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Thread: The quilt police came to visit...

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    Senior Member collady's Avatar
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    A young friend who has just started quilting called to see if she and her cousin could come visit, so the cousin could see some of my quilts. I invited them with pleasure. As soon as they arrived, the cousin begin telling me what I had done wrong on one quilt after another. The colors didn't go together. The pattern wasn't right for the fabrics. The binding should have been a different fabric. The poor young quilter was dying in front of my face. She had wanted her cousin to see that there wasn't a specific "correct" way to make a quilt. Instead we were getting a lesson on all the "incorrect" things I was doing.
    I am 62 years old and made my first quilt with my grandmother when I was 10. I stood and listened to this 20 something non quilter tell me what I was doing wrong.
    When she finished, I very politely asked her how many quilts she had made. NONE, she just knew what was wrong with mine. She then made a comment that I probably didn't know how to design. That is when I opened the door to the store room and begin pulling out the evening and performance gowns I had made for my daughter when she was in pageants and completions. All of which I designed and made, hand beading and all.
    That didn't stop her. She made some smart comment that I had probably used a pattern or bought them and removed the labels.
    At this point my young friend grabbed her cousin by the arm and tried to drag her out of the house!
    I told my friend she was welcome back at any time.
    Then I turned to the cousin and politely told her that:
    1. I started making my own clothes at the age of 5
    2. I had a degree in costume design
    3. I have been designing and sewing more that three times as long as she is old.
    4. Rudeness is not a sign of intelligence, it is a sign of ignorance. 5. While her cousin was welcome to return to my home at any time, I hoped that I never had the opportunity to see her again!
    I then gave my friend a hug and opened the door for the cousin, who left in a huff... I laughed and cried as they went to the car! I hope my friend comes back soon. I called her later and told her I didn't hold the cousin against her. We can't help to whom we happen to be related.

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    I can't believe the nerve of some people. Reminds me of some of our educators who have never had children telling us how to raise them, cause they are so "educated"

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    oh wow. I have no idea how I would have handled that, but it sounds like you did it with grace.

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    The NERVE of some people! I probably couldn't have kept my mouth shut as long as you did, lol!! I guess it takes all kinds of people to make the world go round.

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    LMAO. I need some of your patience and tact. I hope your friend sees that you are her friend, and her cousin is NOT!

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    I am afraid you handled it with much more grace than I ever could have. Well done!

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    Wow! What a nasty person, but you handled it with such grace! I am afraid, I would not be able to do so, probably would have physically thrown her out!

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    So sorry some people are so rude and unintelligent. Your friend I imagine was mortified. I hope she does come back and learns how to quilt from you, because you have a good heart and will be a great teacher. She couldn't learn from anyone better. Have a good night and don't take it to heart that she is so ignorant. Amy

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    wish i had the retort and the nerve to say it. good for you

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    Boy, you handled that well!

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    This very bad and I am sorry you listened to all that. Some people are very rude and very stupid.

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    Thanks, Amy. I learned a long time ago that people like that don't have the brains to understand how bad they are. I just realize that I need to be nice to them any way.

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    It makes for a great story!!!

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    Some people just need to think they know something,
    and others really know everything about a subject in
    this case sewing, life, and how to treat people with respect.
    Your a kind person indeed, have a blesses day!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buckeye Rose
    I am afraid you handled it with much more grace than I ever could have. Well done!
    "DITTO" I would NOT have been as polite. I would have shown her the door as soon as soon as she made her first comment. ANY quilt is beautiful, especially if it is made with LOVE !!!

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    You are a person of restraint. I probably would have opened the door and booted her out! Tell your friend this is a branch of her family tree she might want to lop off!

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    Have you noticed that those that really know a lot about something - know that they don't know EVERYTHING about the subject -

    And sometimes those that know little or nothing about a topic, seem to have the most and loudest opinions?

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    Bravo! Well done.

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    Wow! What a little spoiled brat ... not to mention rude, crude and uncouth! Geeeeezzzzzzzz ...

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    I know exactly what I would have done. After the first few rude remarks I would have said I've heard of the quilt police but didn't know there was a quilt b__ch. You must be the queen of that group. She could leave in a huff or apologize.

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    What a horrid young woman! You handled it beautifully...much better than I would have. Bless you and I hope that your young quilting friend will learn lots from you, including how to handle idiots. :thumbup:

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    Bravo, well done!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tjradj
    LMAO. I need some of your patience and tact. I hope your friend sees that you are her friend, and her cousin is NOT!
    I 2nd that and high 5! :thumbup:

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    Quote Originally Posted by BellaBoo
    I know exactly what I would have done. After the first few rude remarks I would have said I've heard of the quilt police but didn't know there was a quilt b__ch. You must be the queen of that group. She could leave in a huff or apologize.
    Well now we know that in addition to quilt police there are quilt b__tches out there. Lock your doors.

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    wow..and to have never done a quilt...she is NOT the quilt police..they DO make quilts and no what they are talking about...she was just an ARSE.....

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