I was recently honored by a friend who asked me to make a quilt for his mother who has dementia and is in failing health, I asked his mother's name so I could use it in the label (made for), then he thought why not include everyone's name in the quilt, I suggested perhaps a family photo, well, there would have been 22 photos with all the sibs, and offspring, we finally settled on just a photo of sibs as children, (center block), now he wants all the siblings names on the label (as from), here's the delicate issue, he had a brother that passed away when he was only 13 years old, do I include his name in the label, do I leave his name out, I need your valuable advice as I'm clueless how to handle this. Would it be better to just put made for, made by, 2010 on the label and have him enclose a card with all the siblings names? Thank you in advance for all your help.
It's a lap quilt approximately 56x68.

TERRYL

I think you should be asking him this question. if it were my decision I would say tell him to include a card and he can put from whoever he wants to on it.

You could say from: list all of the siblings names, and then the other brothers name, who is watching over them from heaven... or something like that.

If i'm understanding you correctly, you've wanting to put their names on the quilt? With their pics? I would say include the deceased brother. If she has dementia, she may remember her son at the age in the picture, not that he died.
BUT the best person to ask is the one that asked you to make the quilt.

No, I don't want to put the names on the quilt, the quilt top is done, except for the borders, I'm asking about including the brothers name in the label.

I agree with asking...but I'd probably opt for a line like "with loving memories of xxxxx." I lost my youngest sister five years ago and I think I would like that.

My brother passed away 2 years ago. I still cry almost everyday. If it was me, I would say add his name. I would want it on there, if it wasn't there I would feel like he was left out. He is still apart of the family, he just lives in Heaven now.

My oldest brother died almost 3 years ago, and I would absolutely devastated if one of the family had a quilt made with all of our names on it but left out his. He was a part of our family for 65 years and we still miss him and always will.

I would ask first. And with dementia, mother might not even remember ( but mine did). She just never remembered me at this present age.......she used to have a puzzled look on her face when I asked her what my name was. I would tell her my name and she'd retort most adamantly, "not!!!" So they do remember but the memory can be stuck in yesteryear.

I'd do it as suggested - it might be a nice touch for her. I would run it by your friend first. Would there be any way you could add it on last?