I would probably call her and ask how she's coming along with the quilt and if "your" red was a good addition. You can tell her that you had expected to hear back from her and she was probably in high gear with the wedding et al. If she forgot, she will step up to the plate and make things right. If she's a user.....be prepared to write off that transaction. Either way, I think it's nice of you to be generous.

I'd definitely give her a call. Inquire if any of the fabric worked. If she said yes, she used X I'd ask her to please return the rest as you are working on something that needs red.

I would just call and politely ask her if she has made a decision on what she was going to use and if she could return what she wasn't going to use.

I would call and asked if she was able to use the fabric and tell her what you expected. Maybe she didn't understand and maybe she did and just took advantage of you. Like you say she has to live with it. You tried to help out a fellow quilter. I used to be very easy going but now so much now that I am older.

I think with the wedding rush she may have forgotten or misplaced you info. I'd send her a note and inquire about the fabric/quilt/wedding. The next step is up then up to her. good luck
Kate

You were very generous sorry to say there are people today that take advantage of that quality in other people

Please let us know what happens. I want to hear the end of the story.

I know that in my hectic schedule (and I don't even have a wedding added in) I get focused on the latest crisis and lose track of what I needed to get back to three or four interruptions ago. Most likely she has misplaced your phone #, not finished the quilt and forgotten exactly what you agreed on, since it was a rather nebulous agrrement anyway.

I think your best bet is to give her a friendly call inquiring about the progress of the quilt and the wedding preparations. I'm guessing you'll get a reply full of how busy, hectic, chaotic things have been and an apology for not getting back to you sooner.

My personal choice would be to consider the fabric a wedding gift, whether or not she offers to pay. But that's just me.

Not sure how I would handle this, but the fact that she may have lost your Ph. # is not an excuse. She was at your house...she know's where you live! She should have dropped by with the "extra" fab. that she didn't use, and offer payment for what she did. No advise from here, but I do hope you get something worked out.

I definately would call her and ask her if she is done with the red flannel and ask her to return the remainder of it, as you will want to use it sometime. And she can pay you for what she thinks she used. She can always give it to your Mom at church or you could pick it up at her house. Like you say, red flannel plaid is something you don't run across everyday and I would want to keep it for 'my' stash. Some people just conveniently "forget". I guess I don't have much patience with people "forgetting" what we have talked about.