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mountain-moma 08-11-2010 07:24 PM

Oh yes they do that all the time here in my neck of the woods.I have one our church reserved for me from my Sister's wake.I think it's such a lovely idea

Honey 08-11-2010 07:25 PM

Since my Mother passed 2 years ago (my sister and I were left to handle everything) I decided that I wasn't going to do that to my children, so started to write down everything that I wanted when my time came. One of the things that I am adamant about is wasting money on flowers. I told my daughter that I didn't want flowers, but one of my quilts on my casket and I want others displayed. I would so much rather people use the money for some good purpose and remember me doing what I have always loved. The flowers won't last, but the love and prayers that I have put into the quilts for my family and friends will.

nicky 08-12-2010 03:40 AM

I believe that that is a lovely idea. Before my mom passed away she said bring me flowers while I'm still her to enjoy them not at my funeral. Quilts would have been a great idea.

Moon Holiday 08-12-2010 03:55 AM


Originally Posted by GamaSusan
I went to pay my respects to the family of a friend who had just passed away. I was surprised to see 3 blankets and a quilt. All three were hand gathered at the top with a color coordinated bow. They were all displayed on stands so that they flowed and pooled on the floor so they could be seen well. One blanket had the Lord's Prayer woven into it; another had the 23rd Psalm. All three had a florist's card with the name of the donor. The florist's card on the quilt also had a handwritten message, "Please reserve for Ed and Cheryl". (One of the deceased's children and spouse.) I have never seen this before but it must happen regularly for the funeral home to have the stands ready. Has anyone else experienced this?

The funeral home my MIL was buried from has a series of ongoing quilts, where family members are invited to create a quilt block to be added to the newest quilt being assembled in memory of their loved one who has passed. They even have separate quilts with blocks created by children. These many many quilts are on display and are rotated on weekly basis. It becomes such a spiritual experience to watch people in such pain find solace in them. Quite an experience.

jbud2 08-12-2010 04:00 AM

Recently a good friend at Church passesd away. Her covering in the casket was a quilt her grandchildren, great grandchildren and great-great grandchild made. They drew pictures, wrote special words, traced their hands on squares during her last few weeks and she saw them do it. Someone else sewed the squares together to cover her. Made so many people cry but what a special tribute to a special lady!

littlehud 08-12-2010 06:05 AM

What a wonderful idea. Quilts can be there forever and flowers just die. I want quilts for mine.

Charlee 08-12-2010 06:14 AM

My mama wasn't a quilter, but she did do needlework...we had a table set up with a display of things she had made for us...just kind of gave everyone there a glimpse of who she was....

sueisallaboutquilts 08-12-2010 06:18 AM

I love flowers but the ones at funerals look so depressing to me. That other idea sounds much better.

jraff 08-12-2010 07:21 AM

For the past few years, funerals at our church have included the comfort quilts that our church quilting group has made for those who are ill or experiencing a serious trauma of sorts. One man was buried with the quilt a 9 year old made. He treasured that quilt, because it was made to look like a flag and he had been a vet. The family usually keeps the quilts, because their loved one used that quilt, which is always given with a Bible verse in cross stitch attached, while they were ill or in the hospital. If the departed has opted for a cremation, the quilt has also been used to cover a table which holds the ashes, a photo, flowers or other mementos.

It really makes us, as Piecemakers, feel wonderful that quilts we created are so treasured and that they brought some joy and actual hugs to people who were ill.

The third Monday morning of each month, we gather at church to create these gifts. And we KNOW it helps.

BRenea 08-12-2010 07:38 AM

I haven't seen this locally at any funerals, but I think it is a beyond amazing idea! Quilts touch so many lives!


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