Originally Posted by Peckish (Post 8664176)

Ok here's a new one I haven't seen discussed before... I have a friend - who IS a quilter! - who keeps nagging me to make a list of all my UFO's and unquilted tops. She has a very linear, organized, regimented way of thinking; she will not start a new project until she finishes her old one, and she has lists for everything that she works from. Sometimes she'll get stuck on her current project and won't work on anything for months while she waits for a solution, or for inspiration to strike.

I am a completely different personality type. I know exactly what UFO's I have, I don't need a list. I told her in the time it would take me to make a list, I could finish 2 or 3 of these tops. If I get stuck, usually working on another project will un-stick me. But she will not drop it! Just yesterday she sent me a link to a video of someone showing how she made a list. It's really starting to irritate me and I really don't want it to affect our friendship. Up til now, my responses have been to tell her I don't need or want a list; I've joked about it; I've laughed it off; and in the last year or so my response has been to completely ignore these suggestions. But she will not stop. I'm afraid at some point she will say something and I'll snap and say something rude in return, and it will hurt her feelings.

Originally Posted by b.zang (Post 8664227)

It's much easier to ignore links and other information sent electronically so just delete!If she gets in your face about it, that's a different thing.

Originally Posted by joe'smom (Post 8664228)

Peckish, if you can hold out, I think ignoring is probably the best tactic.
Have you tried thanking her extravagantly every time she brings it up? (Oh, that is so kind of you to be worrying about my work method; I hope it's not keeping you awake at night!)

Originally Posted by cashs_mom (Post 8663570)

I completely agree! I don't feel like I have to reduce the amount of fabric I have just because someone else thinks it's too much. I love my fabric. I love looking at it and touching it and just having it.

I also have 4 dogs which some people might think it too many. I love them all and would never get rid of them because someone else thinks that too many dogs.

My husband and I are both collectors. We have vintage signs and artwork on the walls. We have 5 cars.

I don't feel that anyone has a right to criticize it. I've also noticed that when someone is critical of how much you have, they are usually just jealous.

Originally Posted by Onebyone (Post 8663627)

One relative commented to my husband that I wasted a lot of money buying fabric when I already had too much. My husband said what else is she going to do with money? The relative didn't have anything more to say. LOL

Originally Posted by Peckish (Post 8664176)

Ok here's a new one I haven't seen discussed before... I have a friend - who IS a quilter! - who keeps nagging me to make a list of all my UFO's and unquilted tops. She has a very linear, organized, regimented way of thinking; she will not start a new project until she finishes her old one, and she has lists for everything that she works from. Sometimes she'll get stuck on her current project and won't work on anything for months while she waits for a solution, or for inspiration to strike.

I am a completely different personality type. I know exactly what UFO's I have, I don't need a list. I told her in the time it would take me to make a list, I could finish 2 or 3 of these tops. If I get stuck, usually working on another project will un-stick me. But she will not drop it! Just yesterday she sent me a link to a video of someone showing how she made a list. It's really starting to irritate me and I really don't want it to affect our friendship. Up til now, my responses have been to tell her I don't need or want a list; I've joked about it; I've laughed it off; and in the last year or so my response has been to completely ignore these suggestions. But she will not stop. I'm afraid at some point she will say something and I'll snap and say something rude in return, and it will hurt her feelings.