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Glenda m 10-13-2011 04:41 AM

Was talking to my insurance agent about getting the new machines covered. It came out that I quilted and he asked me if I hemmed pants. !!! Directed him to the lady that has a sewing / alteration shop in town.

veryvirginia 10-13-2011 04:41 AM

A friend told her husband and children (3 boys) that her sewing machine did not do patching or repair work. They gave her a startled look but never said a word and she has lived by that statement.

atbquilts 10-13-2011 04:42 AM

My method for darning.....
1 - Hold the torn clothing article 13" above the trash bin
2 - Let go
3 - Say "Oh Darn!"

weezie 10-13-2011 04:58 AM

Like Quiltmouse, I also kept donor jeans ... for years and years and years; this past winter when DH was having open heart surgery and subsequent complications, I cut 8-1/2" squares out of all the denim I'd saved from his, mine, & 3 kids' jeans and made him a lap-sized rag quilt (he gets cold a lot). I had exactly enough squares when I got finished cutting.

Answer to original question: I will do mending (for immediate family) if the garment is worth saving. I will only hem pants if I am allowed to cut off the excess; my son says, "no cutting ... just roll them up and stitch". No way am I doing that. All holey sox go into the trash.

maryp 10-13-2011 05:04 AM

i hem up grandaugter jeans or mend a sem thats come loose but id rather be quilting

sharonve 10-13-2011 05:06 AM

I'm a quilter and a seamstress. I'm the one who patches those jeans when the wives won't do it.........and I get paid for doing it so I don't mind it!!!

helenip 10-13-2011 05:09 AM

I hate to tell you how long my mending basket has been sitting untouched. I don't like to do it, period! Have a jacket sitting there my DIL gave me to replace a zipper. It's been there maybe 5 months or so. I'm hoping she'll decide it's better to have it done elsewhere. :)

ncredbird 10-13-2011 05:16 AM


Originally Posted by paulswalia
tell him that asking a quilter to patch is like asking Picasso to paint your garage!

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decky 10-13-2011 05:19 AM

I hate patching!!! I have to patch my sons work clothes once in awhile and he doesn't really care how they look. I refuse to hem my husbands pants, he has to take them out and have them done. I had someone ask me if I would hem his pants since I have a sewing machine. Told him NO, I don't even do my husbands. He was surprized but didn't ask again.

deenatoo 10-13-2011 05:22 AM

I think that everyone thinks that if you can sew, you can/will sew anything. I get questioned all the time about fixing or hemming stuff. I don't even like to do my own...so no...I don't do that.

Geri B 10-13-2011 05:32 AM

Learning to repair their own jeans was both my daughters intro to a sewing machine....worked with one, the other just throws them away and buys new ones, but I get her daughters mending......they aren't interested in meeting a sewing machine either....must be in the genes, ha,ha.

Another thing I will definitely not do is darn DH socks...he tried that a few times and watched as I threw them in the garbage....did not ask again....I guess I am to blame...when we were first married-a century ago-I mended, darned, ironed everything, etc., like all good wives did, now I am able to NOT do those things......freedom to do what I want to........

TX GMimi 10-13-2011 05:47 AM

Don't & won't patch jeans. However, I will repair GDs dresses. I was sewing a seam back together & the youngest at 4 years, was standing behind me. When I told her I was finished, she said "I'm finished too, Mimi." I turned around and saw she had printed her name on the wall! Guess what - it's still there, 2 years later!! I did take a photo of it! Love those grand kids!!!

lfw045 10-13-2011 05:48 AM


Originally Posted by Vickymomof6
I patch a lot of jeans. My son in law is a carpenter and I fix his pants all the time.

It's a skill I can use to help others.

I usually un-sew the seams and replace whole sections, that's not really "patching"

Vicky~

That's what I mean by it is an art. I once took a size 3X dress and altered it to fit a X-large SIL.....lol!

ljptexas 10-13-2011 05:48 AM

They just don't get it, huh? But be thankful each day that you still have a hubby!! I lost mine unexpectally 10 yrs ago. The hardest thing, I tell people, is that my 7 DGK don't have a Paw Paw!! But God knows best. (we do wonder tho sometimes). My old house wouldn't need soooo much upkeep if he were here.

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MargeD 10-13-2011 05:49 AM

Oh girlfriend - we are soul mates. My husband doesn't understand me either, as there are times I will patch things or shorten pants (my nemesis - hate it - absolutely hate it) I would rather make a full size garment than shorten pants. BUT, give me a large piece of fabric and I can cut it apart with the best of them and sew them back together. Once, when I had just started this new job, they took me out to lunch and one attorney asked me if I played golf. I told him my son did in high school and was pretty good, but I could never understand how anyone can hit a ball and then run around the golf course chasing it. Well, was my face red when he told me he played golf. Fortunately, I had a quick comeback - I told him, well, I get large pieces of fabric, cut them up into smaller pieces of fabric and sew them together into large pieces of fabric, which was similar in a way. He laughed. lol When one of my brothers passed away, my sister-in-law gathered up all his old jeans and another SIL taught how she could sew them together to make each of her 4 kids a quilt that would be part of their father. I think that's a great use of those old jeans and the kids had a remembrance, so they could hold him close.

pheasantduster 10-13-2011 05:50 AM

My ex son-in-law worked with concrete so his jeans always had holes in them! I lovely patched many and the "guys" ended up calling him Patches!
So sad that he abused his marriage vows and my daughter divorced him. I miss the happiness we all had and what could have been. Time has gone by and my heart hurts less. I, guess that's life. I've sewn since I was pre-teen and now into my senior years still sewing whatever comes along!

bobbie1 10-13-2011 05:51 AM


Originally Posted by hmay60
He came home last night as I was cutting up some of his old jeans. He said, are you sure those aren't any good. Well he is the one who quit wearing them. I said yes, they have holes in them. He says you can make quilts, but you can't patch holes. I explained that I quilt for fun, it is my hobby. It doesn't mean I want to spend my time patching holes. Now, I have patched some in the past, and it's not always easy to patch knee holes and pocket holes, and now we can afford to buy him new jeans, when he needs them. He also told me once, that one of the guys he worked with, wanted to know if I would patch some of his jeans, umm no. I work everyday and just don't want to patch clothes. I will sew up some things for the grandkids though, they are special. So anyone else not like to patch clothes.

Going through the exact same thing with my husband. Have holes 3" across knee and wants me to patch! Really??

Morningcoffeegal 10-13-2011 05:58 AM

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heres what you get with old jeans! Its a soccor quilt for my grandson that I incoporated jeans even the soccor ball is from jeans! I'm with you who wants patched jeans besides pppl pay big bucks for shredded & torn jeans but gringe when you tell them a price for patching or hemming or any lind of alterations. They think because you have a sewing machine its a five minite job & you should only charge a buck! Yeah right my time is cheap I don't think so, I'll quilt for me & my loved ones.

supergma 10-13-2011 06:03 AM

My DH came in from a visit to a neighbor and told me the guy told him he wants me to alter a pair of pants for him! I sent him right back over to tell the man what he can do with his pants. Take them to the local dry-cleaner. They alter pants, I don't! All my neighbors assume that since I make quilts, I also do alterations, drapes, patching, replacing zippers, etc.

running1 10-13-2011 06:07 AM

I've actually wondered that about myself... I love sewing, quilting (all parts of it)... but REALLY don't want to mend, alter, or patch! For me, a ripped pair of jeans shouts, "Cut me up to use for a quilt or something else fun!!"

Morningcoffeegal 10-13-2011 06:14 AM

You got that right! Cut em up! lol


Originally Posted by running1
I've actually wondered that about myself... I love sewing, quilting (all parts of it)... but REALLY don't want to mend, alter, or patch! For me, a ripped pair of jeans shouts, "Cut me up to use for a quilt or something else fun!!"


auniqueview 10-13-2011 06:15 AM


Originally Posted by Katia
I normally don't patch. I also avoid most mending, just hate it. But I did fix some zippers for my daughter because she begged. I would rather start fresh and make something new then fix a zipper, but she loved the skirts so I did it for her. Then the other day y husband brought home some mending for a gal at his work. Nothing hard to do, just a hem and a couple of seams, but still. She was shocked at what the cleaners wanted to fix them. I told him, ok, this time, but don't do it again. We'll see how that works out.

She would have been even more shocked at what I would have quoted her, lol. I couldn't have fixed them, but my cleaners could, and I would charge double. And you should smack your hubby.

Darlene516 10-13-2011 06:16 AM

I agree. My husband is always complaining That I'll piece a quilt top but he has to wait forever for his pants to be shortened. But I don't shorten my pants either. I take them to the tailor. I only have a limited amount of time to sew and I'm not wasting it sewing hems!

grannypat7925 10-13-2011 06:16 AM

For some people they seem to prefer the ragged, patched stuff. Part of the grunge look I suppose but I don't like it and I will not do it. My mom would never have let us out of the house looking like some I see today! It is a disgrace!

CarrieAnne 10-13-2011 06:23 AM

I do it for my kids and parents, but thats about it. Oh, wait, I just did it for my Sister too.....but I dont like it either!

sandy l 10-13-2011 06:34 AM

When I quit sewing clothes, I quit altering or repairing them. I won't even hem SO's new pants, make him take them to the tailoring shop.

sweetpea 10-13-2011 06:36 AM

HIS A MAN. should I say more.

Tinabodina 10-13-2011 06:40 AM

I know what you mean! Even my neighbor ask me to repair some things for him. NOT!!!

amyjo 10-13-2011 06:44 AM

I will patch DH pants if they aren't too old. otherwise they go in the grease rag bag. same for my one SIL. He does some carpenter work and I want to keep him happy so if I need some shelving or something put up he will do it.

ChildoftheUniverse 10-13-2011 06:50 AM

My husband's painter pants always needed patching at the knees... another perk of retirement...!

moreland 10-13-2011 07:04 AM

I know where you are coming from. I do patch my son's and grandson's jeans, but it is truly a labor of love, for I do not like patching. It is less onerous when I open the side seams! I was so thankful when I learned to zigzag the patches on without trying to turn under the edges.

Linda - K. 10-13-2011 07:17 AM

The condition of some of the pants my husband wants patched are terrible!! I told him, "It's a sewing machine, not a miracle worker!" Small holes/tears I will do but when it gets to a certain point, I refuse! My husband just does not like shopping and that's why he'd rather wear a pair of jeans with a lot of patching!

Karen Powell 10-13-2011 07:17 AM

I like to cut the leggs off at the widest area at the crotch. then fold a cuff at the bottom and put a strap for hanging and elastic the other end for one of thise baggs for saving and reusing shopping baggs. They can be embelished too denium holds up to If you have overalls the straps are cute on this kind of bag.

duette 10-13-2011 07:20 AM

Bright red lips, pretty patchwork heart, cute iron on patches..these are some of the ways I used to patch my husbands jeans and hickory shirts. He doesn't ask much anymore.

polly13 10-13-2011 07:44 AM

I pick and choose but also have a DH who doesn't understand or have any desire to become interested in my hobby. But then, I have no desire to become interested in his hunting hobby. We do other things together.

josie bass 10-13-2011 07:45 AM

A neighbor gave me a suit to fix to fit her last month. I would reather make the whole suit than rip and fix this one. Patching is out for sure. I always made, patched , and altered all my family's clothes, but I hated it. I love to make quilts

Scotlass 10-13-2011 07:50 AM


Originally Posted by lee_stitches
Totally agree with all of you. I hate to patch also. The last thing I patched for my DS, I put a quilt label I had messed up over the hole. He looked at me a little strangely and laughed.

Oh what a hoot, I love it and may just pull that one on my DH, he is so good to work on any machine that I have or fix things, but he does tell people how I have all these machines and he still has holes in his jeans! thanks for the AM laugh

Marilynsue 10-13-2011 07:52 AM

You are my kind of person/quilter! Nuff said!!

skowron5 10-13-2011 07:54 AM

I hate to mend or hem pants.

j 10-13-2011 07:57 AM

Why don't you patch them with a flower or cartoon character, maybe that would stop him from asking. I really dislike sewing, just quilting is what I have started doing and really think I have forgotten to even know how to hem. - J


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