That is why I no longer sew for my daughter. She has to try on 20 dresses before she can pick the right one. I made her a prom dress that she was never really happy with. I'm so sorry you put all that work in and it was not appreciated. Someone else will love it.

You know what? My mom spent her time making things for her three granddaughters and one grandson. Sometimes my sister would hurt her feelings and sometimes I probably did too. Sometimes the kids liked what she made. Sometimes they didn't. Mom has been gone now for 5 years and whenever we are purging our belongings, "NAN MADE THAT! You're not throwing THAT away!" echoes in our house.

Some people know the price of everything but the value of nothing... and others learn it later!

thanks everyone, my GD is leaving town. Going back home to Wy. So I took her shopping she picked material and pattern. the other one I had started I did cut it all and had 4 squares done But I like it so im gonna keep it for myself.:) thanks again for kind words and ideas.

What a good attitude you have!

Kids! Oh well, at least now you know what she does like. There was a nice, black, white and red disappearing 9 patch on this message board yesterday. I didn't keep the link, but you can search on Disappearing 9 patch. Good luck!

And she will keep it forever, and treasure it because you listened to her.

My GD requested a Princess quilt yesterday. I asked her where her Dora quilt was and she said it's on my bed Nana, but I need one I can cuddle with......lol! Her next door neighbor is making her a quilt also......this kid is 4 and a quilt queen......LOL!

I had something similar happen to me.... Although I wasn't planning on making a quilt for her; a freind said' you should make me a quilt, but don't make it quilty looking, I hate that'...
I just replied 'ok..' isn't that the whole point of a quilt? to look quilty? She seems like more of a blanket type person to me.

I have been fortunate that all my family loves my quilts, and eagerly await or say that one is mine. But when it comes to Christmas,BD or a special gift giving time, I give gift certificates and let them get their own stuff, esp my DGDs. That is what they want.

Well, it's not exactly fair to try to elicit an opinion when she didn't think it was for her. I KNOW it's not fun to realize that someone isn't thrilled with your choices - guess HOW I know!!:). Finish the quilt and give it to an "old granny" friend(or keep it) and make her the quilt she wants. I can't aniticipate what my kids or nieces or nephews will want, so if you want to be sure the quilt receipient will LOVE your quilt - you'll have to ask what they like!

I'm a pretty lucky grandma. My grandkids like things because I make them, not because of the color.

Just finished sewing the top of a quilt for my 8 year old granddauter and she loves it. I took her to the fabric store with me and she chose the colors all pink! It was fun taking her shopping and it was great shopping trip.

How true, Kathy N---our love for our craft of quilting is not recognized by those who don't sew. I usuallly deliver what I think is the perfect gift with, "It gave me great joy to make this for you. If it isn't your taste, feel free to pass it on to someone who will enjoy it." I also make items, pack them away and then let recipients choose from the stash when a gift is in order. Sometimes I hear, "Oh, grandma, I love this, but could you make it in (color choices). It seems to work well.

What makes us different, makes us special. If everyone liked the same things, this world would be sooo boring! It's not a slam toward you or your style or color selection of colors, it was just her opinion of what she likes.....please don't take it personally! Just be glad you didn't give her something that she would not like!!! A red/black quilt can be beautiful! Good luck - you can do it!!!

I think DGD are easier please at the ages of 0 - 4, after that they seem to make up their own minds. sorry your feelings got hurt, but it would have so much worse when you handed the finished quilt to her. Now you will see smiles and get hugs for doing just the perfect quilt for her and the bonus is you get to keep this one you like for yourself. Have fun with both quilts!

oh man, that just stinks!!! Chalk it up to her age. Someone else will adore that quilt...you just don't know who yet. I am planning a quilt for my 25 year old DIL & decided not to surprise her but let her help pick out the pattern & inspiration fabric. I thought I would do it in pinks & purples (her fave colors) but she said she wanted it for the living room & not pink & purple at all. Ya just never know do you?

OMG! I was just thinking that! I bet in years to come she will want those 'granny colors' and wonder WHAT she was thinking with black & red!!!!

I make quilts for each of my grandchildren when they graduate from high school, a twin size to use at college. I always ask them before what their favorite colors are and that is what I use. The one I am working on now is purple and lime green, as that is her favorite colors. Probably not what I would have chosen if I had not known her favorite colors.

Maybe I am a bit different for a quilter. I know that just because I like something, it may not be someone else's taste. Usually when I give a quilt, I give them an option. I tell them that if they are not crazy about the quilt, I will make them a different one and they can pick the fabrics. They will just have to wait for it until I have the time to make another one. I would rather make them one that they will love instead of having it shoved in a closet because they didn't like it that much. As a quilter, I can appreciate the time that goes into a quilt but still not love the quilt!

People just don't think before they speak - unfortunately- sometimes they are brutal - hope today is better

I was making a sampler quilt for my future daughter-in-law but I got a feeling it was not just right. So I took her to the quilt store where there was a sample of what I was making.
I showed her several quilts and she picked out a completely different one than what I was making. I then asked her what she thought about the sampler and she said that she did not like it.
I know if I had given it to her she would have been very happy and accepted it with grace. But when I put all that work into something I want the receiver to be VERY happy. So I put that quilt into what I call time out. Several months I took her back to the quilt store and we picked out the fabric together.
Some day I will finish the other quilt and give it to someone else.
Wait till the baby turns one and make a special quilt to it then.

i always ask, "if i ever getting around to making you a quilt what colors/theme do you think you'd like?"
when i finished my daughter's wedding quilt my oldest son asked if he was getting one next...i said of course. i had been collecting patterns and fabrics for months for his, knew exactly what i planned to do...he blew me right out of the water...when he said, "i would like a star quilt" my response...really? i thought you would want wizards/dragons...nope, i want stars...i never try to second guess anymore. i have given quilts that i did not ask ahead of time and have only had one person in 34 years say, "it's nice but i sure wish it was..." don't take it personal, she is trying to avoid hurting you, not liking what you did. i would rather they offer the info than spend the time making and giving to have it not well received.
and someone else will find the 'granny color' one exactly what they love!

I went into the Search engine and there were a lot of quilts there in red, black and white that may be helpful to you.
Good luck.

I know how you feel. I am relatively new to quilting & after my first quilt (a baby quilt I made for my niece's little girl) I was taking a class & the pattern was a large sized sampler wall hanging. I carefully and painstakingly picked out my mom's favorite colors & had it all sandwiched ready to quilt & my mom saw it. I was excited and spilled the beans that it was for her. She looked at me & said, "Oh, I don't have anywhere to hang that, but it's very pretty." Unfortunately, it hurt & I put it away & never finished it. Just recently I found it & decided to quilt it for me. Sometimes I wish people would think before they speak. Oh, well....gotta love MOM.

If it makes you feel better - I was making a sampler quilt for my DD & her hubby for a wedding gift - had been making it over several years. Comes time for actually planning the wedding, every suggestion I made was "too country" so I looked at the quilt blocks and decided to make something less "countrified".
That was July '09 - fast forward to Christmas '09 when I made 5 wallhanging for the 3 couple to pick from. DD & her DH choose the most country one of the bunch which was the made from the sampler quilt blocks!

Ouch. However, at least now you know that the quilt that you will make she will love. You should tell her the story and she'll get a laugh after the fact! Hope someone still benefits from the quilt you are working on now!!
:)

That's so true about GD's mine went from only purple, to purple and lime green, and within three months now would like black included.

I have some GREAT Halloween fabric with those three colors in it!

Thanks, but it was a birth photo wallhanging and I have only to put the sleeve on it and it will be complete.

At least you know before you were finished and gave it to her. Keep the other one for someone else - or even yourself (I always say I'm going to keep one, but never do)

Wow, that is ironic, as the one I just made for my granddaughter is purple and lime green also. That was the colors she chose.

My daughter if very picky about things, that's why I've never made her a quilt because I'm not sure she would like it. I've made several for my grandson (her little boy) and my son, and his girls, which they all love them!

Buy her one from Pottery Barn. Obviously, the work doesn't count. Maybe she'll like the Chinese-made ones better.

The same happened to me with a quilt I had planned for my granddaughter's graduation this June. Last Fall, after attending a local quilt show, we stopped by a quilt store that had a good discount the day of the quilt show. In the store my gd saw a quilt displayed that she said she liked - out of material that is totally out of my comfort zone! I showed her a book with the quilt I had planned and she said she didn't like it! Long story short - we bought material like the display quilt; the quilt is now with the longarm quilter and my gd will have the quilt she wants for her grad! She is our 1st gc so I wanted her to be pleased with her quilt.

I am sorry, children can be brats without even knowing it. I would of never told my grandma I did not like something. I am so sorry you went through all that work. but someone will love the quilt. Heck you could send it to me :D I don't have a quilt yet and I would love it. I hope you have time to make her a new quilt. God bless. Penny

Don't feel bad, it's the generation gap. I would save it for someone else, make hers colors or better yet, give it to her 10 years from now, bet her colors will change. Then again, there is always someone you can give it to.

I think I would write down the whole experience; tuck in the quilt; put her name on it and pack it away--something she'll have of yours when you're no longer around--I know I treasure any little thing that was my grandmothers'. Hopefully, it would put a smile on her face knowing how much you loved her to start a whole new quilt for her because of the colors!

I think you did the right thing by going shopping with your GD.

Yea lnikkers,
This is a hard one. On one side it is best she picks out her own colors and maby the pattern if she has the time to sit with you to pick one out (you certainly wouldn't want her to pick out something that you wouldn't enjoy working on) but on the other side what ever happened to appreciating the love that goes into someone making a quilt for someone they love?????????????? :XD:

The thing is - the GD did not know that this was intended for her - so I think she did nothing wrong by saying she didn't like it.