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My DH wouldn't go to a quilt show. He has waited outside the wholesalers which is in a big tin shed. (great prices). He will admire what I make. He raved over one quilt and I've found out he does talk to others about what I do. He knows I make heaps of quilts for the kids charity I support and he gives me a very generous allowance.
His attitude is if it makes you happy just do it. He has said this to me quite often. |
Never had to sneak anything in the house---he knows I love fabric and everything related to quilting.
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I can relate to most who have responded to this thread. My DH doesn't really know what all I have in my sewing room (nor do I know exactly what is in his woodworking shop!) but he encourages me in this hobby and even is proud to show it to others. But it's not that I hide anything and we don't spend out of the "household budget". He makes more shelves when needed, makes quilt hangers, made the lovely tool caddy that I posted a picture of a few days ago, etc.
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Originally Posted by ckcowl
i am finally chiming in here, have been skipping over this topic for days, it started right out distressing me, just reading the name of the post. i am sorry, very sorry for anyone who feels they have to sneak their purchases in the door...it just seems like such a negative thing. like there are big problems? you should not be spending the money? you are going to put your family in financial ruin with your quilting addiction?
it really sounds like a problem. i guess in lots of ways i am very lucky. first off, i would never consider 'hiding' a purchase of any kind (outside of gifts hidden until the day)it just seems dishonest. i not only tell my hubby but i show my hubby everything i buy. he has been shopping with me plenty of times he knows what things cost, and he doesn't worry about it, as long as the bills are paid i can spend my extra money how ever i want, he does. i do not 'dip' into the household budget to feed my addiction, i support my quilting habit with quilting. most of the family helps with gift certificates for gift giving occasions so i can get those things i never want to spend my money on. but, the only time i would ever hide a quilt shop purchase would be if i was going to make something for my hubby and him seeing what i bought would clue him in. other than that i can not imagine being 'sneaky' ...does not seem like a positive action to me...and nothing good can come from it |
I have found it better to ask for forgiveness than to ask permission just have to explain once why I have to have it
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I snuck in a new sewing machine! He hasn't even noticed it (and I hope he doesn't ask!)
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I got a Janome 3160 about 3 wks ago he has been in the sewing room serveral times and still hasn't noticed the extra machine could be because there are at lease nine machines in there so If he notices and ask I will tell like the military don't ask don't tell rule
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where do you put 14 machines?
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Originally Posted by CAJAMK
My DH has no idea how much fabric is in this house! How about you?
the beauty of separate checkbooks.... |
There is another one like mine? Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I sneak stuff in all the time. Certainly not because I need to hide my purchases, because I far outearn my husband, and our bills are paid, and savings /retirement contributions made, and no cc debt. It's more than my husband is frugal, and doesn't understand I need more clothes, purses, fabric or whatever, and I don't even want to discuss it. He will analyze whether he needs to spend $25 on something, and I bought a long-arm because I wanted it and could afford it (of coure I did discuss it with him before buying).It doesn't help that his only hobby is video games, and he could spend $60 on a game which he will play for a year.
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Originally Posted by dljennings
Originally Posted by CAJAMK
My DH has no idea how much fabric is in this house! How about you?
the beauty of separate checkbooks.... |
Dh knows exactly what I have. He adds to the stash and notions. Always supports my machine and fabric stash.
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all over the house...
I have one displayed in the TV unit, one at the bottom of the steps to the basement, actually 2, a dome cabinet is sitting on a tredle machine and another dome lid on the buffet in the basement. I have an old Royal on my dresser and another itoy machine in my curio cabinet. Right now I have my little Janome set up in the living room on the desk. I am taking a table runner class that has a new runner every month and this way I watch TV with my husband, but sew a little. Two machines are in cabinets in the basement, and I use these when my daughters come to sew. I would really like to make a sewing area so that I could get organized... |
My husband plays golf about three x's a week. I quilt. I genuinely love it that he plays golf. He proudly loves it that I quilt. When we were raising a family, we had to mind our pennies and couldn't afford to pursue our hobbies in this way. We're retired now, and golf and quilting are what it's all about! lol... We don't take cruises or other expensive vacations. We live fairly quiet, content lives.
But I must say... I oftentimes am tempted to Sneak things into the house - some kind of hardwired guilt? When that feeling comes over me, I repeat that first paragraph to myself. hahaha... *adding an edit to this* When I was 49, I quit smoking. I was nervous as a cat and told him I was thinking I should take up quilting, so I went to a local quilt shop and bought a pattern and some fabric. My sewing machine was an old Brother that I'd bought for myself when I was 20 - before I'd met him. I returned home with my new fabric, a book, and some basic, low-end tools and spent the evening figuring out what to do. The next morning he took me to breakfast and stopped at a quilt shop and bought me a Bernina. I love that man. |
I can relate to these comments. While I don’t sneak things in side of hide them I also don’t mention that I have bought this or that today. Will often bring items home leave the packages on the bed for a couple of hours (in their shopping bags/boxes) then put it away. Sometimes I will put it all away immediately while he is standing there telling me what ever is on his mind. He seldom takes much notice at the time and when I do eventually bring something new out to use (or wear) and he says – when did you get that/I haven’t seen that before; I can honestly say, well I’ve had it for a few weeks. On the whole hubby is very supportive of my hobbies and encourages me to keep busy while I do likewise with him :lol:
Actually it is my daughter who will tell her father if she sees something new and say something along the lines of - Dad, Mum has been spending money again on fabric or what ever although he usually just retaliates with "leave your Mother alone , it makes her happy" then a day or two later when she isn't around he'll come and ask me what I have that he hasn't seen. He is a good man and I shall keep him. Maybe1day |
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