when the quilt is finished, do you put fabric softner in the rinse or is it harmful to quilts?

I hope it's not harmful, I do it all the time. Never noticed a problem. :)

I use fabric softener on everything and know my kids will too. It hasn't hurt any of mine.

Only caution might be if you are going to give it to someone who might be allergic to the fabric softener.

I use it too!

I use it too!! Throw in a color catcher or two in case there are any loose dyes!!!

I always use vinegar in the rinse water.

I don't use a softener. Some people seem to be allergic to it.

I never use fabric softener. I have very sensitive skin.

I can't use softener anymore. I am slightly allergic and my DD is fairly allergic to it. if you use a detergent that is "natural" or homemade the wash usually comes out really soft. At least that is what I have found. Unless you have really bad water.