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Quiltbin 02-10-2011 09:30 AM

Good for you!! I think respect is a two way street, and parents need to show respect to their children and encourage their endeavors too. I'm proud of you!!

KathyKat 02-10-2011 09:45 AM

Good job! I know it's hard to stand up for yourself with your Mom but we can't let someone else make a victim of their caustic words either. I predict that this will be a turning point for the better with your Mom.

misseva 02-10-2011 09:57 AM

I will NEVER understand why mothers think they can say anything they like to their grown children. I have friends who do that to their children. If I did the same to my daughter or son they would never speak to me again. PLUS when I'm jokeing with my daughter she reminds me very sweetly that SHE will get to pick my nursing home.

My mother always felt free to tell me a better way to do things. It made me mad but for the most part I just ignored her.

LucyInTheSky 02-10-2011 10:00 AM

Good job standing up for yourself! Congratulations!! Sometimes it's necessary, even when you don't like conflict.

Patrice/Admin - Can we start a Quilting Board Police Department?? :D :D

carla m 02-10-2011 10:27 AM

wow my mother would just be ecstatic that i was sewing
unfortunately she passed away before i started quilting.
she sewed alot during her life i just wasnt the easiest student and i never learned. i always did beautiful cross stitch and embrodiery just could do the machine thing.
i usually do my binding that way unless im making some creative statement ???
carla

drdolly 02-10-2011 11:34 AM

Good for you. MOthers are not always right. Hold your head high and appreciate what you Can do.

roserips 02-10-2011 11:35 AM

Deanna,
Take it one day at a time and keep standing up for yourself, I know that she will be coming back at you with something else, but even her friends said good for you. You Go Girl.
Keep those feet planted and stand up for you, you are the only one that can do it.

mjsylvstr 02-10-2011 11:55 AM

good girl.

perhaps you mom might just decide that you have a good point in doing what you do.

and that it is quite OK to do your own thing.

Keep tying until YOU decide that you want to quilt.......

anniemae 02-10-2011 01:10 PM

Well, if turning the excess backing over to the front and stitching it with handstitching is cheating it was done for a long time. My mother and I made quilts in the 1950's and that is exactly how we finished them and I thought they looked nice.
Not only that, the lining was a good grade of flannel that co-ordinated with the top. Also, my grandmothers "cheated". So, it goes a long way back and I have never heard it called cheating. I have done both ways and like both. Cherish the ones my mother helped me make. You don't need anyone to tell you to do it a certain way. If you like it, that is all that matters. It also takea less time to turn the backover the front, no estra cutting or sewing. Enjoy what you do. AnnieMae

Matilda 02-10-2011 01:54 PM

What your Mom did was very petty. I can't imagine getting after someone for such a little thing as that. I fold my backing over sometimes (not that that makes a difference) it makes a good binding. Quilting is an individual art form, like paint or drawing there is NO wrong way. Let her know you love her too, because you need to honor her but it is good you stood up to her too.


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