Well, our ladies group was asked to make a quilt to be raffled off by a fund raiser. The 'group' did not get to vote on it, but the decision was made that we would make this quilt by two people that don't even sew. O.K. we jumped in, in spite of everything else that we have going on in our lives and got the fabric together. I donated some, others donated some. Then I cut it out. Seems I am the only one with a rotary cutter in the group. Another lady sewed it up but she could figure out the borders, so I cut out the borders, sewed them up and ran out of fabric. She told me where she bought it so I went and got some more, but it didn't match, so I "unsewed" all the borders and made them again. So 4 of us have been quilting every day and we were on the last stitches, when the man that asked us to do this called and asked if we could change the center block. This block has initials in it of a local university, but no one told us how they wanted it, just that they wanted it. Now, keep in mind that the entire quilt has been hand quilted and we were right smack dab in the middle and almost finished. I said absolutely not and everyone agreed with me. Can you imagine??? Sorry I vented so much, but evidently they just don't realize the time and effort that goes into a quilt.

That is some nerve. But, like you said, people just don't realize. I've heard over and over again this phrase "It's just sewing". That one really chaps my tail.

I'm thinking that center block is staying just as it is!!!
Surely they jest!!! They have no idea how much work has already been put into this quilt!

Wow, some people are just clueless!

Here's a thought. Finish the quilt, give it to the caller, and tell him, if he still wants the center block changed he'll have to do it himself or find someone else willing to do it. You have met your obligation and then some. Be proud of what the few of you have accomplished. I would love to see the finished quilt, I'm sure its wonderful.
Mona

That is why we are here. To give support when the rude, ignorant and the "Quilt Police" decide to show themselves for who they are.
Your group was strong in their decision "absolutely not", good for you all.

some people really do not understand how much time and work is involved in making a quilt.

Oh Darn, some people just don't have any idea what they are talking about.

Some people!

Now that is serious business......!
I think I would have just cried for days if this would happen to me.
And you doing all the work with hardly no one to back you up...?? Too serious for me!

Very nervy. But also the nerve of 2 women "deciding" what the group is going to make to donate. Maybe what you and the quilt group need to do is: 1) the women who made this decision need to learn to quilt or 2) the quilters make the decision on what they will make, NOT people who don't have a clue what they're making the decision on.

um, just say no.

And I say.....GOOD FOR YOU!! Dang it...I hate when folks take advantage of good people. They should be ashamed, but....YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!!

A agree 110%

Next time, tell the two people who made the decision that you will buy the fabric, but THEY have to sew it. And stick to it.

One of my DH's & my favorite sayings, "and they walk among us". Bless you ladies for your charitable work.

One of my DH's & my favorite sayings; ..... "and they walk among us".

Oh my gosh! Glad you said no, I might have gone nuts on the person!!! :D:D

Glad you vented, you KNOW we understand such nonsense!!

It's actually not a quilting group, it is a homemakers group. One good thing did come from it all and that is that we got to teach one of the ladies how to quilt and how to do your best at it.

Still laughing at "chaps my tail". A new one to me, but one I will definitely repeat. :D :-D

Sounds like they just don't have a clue!

Just refuse to do any un-sewing. People are idiots.

AMEN......

This is to much... I don't think I would have given him any quilt at this point!

I like that..."and they walk among us". Mind if I use that from time to time?

God for you. If more people would be honest in situations like yours, maybe people would provide better instructions when they were asking for something.

Good for you! So many people don't have a clue as to the time and work involved in making a quilt. Reminds me of my boss. I work for a newspaper. She seldom looks at anything until it's on a page and the final proof comes out. We all cringe when we hear the dreaded "OH NO!" We just can't get her to understand that sometimes adding just one word can throw the whole thing off once the page has been finished.

hand the guy a needle and tell him he is perfectly capable of doing it himself

No doesn't seem to work with some people....This is my favourite when my kids/friends/whoever is asking for something outrageous or impossible "UN....LUCKY!". Then smile and walk away!

I would have bent over backwards explaining the details to him and then I would have given in and said "I'll see what I can do". Can you tell I have a problem saying "NO"!! And a major people pleaser...but I'm getting better!!

Love this one.....plus they vote also. :wink:

Sounds like the whole process was nervy on lots of folks parts. The man should abe grateful that you few are doing it. The few who made the decision should have had to do something, and the lady who did not give you enough fabric should have gone out to find more. Honey, you did your part. As another Kentucky girl...... you gotter done! and that is what it is all about. Good for you and the other few "sewers".

Most people don't get it until they try it. Also, just because 2 people made the choice to do the project, are they dictators? If no one volunteers, they'll think twice next time.

I might have told him ..Sure. You come and sit with us while we spend 80 hours redoing it. Rejoice in your good heart and forgive others.

Sorry this has turned into such a major chore and the fun has been taken out of it for you. Non-quilters don’t have a clue as to what is involved in putting a quilt together. They think they just pop out of sewing machines finished in 5 minutes. I would have told him that a lot of time has already been put into the quilt and that part is already finished. He may very well like what you’ve done better than his idea. At any rate it’s too late to change now. People can’t really understand unless they have done it themselves. This is an opportunity for you to educate a non-quilter about how much time, thought and work goes into a quilt. I’d let him know to how many hours have already been devoted to the quilt. He will most likely be shocked and truly appreciate this quilt and all quilts more.

Believe it or not some people weren't raised in a quilting enviroment A very sad thing -so they know not what the heck their asking ,one must show pity for these deprived people :-(

One more affirmation that "if you don't do it, you haven't a clue".

I swear people don't think. Next time (let there not be a next time) but if there is, ask them if this is a final decision and tell them they can't change there mind.

When you give him the quilt
PLEASE ENCLUDE THE ESTIMATED TOTAL HOURS TO MAKE THIS QUILT.

I'm sure your group did a good job so give it to them as is and if they want to change it they will do it themselves. You did your part. On to the next project......lol.