I was working on a quilt for my 24 yr old grandughter. she saw it and said who are you making that for ? well it was going to be a surprise so i side no one inparticuler. Hopping all the while she would say oh it's beautiful , i love it, love the colors, would you make one for me. BUTTTT what i got was well if you ever make one for please don't use thos old granny colors. Guess she shot me down . so I asked her If I ever make you a quilt what colors do you want . black and red. not gothic but just pretty. well my pride was hurt but i was just wondering if any one else got shot down.now i gotta go find a nice black and red pattern . Darn kids anyhow. :)

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Thus it's called a generation gap!

ouch ;-(

Yip - generation gap. My daughter is the same ...we're opposite on the color charts. But then, my mother is also opposite of me. I have a SIL that is SOOOOO different than me, that when I buy her something, I find things that are UGLY in my mind. She ALWAYS loves the stuff!!!! :roll:

I am making one for my 22 year old granddaughter now as a graduation from college gift. I did ask her a while back what her favorite colors were and she said purple so that is the color that I am using. I think the kids have it too good now days that they don't always appreciate the same things we do.

I am sorry that happened. Granddaughters are hard. Just when you think you know them, what they like and what is on their mind they change the rules. I think surprise is not going to be an option. Maybe she would enjoy going with you to choose the pattern and fabric?

Don't take it too hard....they are just kids. What do they know?? She would probably be horrified if she knew!!

Well that's why I have an "extra" lap quilt sitting in my closet. In my mind I was making it for my niece, when she saw it and didnt like it. Luckily I hadnt given it to her already. From then on, I let them pick out their colors or style. If Im am going to all that trouble, I want it to be something they will cherish. Making a quilt is alot like buying a pair of jeans, it is really tough to do it for somebodyelse.

Think about it this way instead...now you will know she really does love it when she gets her black and red one and isnt just saying it to save face.

I doubt she would be horrified, she would probably be relieved that she set you straight before you gave it to her. Quilters aren't supposed to have feelings I'm beginning to think. We take so many hits, but we keep getting back up and moving forward because we love our craft and we are good at it and nothing or nobody will ever beat us down so we walk away from it!!! I might make my granddaughter sit out a round and wait for her quilt a little longer than normal........

I'm sure her comment really stung and I'm sorry. Be glad you heard her opinion before giving her the quilt. Kids are funny...just when you think you know them...

I'm sure your quilt would be loved by many...perhaps a very good friend?

I've seen some pretty black, white, and red quilts on this board..perhaps the posters will supply you the links.

http://www.quiltingboard.com/t-40325-1.htm

Here is a great red, black, white collection:
http://www.connectingthreads.com/col...ics__L112.html

Yes, kids will be like that. Here's a nice black & red to get your ideas going. It's a disappearing 9 patch - so easy it surprised me too! I'm doing one with black, white and turquoise green.

http://www.quiltingboard.com/t-42037-1.htm

Finish making it...if you don't have anyone else in mind for it, than put it away with a note attached to it that the quilt was meant for this Granddaughter but she didn't care for the colors...
Save it a few years....her taste will change....

Yep, kids are like that, including DIL
I sent her a bag and matching fabric covered journal for her B'day. Her response, I like the book.
The bag was not pink LOL

Here is a black and red one I did a while ago, it is a really simple pattern that makes up very quickly.
http://www.quiltingboard.com/t-35481-1.htm

Don't let your GD's comments discourage you, if everyone liked the same thing there would only be ONE quilt pattern and that would be really awful.

I stopped trying to sew things , even buy things for GD several years ago, about the time she hit high school. She is beautiful, and I see so many things that would look perfect on her, but no matter what I get, she doesn'T like it, and I don't go for older styles. So, she either gets money, or I get her help in choosing. For Xmas, my teenager GS, and her go online to their favorite shops, make a wish list, and then I go back and pick from that. I don"t remember being so picky ! If someone was kind enough to give a gift they thought was "right" for me, I kept it and liked it. I'm just planning to make my Grands baby quilts and put them back until the time comes. Hopefully I will still be around!!But maybe if I am dead, they will appreciate it more.LOL

I'm sorry that happened to you. Dealing with kids is tough.
I made a black, white and red quilt for my daughter that she just loves. It was the star log cabin quilt by Eleanor Burns. Black & White logs, red stars. That might be something she'd like.

Same thing happened with my niece. I spent a lot of time, energy and money on a bed-size quilt as a wedding gift She couldn't have cared less. Said "gee, that nice, thx" and didn't even take it out of the box. No thank you note either. These days, I'm a little pickier when choosing recipients.

I made a quilt for my son for Christmas, one I thought he would love. When he opened it my heart sank because I could see on his face how much he hated it. He said he didn't like the "old lady fabric" I had used. When he left to go home he wanted to leave it behind. I convinced him to take it with him and a couple of days later he contacted me and apologized for being so ignorant about the quilt. He had put it on his bed and realized that he really did love it. (When he was looking at it from a distance he couldn't see the teeny little flowers in one of the fabrics I had chosen!!) I felt so good after our conversation and I promised him I would never make him another quilt unless he chose the fabric himself!

Hopefully you hadn't gotten much done.

I had the same thing when I was going to make my DD one of my photo pin cushions. I had some really neat fabrics picked out for her and was going to surprise her......she saw it and when I showed her the fabrics ....said she didn't like those colors. I still haven't made it for her! I will, but it might be for her birthday.

I made a lap quilt for my teenaged granddaughter, but I already knew her favorite colors. And I always name my quilts... this one was The Neon Quilt. She loved it. I just about had to wear sunglasses to sew it.

You know what I did with my daughter (college aged) before I made her quilt and it worked well? I heard that Lowe's had paint swatches that have four accent colors that go with the main color (not necessarily in the same color family). I had her go with me to pick some up and made a note in my mind of the ones she seemed to really like and then used that for my color palette for her quilt. It was the perfect solution for me - maybe you can try that.

when I made my stepdaugthers quilts I am SO thankful I let them choose the fabrics - I would NEVER have done what they did - surprises are nice, but sometimes it's reversed and WE are the surprised ones - when they don't like them>...

I am sorry that happened to you. But, kids can be very frank about thier feelings.
I know there must be someone else to finish it for that would love it!

I can understand and relate to your feelings -

but you did not say it was for GD - so how would she know???

Perhaps it will be a "happy coincidence" that she saw it at this stage and you can go in a different direction? (After you get your feathers smoothed down - - - )

Ouch!

what a great idea - the quilt was a surprise for her and you did it in just the right colors.

There are some very beautiful red white black Qts. Some nice ideas for you grandD- she will get her own when she has grand kids. Just give her love.

I always try to find out a person's color preference. I know the colors I like, but I'm "old" per my grandkids, so I know I don't like the same as them. My daughter thinks country is very old fashioned and won't have it. My oldest grandaughter liked pink and black, the next one brown and pink, the little one likes green...any color green, just green (at 2!!!). The boys aren't picky, just prefer certain characters. So....it's hard to choose without checking in with them first!!! Sorry your feelings were hurt, but I'm sure she would have said she loved it if you had told her it was hers!! They don't hurt us on purpose, Grandma!! :( :( ;)

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So sorry , but I am sure if she had known it was for her she wouldn't have been so open about it . Maybe put it away until she gets older and will appreciate it more :lol:

I love the honesty. Aren't you glad that she told you before it was done and you'll be able to make her something that she really likes?
My DD is the same way but then that's how I raised her to be. I've always said, "You can be truthful without being mean. If you don't like something just say, "That's not something that I'd go for but if you like it that's great, we not supposed to like the same things.""

awe gosh folk's thanks for the kind words. yes it stung for just a bit. But like you said i knew she wasn't saying it to hurt me. Just being honest. Gotta love em it's in the rules :)

I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. That being said, I am the world's worst gift giver. It stresses me to no end to try and pick what someone else would like. I don't do surprises mostly too because I don't like surprises.

When it comes to something like a cherished quilt, I would hate to spend the $$, time and effort to make something that wouldn't be fully appreciated. (So my "gift" list is really, really short! :-) )

I'd suggest to make a day of it with your GD if possible. Go fabric shopping, let her show you what she likes. You don't have to buy it then and there but now you have a feel for her tastes. Have lunch together and visit. Let her share an activity or place that holds her interest.

Later, use some of the fabrics she showed you, add some of your own that's similar (?), add a letter recalling the special day you shared to make this one of a kind quilt made especially for her. What memories you'll make. Seems like a win-win for both.

Anyway, that's my spin. :D

We do run into that generation gap sometimes. At least you found out before giving her the other one :D

At least she was honest enough not to say thats lovely, and then hate it for years! Offer to make her a quilt and take her with you or go on line to choose the fabrics - that way if she hates it - she has to live with it.
I look back at photos of me and the things I liked then and cringe.
Bright blue thigh high boots with 6 inch heels any one? With matching leather jacket and a micro mini in black leather too! Permed hair, half a chemists counter of make up aargh! My mother referred to it as a gynaecological skirt!

LOL, sorry but it happened to me too. Every quilt i ever made, my sister would say, that's pretty is it for me?? I would say No, not this time, finally i decided to make her one, i got her fav colors, spent a small fortune on fabric and made a star quilt, just to tease her i showed it to her, no response from her, so i prodded a little saying, aren't you gonna ask if it is for you? She said, no i dont' like stars. shot down LOL

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My grandmother used to refer to them as 'a wide belt'. lol

I'd started to hand applique a quilt for my younger sister, spent last Xmas with her, and was working on something else. She looked at it, said "I don't like patchwork. Have no interest in it at all". Didn't tell her I was making one for her. I will finish it though, and I'll give it to her granddaughter - then tell her it was originally being made for her.

On the other side of the coin, my eldest DGS was born in NZ but has lived in Australia since he was 2. Because he was proud of his NZ heritage (and rightly so) I wanted to make to make him a NZ themed quilt for his 18th birthday. When I gave it to him he almost burst into tears. He couldn't stop saying "Thank you Nanna, I love it!". It hasn't been off his bed since, even used to allow his pup to sleep on it when he first got him, (dog now sleeps outside) but no one else is allowed to touch it. He even sleeps with it on his bed when it is 40C outside! This from a DGS who rarely shows emotion.

Had that happen to me by non other my 8 year old DGS. So I'm back to the drawing board.

And a d9P is so quick and easy to do!