Just call, and say "I haven't heard from you. How did the quilt turn out? Did you take pictures of it? Were you able to use any of my fabric?" This would gently remind her that the fabric was yours to use, and you were kind enough to share. This also opens the door, to claim you have decided to make a flannel quilt too, and could you pick up the excess? Her immediate response will tell you if she forgot, or just used you. In the meantime, you will have let her know gently that she has been thoughtless. Walk away with your head up. You would never treat someone so shabbily.

Bank it as a 'you owe me one'. Call her the next time you need something and then use heavy implication in your voice :)

Like the idea of asking her if she has any plaid fabric for you to use since you give all your plaid fabric to somebody else....... hint hint hint...........

An update: I called her this morning, asked how she was doing and told her I missed her at the "local quilt show".
Also asked about the quilt and how it turned out. She said it is still not finished yet, but hopefully soon. She apologized for not getting back to me sooner. She has used part of the fabric, will pay me for what she's used when finished and will return what she doesn't use. I told her just to make sure she has enough to get it all done. I do think it will turn out okay in the end. Some of us move slower than others I guess, and sometimes life gets in the way of our projects.

Just wanted to let all of you know the outcome. Thanks much for all of your input. It is appreciated.

Way to go Born2Sew, I am very proud of you. I think you handled it very well. Please don't give up on this woman, I would follow up with her every couple of weeks. You could offer to help her decide and measure what she needs, because you need......the red flannel for other projects. You sound like a very special caring person!!!!!!Good Luck and keep us posted.

[quote=Born2Sew]An update: I called her this morning, asked how she was doing and told her I missed her at the "local quilt show".
Also asked about the quilt and how it turned out. She said it is still not finished yet, but hopefully soon. She apologized for not getting back to me sooner. She has used part of the fabric, will pay me for what she's used when finished and will return what she doesn't use. I told her just to make sure she has enough to get it all done. I do think it will turn out okay in the end. Some of us move slower than others I guess, and sometimes life gets in the way of our projects.


congratulations on having the courage to get in touch with her. I'm afraid I would have just continued to fume about it. I'll have to use you as my inspiration and face things head on when needed.

Well, I would also call and ask her about how she is doing on the quilt, if she did end up using it? Did she get it finished, you
would love to see maybe even a picture. Does she have any
fabric left, because, you did have a project in mind for the material. Maybe you could meet for lunch and chat about it,
and just be up front and say, you did say you would give me
something toward the material you would use. Just tell her
I hated to ask but, I need what you have left back. If she is
a true quilter she should understand.

do not use the words "the fabric I gave you"" NO NO NO -did MY FABRIC work, did you use all MY FABRIC???--then she knows for sure it wasn't a gift!

Maybe she is just slow to respond........how long has it been.
I just received a pie plate back from a person who had a
death in their family & I sent a pie. I had almost given up (but
didn't forget that she had the plate) hope that she would return
it.

SOme peoples kids! Not you! I would call her , etc.