okay ladies, this is a very sensitive subject. My SIL's mom just passed away saturday. Not to get into the details but she took her own life. I am wanting to do something for my SIL and was thinking about making a memory quit for her. But I don't know if it is a good idea. there are many issues with their relationship, but she was her mom. Do you ladies think that it would be a good idea to make a memory quilt for my sil, even though her mom took her own life? (it was do to a life long battle of horrible depression at least that is what I have been told) I am even hesitent to ask because it is a very touchy subject for me as well as for my SIL. Do you ladies think that this is a good idea or should I not go there?

Just my opinion, but right now I would make a comfort quilt. Later...I would consider a memory quilt.

make it --but you may have to wait a while befor she is ready to recieve it

I agree, nothing directly related to the mom right now, just from you to her to let her know you care.

what is a comfort quilt? one made with bits of her cloths? or just a pretty quilt that is good for cuddling?

I agree with SadieMae. I think a nice comforting quilt or lap quilt would be more appropriate. Even if suicide and family issues aren't involved, some people aren't comfortable with memory quilts. Your heart is in a good place-go with your feelings. You love her and want to offer her comfort. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

My mother has had a very long battle with depression and threatens to take her life at least three times a year. If I ever end up in your SIL shoes a memory quilt would be hard to handle. I think that a comfort quilt would mean the world to her right now.

I think you should talk to her husband to see what he thinks her reaction would be, but I would defiantly let whoever know you want some of her thing for the project before they are discarded and gone forever.

I was talking about a pretty quilt good for cuddling.

I would go ahead and make it. Things may be up in the air right now but she was still her Mom and in time i think she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.