this place is the friendliness of everyone here. I participate in another board having to do with books and people get down right mean and nasty there sometimes. It is often a total train wreck. I wonder why I even go there sometimes, but old habits and all that I guess.

Coming here is like a nice cleansing shower. Or maybe going to Gramma's or out to lunch with girlfriends.

You are absolutely right, but there are nice ways of saying things without words like shameful.

Congratulations! I just saw your note about a grandbaby! That is just so exciting!

the way I understood the young gal's post was that she was staying with her mom and trying to finish school and her puppy didn't get along with her mom's dogs. I don't think she wanted to sell her dog. the other women were the ones who told her she shouldn't put her puppy outside in a kennel. she said she spent quite a bit of time out there with the puppy but it whined so bad. well puppies do whine, especially when they have to do something like she did. she had schooling to finish and then moving. I feel that she was doing the right thing in taking care of her puppy so that it didn't get hurt by the big dogs and those women who posted mean spiteful things shouldn't have said anything. all they did was hurt her feelings. She wasn't hurting any of them. this world needs to start learning how to love one another again as it says in the Bible. Treat others as you wish to be treated. Love thyself and others. Sorry about going on like this but some times it just gets me when people do this, just because they are the internet they think they can say or do anything they please and it won't ever catch them. My good MIL said what goes around comes around and it does. If we treat everyone the way we want to be treated this world would so much better off.

After reading your post, I remember I did see that one, at the very beginning. I did not feel she was trying to sell her puppy. From what I recall she needed to keep the puppy away from the other dogs.
We all need to try and be nice to others. It does no one any good to be bashing them.

Thanks Sadiemae! I am quite excited about my new grandson!!! He is due the 13th of May. My poor daughter is so uncomfortable and has been quite sick. I hope and pray this is not an only child for her!!!

There were two topics. The first was "help with dog in a kennel." This young girl is trying to get her education and keep her young pit happy until she can move out of her Mom's house. She is doing everything she can possibly do. The second was a puppy that was for sale, and I think the young lady just didn't understand that she couldn't sale a puppy on the site. There are so many people who just don't read the rules. She apologized as soon as the first post was made, but it was followed by some more negative comments. It was quickly deleted because of the really cruel posts that were made to the topic.

Gayle, You are very welcome! I will be watching with anticipation! I was never lucky enough to have children, so I have kind of taken my sister's grandkids under my wings and I make them all quilts. They are so precious. The youngest was born with a hole in her heart, which the doctors didn't find until she couldn't gain weight. She has now had open heart surgery and is doing fantastic. It was really scary for her to have open heart surgery when she was about 10 months old, but she is so cute and making fantastic progress. The doctors said it would take 4 four weeks recovery. Within two weeks she was home and running a hundred miles a minute. I know I ramble, but I am very happy for you.

I suppose I am lucky I didn't read the post! I can't even offer a "should have not" or a "why did you" response. My opinion probably doesn't matter to many, but to those that understand what I am saying, it is valued.

Right is right and wrong is wrong. The only gray areas I allow for myself is in quilting. If I offend anyone, then please PM me and I will adjust my attitude if I think it is necessary. Ha! I was actually asked to leave an online college class because the instructor did not understand the "tone" of my written word in a class discussion board. Sarcastic remarks will come back to bite you in the arse every time, unless you personally know the people you are speaking to.

I do know that I did not read this initial discussion topic. I do know that I did not respond to anyone about their puppies. I really wish that I could have seen it. I have been told that I should have been a Psycho-analyst. Mom says I analyze things too much. Dad tells me I am a psycho. Go figure!

That's the one I try to use. Also, sometimes if something "hits a nerve", which happens to us all, I ask myself....."what will this comment accomplish?" I have kept my mouth shut many times after asking myself that question...LOL :D

This is a bit ironic, don'tcha think?

This whole topic points in a negative direction.

The subject is negative and critical.
The responses are negative and critical.

The entire line of discussion invites argument.

While it's easy enough to assume it was begun with the intent to be helpful, the results can't be anything but the opposite.


(side note: what's posted on other sites is not relevant to ours.)